Hi all, sorry to bother you guys with my problems but im kinda at my wits end here and I would appreciate any insites you have. My situation is this. About 3 months back I did the stupidest thing ever. I had met a guy on an internet chatroom and met up with him. This was the first time Ive ever done anything like this. I met him at his hotel room and we both gave each other head and then I let him give me anal with a condom. I didnt ask him what his hiv status was. As far as I know the condom remained in tact and he was only in me a few minutes and he came in the condom. I recently went for a hiv elisa blood test at 7 weeks and it came back negative. But during the week I was waiting to get my test back I started getting symptoms like, diarrea, weight loss, white tounge, etc. I am really getting freaked out now because Im fearing the test might have been wrong. My question is how reliable is the elisa test at 7 weeks? and do I have to worry? and can those symptoms be something else? I have read countless things that say symptoms are no indicator and that you shouldnt look up symptoms on the net because that can cause stress and symptoms to arise. Please any feedback would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Listen, I would be negligent if I suggested you have nothing to worry about. However, if you are sure the condom didn't break and that he didn't ejaculate inside you, then I think you're OK. Oral sex, as you've read here before, has a pretty low risk for transmission. You suggested that the event was "about three months back". This would be the perfect time to get re-tested and know for sure.The three month test is generally considered the best time to be tested.

Now, how does one hook up on the internet, meet them in their hotel room, and not freak out. My own nervousness would never allow me to have an erection much less have sex. Too scary for me! Please meet people in the normal places, OK? chris

thanks alot for your quick reply chris, I think the condom did remain in tact but he did *** inside the condom, so if it didnt hold up I could be infected. like I said i was tested at 7 weeks and it was negative, so i guess thats a good start, but im still freaking out. im am truly scared and dont know what to do.

First of all you are doing the right thing; you were tested and the test was negative. Second, you have come here to ask those important questions. Now, the third thing you need to do is to get tested one more time and, since this is the three month mark, this is a good time to do just that.
I think it is good that the Elisa test you took initially was negative. But you need to rest your mind. Remember, Buddha says that, the more you push something away, the more you own it. Therefore, let you heart and mind be still. AND, keep us posted. chris

Thanks for all your support Chris. I had a good break through tonight. I actually went on the site where I met the guy I had the thing with. Suprisingly he was online because I havent been able to find him ever since that night. So,I went and talked to him at the hotel he stays at when hes up this way. He told me he was clean and was just tested in early August and it came back negative. he said if he even though he was pos that he wouldnt have gone thru with it and he would have been up front with me. He also said he has a gf that he lives with and he wouldnt mess with anyone elses life like that. So after tonight I feel alot better. (combo of your input and the conversation with him along with my neg 7 week elisa test) So thanks for all your help. I am still going to get another test to make sure though. We even exchanged phone#s so I can tell him how it went. So I think thats a real good sign that hes telling the truth. Well Im gonna try to get some rest. Let me know what you think ok. Thanks again for everything.