Ok, this is a little bit weird for me, seeing as I'm a average (alright, I'm not really average) 13 year old girl from Canada, and I'm posting a message on a site that is meant for much older people than me. But I need some help. My little sister, 11 years old, had ADD. She has a lot of trouble in school, and it kills me to think that everybody makes fun of her all the time, and I know they do. The thing is that they have nothing to be proud of...but my sister does, and that's another thing that I know. Sometimes, I get really frusterated with her...and I can't help it. I'll yell really loud, or even tell her that I hate her. The thing is that I don't mean it one bit, and sometimes I can't control myself. There is no reason for me to be yelling. My little sister is an amazing girl. She may not be a doctor, or a professor, but she is going to be famous. She is one of the most creative people I know...probably the most creative. I love her soooo much. I just can't yell at her anymore. I need some help..has anyone gone through anything similiar in their life? I know I'm just a young kid, but I need an adults opinion.
Some help would be really appreciated.
Thanks,
Nicki.

Nicki,

God Bless You, sweetie. I have to agree you're not average - you have *got* to be one of the sweetest, most loving sisters that I've ever had the pleasure of "talking" to!

Truthfully, Nicki, don't beat yourself up. I don't think there is a sibling alive who doesn't get frustrated with their brothers/sisters. It is the way things are. And brothers or sisters that have ADD can be even more irritating. I admire that you want to stop yelling. Try to take deep breaths when your sister drives you crazy. Count to 10. Leave the room. Come back and deal with her when you are calmer.

But, honey, you're human and you're going to mess up. Take a breath and tell your sister that you're sorry. And then, let it go.

You are doing your best and that's all any of us can do.

Again, God Bless You. I wish you all the best that life has to offer!

Hi There..
Thank You so much for answering to my message. It really gave me hope to think that someone out there is on my side. I really appreciate all your help. Still, I think it's amazing that someone can call me sweet, when I yell at my sister who can't really help what she does. No - God Bless You. By the way you are one of the the most thoughtful and sweet adults I've met so far. God Bless You..Because you had the heart to answer to my email, and to give me some hope for my sister, my life, and for the future.

With A Lot Of Love,
Nicki

Nicki, just because you yell at your sister doesn't mean your a bad person. Whether or not she has ADD, its normal for siblings to fight and argue, i myself am 15 with ADD and my sister is 12 with ADHD, my youngest sister has yet to discover if she has it or not, but i don't expect them to take it lightly on me, nor do they expect me to take it lightly on them, its a sibling thing. I, too, think it's very cool your coming on here to seek help for something you feel your doing wrong, trying to help your sister at your age is very mature.

Epeaf

im 16 with ADD and a twin brother who doesnt...he doesnt make things easy for me :mad: lol