Today I just wanted to walk from my job. To start with I found out that you cant trust workmates to confide in, it proves that workmates can't be true friends, so in future I wont say anything to them. To top it all my boss came to me and said that my work output was inefficient for last week, and he compared me with one of my colleagues which made me feel like ****!

I've been working for the company for over four years now, and for the first two I was praised for my work, but all that stopped when they gave the position of supervisor to someone who had only worked there for 16 months, the position I feel I should have been given. I remember the day, they called me to the office and gave me praise for all the hardwork I had done, this is it I thought! They're gonna give a promotion!(because there had been talk of the need for a supervisor in my department) After praising me for a good ten minutes, they dropped the bombshell ''We dont want to loose you but we've given the job to Dxxx because we feel he's a stronger person!'' Ever since this incident I have felt nothing but hate for the company, and I admit that I am not as efficient a worker as I was in the first two years of employment, because I feel so unappreciated and demoralised.

I'm sorry to go on but I have to vent somewhere.

You absolutely right you can't confide in coworkers. Every word you say will be reported and meaning you don't even think of giving will be giving. You can confide here if you don't have any other outlet. Be careful especially if they try to provoke you to say something negative than they will just go and report it for sure.
What you going through happenes all the time, it is not just your company. I wish you keep doing as good job as before so at least you'd be able to keep job you have and don't have troubles.
I was in cituation were I was intentionally given wrong iformation from the "super" for 4.5 years in addition to everything else and nothing I could of done, I was trapped. She actually said that she was doing it to help another person to be promoted. Compare to that your cituation is a heaven.

hey therag,

i'm sorry you're having a bad day today! i know how you feel, believe me. i, lie you, don't have anybody at work to talk to anymore, since my good friend was "let go."

galinaqt is right, as well.

you found out the hard way (like that friend of mine did)--not to confide in co-workers about your deepest life issues. i know it's difficult not to, since we spend most of our lives at work, for heaven's sake, but no....never, ever, ever...you never know when or how things will come back to haunt you, so to speak, because some people are not as nice as we think they are, and words spread quickly...and those not so nice people can't wait to "get" someone. sometimes i believe they have no lives of their won, no other diversion, no "entertainment" of their own...

and as for you not getting the promotion you wanted, stop thinking about it!!!!! it's in the past. start from here on. don't look back, and try not to hate them so much, since you know you're not hurting anyone but yourself by doing that. don't cling to the negative feelings, therag...since you may wake up one morning and dread going in to work...

listen, try to do the best you can from now on (i know i'm repeating myself here), and believe that something better is around the corner. i don't know if you believe in anything, if you're religious, spiritual, etc., but maybe that saying is true: when one door closes, g-d opens up another. you don't know. nobody knows. keep the faith. keep going. let go of the bitterness little by little. i know i may sound like i dont know what i'm talking about, but i have seen situations like yours, therag.... and i've seen things turn around for the best.

and keep venting! :) we're rooting for you, "bloke."

To tell the truth those people are far from the worst. They at least call you in there office and tell you something positive about your job. Any other place they would assign who they want and don't give a s... who thinks what.
Best of all for you still do good job and have good relationship since you never know. If you decide to change the job, you need references. If another place not work out you may want to get back.
I spent many years taking new programming language in college and manager knew that but when chance came he gave it to 3 people who doesn't know this language at all.
I was friendly with one of the managers and when she felt my unhappiness she said: "It is management decision.These people are very smart, hard working, have great verbal skills and so on ..".
2 of those people were really sharp and one I would say questionable, they ended up asking me for help at first. I still keep studying since managers coming and going and I am doing it for myself and not for them.
As long as I could still keep my job and pay the bills I could swallow it, could be so much worse.

have to agree with all ****** i had co-workers steal my ideas right in front of me and laugh about it, been overlooked for a promotion that wa s mine since i had the most experience and had been there the longest 20 years. boss then gave the other girl a $5 and hour raise and told me to train her since she knew nothing about the job and i was better qualified. used to tell thee gossip mongers that if they didn't know anything about someone they made stuff up to feel like they did. no lives outside of work so they created drama everywhere they went. was finally injured on the job in May and haven't heard from one of them . not even a $.99 card. so i have fallen off the face of the earth in their eyes. real nice after 20 years of loyal service and traing everyone ine there to be the best. it's brutal everywhere you go. iused to joke in the morning and say wait i don't have my shield on yet. a bunch of lying, back stabbing, clicks that were all into themselves.:mad:

ICC,
Believe me you still have it better in US than in other countries.
Talking from experience. Can't choose profession which is suitable for you, no room for mistake, not a chance to knock another door if things doesn't work out and job doesn't give you basic things, people openly unfriendly, prejiduces and cruel.