Neleah
11-11-2006, 05:21 PM
I am sure this question has been asked before, but I really want to get all the information you might have.
My ex has been in an episode for almost four month now. We talk on and off (he is with someone else now), but hadn't talked much lately because I was not doing too well with that new woman. But I told him to call me when he needs me. He called me Friday after four weeks of not hearing from him to let me know that he crashed a few days earlier. He had felt the depression coming on and then one day was severely suicidal with a gun in the house...The next day he was manic high again. When we talked he sounded ok, but there was a lot of talk about how he now knows why and he can handle it now - a sign (among others) that he is still far from stable...He did admit to being bipolar, but thinks he can handle it. He can't. And I am not sure for how long he will admit to it because he has done that before and then was not bipolar anymore (when manic).
Ok, today we IMed and I asked him: "If I found a pdoc you could go to for free, would you go?" He gave me his word that he would. I asked if he would allow me to talk to the pdoc as well and he said of course. I would pay for it, but I can't, so I need information about free or cheap mental health care. I know that it's looking bleak, but perhaps someone has an idea. His state has been so unpredictable and after that day, I fear for his safety. One problem is that he does not want to go on medication, but I at least want to get him to a psychiatrist and get input from a professional. He trusts my judgment, but perhaps the pdoc can take this a step further. It's high time.
Any information/experience/reply would be most appreciated!
:wave:
PS: Today, after a lot of talk and reassurance, he agreed to tell his parents. I told him that if he doesn't, I will. I understand his reluctance (they have been far from supportive), but I want them to lock the bloody gun away and keep an eye on him. What a mess...:dizzy:
My ex has been in an episode for almost four month now. We talk on and off (he is with someone else now), but hadn't talked much lately because I was not doing too well with that new woman. But I told him to call me when he needs me. He called me Friday after four weeks of not hearing from him to let me know that he crashed a few days earlier. He had felt the depression coming on and then one day was severely suicidal with a gun in the house...The next day he was manic high again. When we talked he sounded ok, but there was a lot of talk about how he now knows why and he can handle it now - a sign (among others) that he is still far from stable...He did admit to being bipolar, but thinks he can handle it. He can't. And I am not sure for how long he will admit to it because he has done that before and then was not bipolar anymore (when manic).
Ok, today we IMed and I asked him: "If I found a pdoc you could go to for free, would you go?" He gave me his word that he would. I asked if he would allow me to talk to the pdoc as well and he said of course. I would pay for it, but I can't, so I need information about free or cheap mental health care. I know that it's looking bleak, but perhaps someone has an idea. His state has been so unpredictable and after that day, I fear for his safety. One problem is that he does not want to go on medication, but I at least want to get him to a psychiatrist and get input from a professional. He trusts my judgment, but perhaps the pdoc can take this a step further. It's high time.
Any information/experience/reply would be most appreciated!
:wave:
PS: Today, after a lot of talk and reassurance, he agreed to tell his parents. I told him that if he doesn't, I will. I understand his reluctance (they have been far from supportive), but I want them to lock the bloody gun away and keep an eye on him. What a mess...:dizzy:
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mudhound
11-11-2006, 09:49 PM
Oh what a mess. I'd chech with the local health dept 1st.
Then, I would most likly try the yellow pages.
3rd some larger churches maitain counslers that have some experence with mental illnesses. My pastor has a master's degree in Pysh. Go figure.
Hope this helps leads you in some way.
Then, I would most likly try the yellow pages.
3rd some larger churches maitain counslers that have some experence with mental illnesses. My pastor has a master's degree in Pysh. Go figure.
Hope this helps leads you in some way.
LAP18
11-12-2006, 06:02 AM
call social services. They will assign him a doctor.
mudhound
11-12-2006, 07:08 AM
Yes to the social services. I think in my area they are called DHS or dept of human services.
Hope this info gets you started
Hope this info gets you started
TaterbugTwins
11-12-2006, 01:54 PM
You can also call the psych ward at your local hospital, or any crisis intervention line.
Neleah
11-12-2006, 04:26 PM
Thank you all! I have written this all down and will make phone calls tomorrow. If anyone knows anything else, please let me know! Perhaps this general topic would be worth a sticky? I have a support group meeting tomorrow and will ask people there, too.
I have another question: he does not have health insurance at the moment. He has not yet been officially diagnosed with bp (only with ADHD). If he went to see a doc now and got a diagnosis, would he have to reveal that when he tries to get health insurance? Would they find out and it gets all difficult to get insurance?
Four months of frantic research and still so many questions. He does not want to go on meds. What to do? He cycles all over the place currently, this woman does not help one bit, I am so worried and trying to keep myself together in the meantime, I miss him, but first of all I don't want him to spiral down further. Everything he is saying about changes in his life (career, moving out again, etc.) I have heard before and he was in a better state then - nothing happened. It is all getting worse and he does not want to go on meds. It is so tricky to talk to him because he said yesterday that he feels that I am saying that he is crazy. I convinced him that this is not so. But this is getting so scary...Ok, taking a deep breath...one step at a time...:dizzy:
I have another question: he does not have health insurance at the moment. He has not yet been officially diagnosed with bp (only with ADHD). If he went to see a doc now and got a diagnosis, would he have to reveal that when he tries to get health insurance? Would they find out and it gets all difficult to get insurance?
Four months of frantic research and still so many questions. He does not want to go on meds. What to do? He cycles all over the place currently, this woman does not help one bit, I am so worried and trying to keep myself together in the meantime, I miss him, but first of all I don't want him to spiral down further. Everything he is saying about changes in his life (career, moving out again, etc.) I have heard before and he was in a better state then - nothing happened. It is all getting worse and he does not want to go on meds. It is so tricky to talk to him because he said yesterday that he feels that I am saying that he is crazy. I convinced him that this is not so. But this is getting so scary...Ok, taking a deep breath...one step at a time...:dizzy: