I am so angry and frustrated and annoyed, (ETC!) about looking in the mirror and only seeing fat! Will it always be this way??? I know rationally that I am at a healthy weight for my height. But I just want to vaccuum out my hips, stomach and thighs! Why can't I just be happy with myself!!! This disorder makes me so angry! NO matter what I eat I am still seeing this huge cow in the mirror!
Does anyone out there have the ability and know-how to overcome these distorted images??? Please let me know how!

I can't tell you exactly how to get better~I will tell you with help and time things do get better. Try talking to someone you trust that can help you.
Lily

Kendy,

I wish I knew what to tell you.... I have the same problem all I see and think about is my fat ..sigh In fact, I exhaust myself worrying about it.

I can, at least, tell you that you are not alone

Rachel

Going for a week without looking at the scales and only looking in the mirror briefly, might get your mind off it...

thanks for the advice or for just realating everyone. I know there is no quick easy answer.. but i still wish there was one! :-)

my therapist had suggested i put a sheet over the mirror for a while but I can't imagine going out not knowing what i look like. has anyone tried this?

Hello!

One suggestion that I think has helped me, is to stop looking in the mirror so much. It is hard, but just get dressed, check yourself out once in the mirror before you go, then undress when you are ready for bed and just hop into bed.

It's not necessary to stare at every little flaw that you have. The more you stare, the more you'll see the flaws. I find that the less I look in the mirror, the more often I am surprised at the good qualities of my body.

It's a weird feeling as it really takes the edge off of the obsessiveness!

Love,
Mary

Kendy,

I know exactly what you are going through. I used to way 295 pounds and now even though I am around 180 I still cannot ever look in a mirror without thinking about how fat I look and if I could only look like brad pitt or tom cruise. I struggle every day with my weight, with food and especially with the way I look. My only suggestion is to find things in life that you love to do more than anything else and focus on that rather than on how you look. I know that sounds really trite and let me tell you I know how hard that is...sometimes I feel just plain schizophrenic because one minute I will be happy just listening to music and the next I will be beating myself up trying to figure out why I am so fat. I just try to capture that one moment of happiness I have when I am enjoying time with friends or reading a good book and then I try and transfer that to the moments when I am feeling like Shamu the whale. I haven't discovered how this obsession will end but I do know that I have to try and figure out ways that work for me and when it all comes down to it...enjoying life can turn out to be so much more fun than staring in a mirror because most people don't see the flaws that we see in ourselves and we are definitley (to sound cliche) our own worst enemy. I wish you much luck and remember if you need any help just ask!

Peeka Boo