so, do you guys feel like the most important people in your life don't care what you are going thru? i do! especially my mom. i know i am a grown adult, but i need her to care about this and talk to me about it. she knows what a hard time i'm having, and i always have to call her to talk, her excuse is she doesn't know if i'm busy or not, so she lets me call. what if i had cancer? would she call then, heck yes! this is just as bad. i feel people think this isn't as big a deal as it is and we should just eat and shut up about it, or that we are doing this for attention and for the world to revolve around us, it is far from the truth, but if we had any other disease they'd care and ask how they could help. have any of you experienced this? i need advice because i'm ready to tell her off, and she has always been one of my dearest friends!! take care love case

hey case
i no what you mean - though when looking back and asking my family members about what they thought about me being sick they said they felt powerless and didnt no what else to say to me as it seemed as though iwasnt listening to them anyway. i no what they mean though - i was so off in my own world and felt everyone was against me but they werent - they just didnt no how to relieve my pain and give me the right advice...
take care case - i care for you!!
chookie

Yes! Oh, did you bring up a good topic. :eek: This is such a good topic. Why do we all have moms that are like this? So very true. Hmmp? :( I just dunno. It is a good question.

I could write a lot on this topic but I had better not get started. It is just best I don't even go there.......

Coffeegirl

YES! I totally agree. The first thing my mom did when she found out how much weight I had lost was buy me smaller clothes! She did not care to address the issue. My whole family acted as if nothing was wrong. I remember my therapist at the time had to practically slap my mom upside the head to convince her that I was seriously ill and needed inpatient treatment. I still feel like nobody really cares at times. Hang in there...WE care!!!

Also, maybe the best way to confront your mom would be to give her a call or sit her down sometime (whatever you are more comfortable with). Write down exactly what you want her to know. Say something like, "I am having a difficult time with this right now, and I could really use your support." Tell her specifically what she could do to help because, chances are, she may WANT to help but does not how. Hope this helps! Good luck! -Kelley

What a great idea Kelly. :) Then to write 'these are ways 'I feel' you could help me'...... a)
b)


etc., and then elaborate as to why those reasons would mean a lot for her to help you out. She will then feel more apt to want to help you because she will then feel more needed as a parent, and in her position to where she should be- being your mom; loving and caring for you.

That is such a good idea!

Hang in there Case~

Coffeegirl

well, at least i'm not the only one who feels like this, and that is not a good thing, but i guess people just don't know what to do for us, so i will take your guys' advice and just tell her what i need which is (you guys will be my practice o.k.?) a(more phone calls asking me if i'm eating enough, and how i feel about having to do that b)offering to come for a visit to spend time with me and her grandkids c)and basically just to see how i am physically and mentally, i mean if i knew my kid had an ed which she does cuz we talk about it a lot, i would be very concerned for her and made sure she was not on the verge of death or something. it has been a whole week since i called her, i always call, maybe she really doesn't want to hear from me, maybe all i do is sound like a broken record, saying i want to change and then don't. but if she only knew how hard i am trying, i've been eating breakfast, lunch, and dinner, which is way better than a month ago, and i only weigh myself every week, but i will never be recovered until i go to therapy and learn why i have this and how i go about fixing it, so anyways thanks for being my mom tonite(HA!) love case how are all of you????

hey case
i have finally finished uni for the year, yeay!!
i no what you mean about mums, i wish i could talk openly to my mum about how im feeling...even though we live together and are really close i dont think she has ever really got what im going through...we can all be your surrigant mothers!!
always here for you case - you ask the questions and ill do my best to answer
take care
chookie