Hello all,

I am obsessed with body image and cannot make my boyfriend understand. I am 28 years old and am so scared approaching my 30's that my metabolism will slow down. I work out a lot and eat as healthy as I could but I have weeks where I binge and or or have major sweet cravings I cannot control. When I eat bad I am so upset, I want to hide in the house, I don't want to go anywhere.
My boyfriend tells me I am too thin, meanwhile he will say so and so is not thin and in my opinion they are so much thinner than I so I get so scared that he really thinks I am fat. I am constantly comparing myself to others and I just want to be able to accept myself for who I am and be happy this is torturing.
It takes ne forever to decide what to order in a restaurant. I hate this

hi, we all get scared and paranoid about what we look like and our body shapes. and that's what it is 'paranoia' we live in a world where the media dictate what women should look like. everywhere we go there are images of beautiful thin women. i understand that some days are worse than others but try and think what you'd say to your friend if she was voicing the same worries, what would your advice be to her? or to me? this is the best way of finding a positive action step, because even though i'm in similar position to you i can tell you that there is no doubt you are beautiful. there is also no doubt that your boyfriend loves you AND thinks your beautiful. you must remind yourself that he is with you for many reasons but that includes being physicaly attracted to you. if you are with someone who trulycares for you it should make no difference if your weight or shape fluctuates. of course your body cahnges in your 3o's but for gos sake itsnot the end of life! just the beginning! if your worried about your metabilism slowing then make sure you stick to small meals often as opposed to big ones. this makes your metabilism speed up. also regular exercise, sounds like a cliche but it is the key!!! the more healthy you feel, loosing bad toxins etc the mre positive you will feel about your body. please remember that if you starve your body you will in fact GAIN weight. this is coz your body reacts to not having food and actually slows down it's metabilism.
try to stop thinking about what other people look like. focus on being the person ypou want to be, and hopefully by craeting a healthy lifestyle you will also be happy with your figure.
go for it, promise you can do it
Beth xx