JustDave4now
12-17-2006, 09:55 AM
Is there someone you love who is suffering from something Bp related? Are they sad all the time and worried? Have you noticed maybe they don't eat enough or to much? Do they shy away and hide in the their rooms, not being social?
Do they get suddenly angry or fustrated and storm away?
If the one you love is a child, do they socialize with other children correctly? Are they timid and nervous when you get the chance to observe them? Do they compain about ilnesses, think they have fevers or other hurts but don't? Do they struggle at school or with learning?
If the one you love is a spouse, do they get fustrated real easy? Do they threaten to leave out of the blue but then just as quick change thier mind? Do they cry allot and refuse to talk about the problem? Do you think they are embarassed maybe for someone else to see? Do you think they can go alone like this or will they self distruct? are they reaching for you for help?
Don't be shy, help them, it's your obligation as one of the people that loves them to do something about it..
1st Take your medication, without it they are in seriuos pain
2nd Reach out to your doctor if something changes, before you reach for them
3rd Stop beating up on yourself, they see that, they feel the blows
4th Don't be afraid to give random hugs, Love is like a bandaid
5th Watch the drinks, as you go numb they get to feel more pain
6th Don't give up, you are an important pilliar in a family, you go the roof might.
7th Don't say your sorry to often, words are easy, prove it
8th Police yourself, If your going to fast you will run right over them
9th Understand yourself, learn and then explain it to them
10th Remember, they are suffering from BP too, they may not have it but they suffer right along with you. They will have symptoms from it, it will cause them pain, they will lose weight and a host of other things. BP is a shared illness.
Now go back and reread the top part, you will see my point...
be safe..
Do they get suddenly angry or fustrated and storm away?
If the one you love is a child, do they socialize with other children correctly? Are they timid and nervous when you get the chance to observe them? Do they compain about ilnesses, think they have fevers or other hurts but don't? Do they struggle at school or with learning?
If the one you love is a spouse, do they get fustrated real easy? Do they threaten to leave out of the blue but then just as quick change thier mind? Do they cry allot and refuse to talk about the problem? Do you think they are embarassed maybe for someone else to see? Do you think they can go alone like this or will they self distruct? are they reaching for you for help?
Don't be shy, help them, it's your obligation as one of the people that loves them to do something about it..
1st Take your medication, without it they are in seriuos pain
2nd Reach out to your doctor if something changes, before you reach for them
3rd Stop beating up on yourself, they see that, they feel the blows
4th Don't be afraid to give random hugs, Love is like a bandaid
5th Watch the drinks, as you go numb they get to feel more pain
6th Don't give up, you are an important pilliar in a family, you go the roof might.
7th Don't say your sorry to often, words are easy, prove it
8th Police yourself, If your going to fast you will run right over them
9th Understand yourself, learn and then explain it to them
10th Remember, they are suffering from BP too, they may not have it but they suffer right along with you. They will have symptoms from it, it will cause them pain, they will lose weight and a host of other things. BP is a shared illness.
Now go back and reread the top part, you will see my point...
be safe..
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mentalmom
12-17-2006, 10:39 AM
That was very nice. You sound like someone who is commited to someone you love like that. I am blessed to be married to a man who supports me with my Bipolar through the ups (not many) and downs (too many). This summer he supported me through 3 hospital stays. Truly blessed.
I like your post.
I like your post.
fizz17
12-17-2006, 05:23 PM
wow, that took my breath away. I wish my bp boyfriend would follow even a couple of those steps you suggested cos I'm still going crazy and losing myself. Thanks for your words justdave4now
Spanophile
12-18-2006, 03:01 PM
That was a great post. We with BP have a responsibility to take our meds and make every attempt to manage our condition. I know I've said and done things that were hurtful or even scary (not violent just NUTS) but at the time I had no clue what BP was and to be honest I was more scared than they were. Once you find out you are BP, it's your responsibility to try to get stable and stay stable. You must do it for yourself and for everyone around you.
alberta24
12-21-2006, 02:53 PM
that truly hit me. so powerful and true. i am coming up on a year of being dxed. i had a pretty great year, i got better, we got engaged, i felt alive for the first time in many years. my fiance is the most understanding and wonderful man in the world.
i was doing fine for the most part until last night. i stopped therapy in may and then i havent been to psychiatrist in 2 months. my medicine i have not been taking regularly. i still take it but like every other day or so. i drank too much last night and i said things that hurt him, even i am shocked at how cruel i was. and yet he forgave me instantly.
you are so right. it is my responsibility to stay well. i need to stop feeling sorry for myself and remember that he is suffering along with me. saying 'i'm sorry' all the time doesn't make up for what i do. i need to be an adult and get better not just for me but for us. i called my therapist and i am going back. thank you for reminding me of how lucky i am.
i was doing fine for the most part until last night. i stopped therapy in may and then i havent been to psychiatrist in 2 months. my medicine i have not been taking regularly. i still take it but like every other day or so. i drank too much last night and i said things that hurt him, even i am shocked at how cruel i was. and yet he forgave me instantly.
you are so right. it is my responsibility to stay well. i need to stop feeling sorry for myself and remember that he is suffering along with me. saying 'i'm sorry' all the time doesn't make up for what i do. i need to be an adult and get better not just for me but for us. i called my therapist and i am going back. thank you for reminding me of how lucky i am.