My Boyfriend has told me he has a heart murmur, and that he has been to see his doctor who told him he needs to stop doing so much and take it easy. Does this sound like a likley diagnosis?? i have been looking on the internet for Prevention methods/treatments ect for Heart Murmurs and i have found no where saying that 'rest' is a prevention method. He is not on any kind of medication or anyhting that i know of but he said the murmur is off the chart - surely if it was bad somethig would be done about it. It all seems a bit strange, im worried he is hiding something from me!! please help if you know anything about heart murmurs! Thank you

A Heart Murmur usually requires treatment and investigative procedures to see what is causing the Murmur and whether the Heart is functioning properly and efficently.

Your right a Doctor would not tell your boyfriend to "rest" and take it easy without looking more into the cause of his Heart Murmur. Yes your boyfriend would need to take things easy but that wouldn't be the end of it as I've mentioned above.

I think you should speak to your boyfriends parents. Tell them what he told you and whether this is true or not. They can and will give you more information.

I think you should speak to your boyfriends parents. Tell them what he told you and whether this is true or not. They can and will give you more information.


not a good idea......you're invading his privacy....how do you know his parents even know?

Well parents are usually aware of a Heart Condition and surely their son would of mentioned it to them incase he is in their company and he has a "funny turn" or incase it is inheretied. It was just a idea anyway.

well maybe he hasn't told his parents because he didn't want to worry them.......I think talking to his parents behind his back is overstepping your bounds any way you look at it.

Yes it could be overstepping his bounds but if he is a teenager then his parents will know and as his girlfriend she has a right to know incase she is out somewhere with him and he collapses and medical attention is required urgently. If she doesn't know what is wrong with him and the above scenario were to happen, the paramedics would have trouble stabelising him.

I only meant it in this way not in any other way. Health and life comes first after all.

Yes it could be overstepping his bounds but if he is a teenager then his parents will know and as his girlfriend she has a right to know incase she is out somewhere with him and he collapses and medical attention is required urgently. If she doesn't know what is wrong with him and the above scenario were to happen, the paramedics would have trouble stabelising him.

I only meant it in this way not in any other way. Health and life comes first after all.

I saw no indication from the initial post that he was a teenager and even so his girlfriend is not privy to his medical history......

Neither did I which is why I presumed he was a teenager. And as I mentioned before, if he does have a Hear condition and possibly a serious once at that, then his girlfriend will need to know what signs to look out for if he requires medical attention. It's only common sense that she needs to know what signs to look out for incase he collapses due to Arterial Fibrilation or whatever else could occur.

Neither did I which is why I presumed he was a teenager. And as I mentioned before, if he does have a Hear condition and possibly a serious once at that, then his girlfriend will need to know what signs to look out for if he requires medical attention. It's only common sense that she needs to know what signs to look out for incase he collapses due to Arterial Fibrilation or whatever else could occur.

I still don't understand why you would presume/assume anything about his age.....and either way common sense would dictate that if he has any type of medical emergency that she would call 911......again she is not entitled to his personal medical information just because she's dating him....:rolleyes:

Why are you trying to be argumentative Rosequartz? I am simply stating from my perspective that I would want to know if something was wrong with my partner incase a situation should arise where help was needed. A lot of young people nowadays, end up in a situation where help is required and because there b/f says they are fine, they believe in and the situation gets out of hand. Preventative measures is what counts. She may also need to know what things her partner can and cannot do incase this will aggrevate his heart condition. If she did something to aggrevate his condition she would blame herself. That is why she needs to know not for any other reasons about breaching his privacy. The simple fact is she needs to know.

I've said my piece and I'm not even going to bother replying again because you're just trying to be argumentative and dictate everything I say. This is not a discussion between us it is for the poster of this thread.

I would talk to your boy friend. Tell him you are worried about him. Ask him did the dr. schedule any follow up tests for him. See what happens.