i am really struggling

i was all fired up and had/have made some progress this week toward fuller recovery. but i feel like my husband expects that just because i am trying to move forward, i am NEVER allowed another wobbly moment
i had been great for days, then last night i said ONE ed thought out loud, and he is STILL sulking. he just sat me down for a lecture, said he doesnt want to know how i feel anymore.

am furious and just want to throw something at him. gee like i havent put up with all HIS %$^# over the years

Wow, that must be tough. All you can do is try to help him understand that NO recovery is perfect and there WILL be struggles. Let him know that you need his support through the achievements and through the struggles. It seems like he may be trying to ignore the difficulties, which explains why he does not want to hear how you feel anymore--because he does not want to hear the difficulties. He needs to realize that it simply is unrealistic for everything to go uphill with your recovery. I remember when I tried to have the "perfect" recovery, and my support system was very concerned, knowing that there is no such thing. They were right!

A true support system will be there for you through the good and the bad. Hang in there!!!

I would hit him! To be told he doesn't wanna hear how you feel anymore???? :eek: That would send me into stubborn mode and I would clam up, shut my mouth, probably slip all the way back into it and not say a word. DON'T let that happen to you.

thanks!!
i did tell him very clearly how i feel, what i need from him,what i will try to do, etc etc
he basically said he'd leave for a few weeks until i was further ahead grr.
so i went right off! no stuffing at all haha
feels like when mum died he convenietnly had a "breakdown" so was alone then too with four kids including a new baby
grr
i know i am capable with or without him, and i am DEFINITELY not recoverign FOR his sake so its not gonna sway me but man it makes me MAD