Lastnight my boyfriend had about 5 glasses of wine. We were at my parents house and he needed to relax. The night went great. When we left he was still a little tipsy and was being goofy and sooo loving. He was starting to be too silly kissing me while I was driving home, so I pushed him off....Rejection.

The set off a serious mood swing. He threw a fit. When he did come to the bedroom to talk he kept saying that he's crazy and that he wasnt sure if I'd stay with him. He told me that everything that went wrong in his life he caused and that he didnt ever think he be normal again...that his brain wasnt wired right. Now I didnt know what to say except he was being silly. I suffer from depression and PTSD so I sort of understood, but I don't even know what to do for myself when I get like that let alone him. He refuses to go to a therapist because he thinks it will harm his career. He just wants to take his Zoloft and be done with it Quote "I'm gonna take it or we won't survive". I promised him I would be by his side and that we'd get through it together, but he's so worried I'm going to leave him (that's another story....much baggage) What do I do? How can I convince him to talk to someone? He can't bottle this up just to let it all out when he drinks.

Well, for starters, he needs to a) quit drinking or b) quit the Zoloft. It's one or the other. He can't use both, it doesn't work. One is an antidepressant and one is a depressant. Guess which one wins in the end? The alcohol (depressant). And, if he keeps doing it, he'll be more depressed and moody. Trust me, I tried drinking with meds many years ago, not a pretty sight. Also, him not taking his meds one day/night so he can drink, is bad, too. Been there, done that, ended up suicidal. He may not notice the effect right away, but when he does, it will hit like a ton of bricks.

He hasnt been taking Zoloft but he wants to start taking it again. Also, the drinking is weird. He only gets like that on Liquor and Wine....with beer he's fine. I told him it was the alcohol talking since it was a depressant.

Yeah, I know a couple of people that can't drink liquor because it makes them mean or violent. But, if he goes on the Zoloft, he really needs to stop all alcohol (beer, wine, liquor, etc.) Does he know that your not supposed to drink with them?

I don't think he does, I am actually trying to get him to not take the Zoloft. He wasnt on it when I met him and I don't want him to change. He says he's really smiley and stuff, but I want the real him...the one I fell in love with. I just want him to talk to someone. Why take the meds if your not going to get therapy too?

I agree, he should probably see someone. Meds are good, but they just stabilize you. They don't get rid of your problems. If they did, there would be no need for therapists and they probably wouldn't even exist.

There was a time when I thought the same way you did. Of course, its never good to drink when on medication, but the Zoloft may help him in ways that you may not know about. I have been on it for a couple of yers now along with other meds. I also wasnt on them when I met my husband. I takes a while for the body to get used to antidepressants and making him not take them may not bve the best thing for him. Since he seems to have mood swings, (like I do) the Zoloft levels him out. It is also used to treat anxiety which he may act out as a fit. I have to admit, im havent seen a therapist in a couple of months. SOmetimes I go through this thing where I believe I dont need therapy or meds to make me normal when in fact, my brain and body don't function "normally" as they once did. Just as a suggestion, be there when he talks to his Dr. so you are also able to give input on his reaction to the meds and his all around behavior. I know I hate to tell my Dr. everything. For some reason I get moody and think its none of his business. When someone else gives their poiny of view, it helps the Dr. better understand the problem.

I know you don't want him to change sugar and he is still the same person. But something is going on with him that he can't control and unfortunately sweety, you can't either. Just be there for him if it is a healthy situation for you....k? Good luck and try to hang in there.

He won't go see a doctor, but I won't say anything about not wanting him on the meds