Hi am new to this site but have joined to try and get some support from anyone who has been through or is going through what I am. My 7 year old nephew was killed in a hit and run 6 weeks ago and I am a mess. Just cannot get my head around this tragedy. Please help. Elaine xx

Hi Elaine

I am so sorry to read of your loss, please know your not alone in your pain..am new here also and being able to post with people who understand is such a help.....my mum died also 13 days ago, and i miss her so much.

Anytime u want to talk

Meeshy
xx

Hello Elaine.

I'm so very sad for your loss. It's always a tradgedy when little ones pass and it's never easy to deal with.

Are you getting proper counselling for this at the moment? If you're a mess emotionally, it's always best to get help if you can.

Dear Meeshy, thank you for your condolences, my heart goes out to you too. I have dealt with death before in our family, but this is different. Kyle was only 7 and he has been taken from us because of someone elses actions, I think that is why it is so very difficult to accept. I send you a big hug to help you get through each day. Elaine x x

Dear Danielm, thank you for your response. I am in the process of trying to arrange some counselling through the Family Liaison Police Officer who was assisgned to our case. Thought if I could get some support through this site it would keep me going until the police counselling starts. Thanks again for replying. Best wishes Elaine x x

Oh sweetie I am so sorry. I'm sending a big hug your way. What a terrible thing to have happen. I am praying for you and your family. Just know that we are here for you anytime you need to talk. I am dealing with the loss of my Mom but there is no way that can compare to the loss of a child and under such terrible circumstances.

Please keep in touch on this board and let us know how you are doing, we all care!:angel:

Hi 'Robinbird', thank you so much for your reply and I am so sorry to hear you are dealing with the loss of your mum. On the day we buried our Kyle my gran died suddenly and I cannot grieve for her cos I am still trying to deal with the loss of my beautiful sweet nephew. I am hoping to get to see my doctor tomorrow to get some help. Will keep you posted and please post me if you need a chat. Lots of love and strength to you. Elaine x x x

I am so, so sorry to hear of your loss. I come to this site often, as I post on the fibromyalgia area and so deeply feel the pain of loss (my dad 3 years ago and my 27 year old brother 12 years ago.) It still hurts and I can't even imagine losing a little one and also that way. There are so many wonderful people here who will support you and hold you in their hearts and prayers. I certainly will as well. Hugs to you and your family. Annie

Dear Annie, thank you so much for your reply. I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your father and brother. My gran died on the day of my nephews funeral and I havent grieved for her. All my thoughts are tied up with the devastation of losing Kyle in such tragic circumstances. My gran was 85 she has lived her life but our Kyle hadnt really started. I am off to see the doctor this week for some anti depressants and to find out if there are any groups I can go to for families of hit and run victims. I send you lots of strength and love and if you need to chat I am here. Best wishes Elaine x x

My heart goes out to you having to suffer such a loss. I lost my mum about a week and a half ago so am also grieving but to lose a young boy because of someone elses mindless actions is terrible.

I hope that your doctor gives you some tablets to keep you going through this horrific ordeal.

I hope that the police caught the driver!!!!

My thoughts are with you,
Emma

Thanks Emma for you reply. My heart goes out to you dealing with the loss of your loved one. My gran died on the day we buried my nephew and I cannot grieve for her, my emotions are all tied to Kyle. The police did catch the driver 8 days after the incident. He is in court next month, but the law in this country can only give a max of 5 years (they only serve 2.5) in prison if infact he does go to prison. I cannot get my head around the fact someone could hit a child head on and drive off knowing full well what they have done, he left him dying in the road. It is just so horrendous and we live with it every day. I am sorry to be 'going on' but it is all still so unbelievable, I wake up in the morning expecting it to be a bad dream, then I realise its true.
Sending you strength and support to get through your grief. Lots of love Elaine x

I am with you, my 10 year old niece passed away last Dec 21st. She had an undiagnosed form of Muscualr Dystrophy. I was her PCA for a year, and would get her up and out of bed and ready for school every morning, and then wake her up and put her to sleep on the weekends. Anyways she had a collapsed lung and severe spinal problems which were to be operated on, but she had to go through months of therapy before hand. She was to be put on a BiPap machine every night while a nurse stayed with her overnight. When she first started they only had a nurse for Tues. nights so she would only get it on Tues. The first week they did it they did not hook it up correctly, the second week, it was done right, and I quess it can cause some fluid break-up issues and she let go of a ball of phlegm which blocked her airway. The nurse did nothing except wake up my sister and brother-in-law, at which time it was pretty much already to late. EMS came and worked on her for about 10 minutes prior to going to the Hosp. they called her upon arrival. I remember the feeling when I received the call only about 15 minutes after she had passed, I was devastated. I went to be with my sister and we all went to the hospital and stayed by her side for hours. She looked so peacful for the first time in ten years. She was finally at rest and she didn't hurt anymore. The pain does not go away totally. It will however get a little better, but then, you'll get a smell, or a song, or another little child that resembles the one you lost, and the eyes well up.

The best thing you can do to help with some of the pain is to talk about him, talk to him, and visit his resting place.

I am sorry for your loss. Me he rest in peace.

Thank you for your response. I am so very sorry to hear about your niece, it is so difficult to cope with the loss of a child and I send you strength and courage to get through each day. I went to see my doctor yesterday who has given me the name and address of a support group in my area where we can go as a family to receive counselling. I do feel a tiny bit better to be doing something positive. Also my eldest daughter who is ten has really been struggling to accept what has happened and is extremely angry towards the driver who hit my nephew. The doctor says this group will help her come to terms with things, which is a big relief.
If you need to talk about your tragic loss I am her for you. Elaine x

I just want to say I'm sorry for your loss and to everyone one else.Stay on here it really does help.I wish you and your family well.

I'm so sorry for your loss - I saw this on the news. What an absolute tragedy. I just wanted to say what a gorgeous little boy Kyle was and I really hope you find the inner strength to cope with his untimely passing. Also, condolences on the loss of your Grandmother. If ever you need to talk... much love. Kath xx

Thank you so much Kath for your response. Kyle was absolutely gorgeous, so happy with such a cheeky smile and infectious giggle. Sometimes I feel so guilty that I am suffering because my loss is tiny compared to the people who saw him every day and I dont know what to do to help them through this dreadful time. Being on this site has helped me and I have been in touch with a group called CRUSE (through my gp) who specialise in bereavement support. I am hoping this will also help to try and bring some sort of normality back to our lives, then maybe once I am a little stronger I can be more help to those around me. Fingers crossed.
Love Elaine x