pucca_chick
12-19-2006, 01:34 PM
i was reading a post earlier and it set me of into a rage as it reminded me of what happened. it really pisses me off when you say 'im off work cos of depression', and silence befalls everyone around you and they kind of give eachother that awkward stare! the same goes for trying to explain to some people thats why im behind on everything i do, that why i dont want to go out some days, thats why i forgot to call you and so on.
i recnetly quit work because theres just too much right now, ive taken another dip, im behind on coursewoek and about to fail, im about to start therapy and im in a big self harming rut.the manager gave me a really frustrated look and despite the fact i told her it was all personal she still asked"but.....why??" with a really annoyed look. also as im only 18 i also have to deal with stupid lectures from, every adult under the sun(no offense) about how'in their day they worked 24/7', and how no one ever complained you just did it back then.
it really gets me down and magnifies everything. you cannot win. i spend all my time trying to pick myself up off the floor, get up and do what little i actually manage to do and appear so happy to everyone-yet im miserable. if they knew theyd worry alot,so thats why i try for them. yet the minute you admit the probelm and stumble a bit or take of the mask people start looking at you like your weak and stupid for not working.
i hide alot, some just dont get it. it infuriates me. they think depression is just a little blue. sometimes if i had the guts id love to scream at them "NO! im not working today because i went out last night, got totally wasted, relived sexual molestation, lay on the toilet floor for 2 hours while attempting to vomit, came home and hacked myself with a razor balde and scalpal. slept for 2 hours, woke up and wanted to be dead so i cut some more!!!!!!! and now i cant move!"
some people have a really warped idea of mental illness, they think its all straighforward, you go to the doc, you get some meds(which alot of people then tell you is weak), then you just get better therfore there should be no reason why you cannot perform miracles!
has anyone else come across this attitude?? im sure im not the only one. i find alot of it from parents or bosses. xox
i recnetly quit work because theres just too much right now, ive taken another dip, im behind on coursewoek and about to fail, im about to start therapy and im in a big self harming rut.the manager gave me a really frustrated look and despite the fact i told her it was all personal she still asked"but.....why??" with a really annoyed look. also as im only 18 i also have to deal with stupid lectures from, every adult under the sun(no offense) about how'in their day they worked 24/7', and how no one ever complained you just did it back then.
it really gets me down and magnifies everything. you cannot win. i spend all my time trying to pick myself up off the floor, get up and do what little i actually manage to do and appear so happy to everyone-yet im miserable. if they knew theyd worry alot,so thats why i try for them. yet the minute you admit the probelm and stumble a bit or take of the mask people start looking at you like your weak and stupid for not working.
i hide alot, some just dont get it. it infuriates me. they think depression is just a little blue. sometimes if i had the guts id love to scream at them "NO! im not working today because i went out last night, got totally wasted, relived sexual molestation, lay on the toilet floor for 2 hours while attempting to vomit, came home and hacked myself with a razor balde and scalpal. slept for 2 hours, woke up and wanted to be dead so i cut some more!!!!!!! and now i cant move!"
some people have a really warped idea of mental illness, they think its all straighforward, you go to the doc, you get some meds(which alot of people then tell you is weak), then you just get better therfore there should be no reason why you cannot perform miracles!
has anyone else come across this attitude?? im sure im not the only one. i find alot of it from parents or bosses. xox
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Sannah
12-20-2006, 10:16 AM
Pucca chick, before I recovered from my anxiety I learned that I had to ignore EVERYONE'S opinion. Now, after recovering from my anxiety I don't need anyone's opinion usually. I don't think that you are weak or stupid. I think that you are trying your very best and that you are a very strong person for dealing with what you have had to deal with. Most people are not capable of putting themselves in another's position to really understand what that person is dealing with. Most people do not take the time to really understand what another person is experiencing. They only know their own situation and they judge another's situation from their own experience only. Most other's opinions are worth 1 cent. Please ignore their responses. They really do not understand.
angrywarrior
01-13-2007, 07:18 AM
When I was 18 I did similar things: partied, got drunk out of my mind, flunked out of college... on purpose. I was extremely depressed and didn't know it, I lost my will to live (however, I never considered suicide), and floated around like I hardly existed or cared about a dam thing.
My parents thought I was doing drugs. Ok, maybe I did experiment but never abused and only tried things once or twice. They made me goto the doctors. I refused medication because I believed it was just a scapegoat and did not confront the issue. Went to a psychiatrist also, didn't help what-so-ever.
It really irritated me when some people tried to advise me. But I now realize that some people were just trying to help or were worried. Things do get better and I'm a stronger person because of what I had to go through. Life can still suck at times, but you do your best to get by.
My parents thought I was doing drugs. Ok, maybe I did experiment but never abused and only tried things once or twice. They made me goto the doctors. I refused medication because I believed it was just a scapegoat and did not confront the issue. Went to a psychiatrist also, didn't help what-so-ever.
It really irritated me when some people tried to advise me. But I now realize that some people were just trying to help or were worried. Things do get better and I'm a stronger person because of what I had to go through. Life can still suck at times, but you do your best to get by.
isitme
01-14-2007, 09:07 AM
'has anyone else come across this attitude?? im sure im not the only one. i find alot of it from parents or bosses"
I've come across this attitude and yes, it makes you feel worse. I've be told to snap out of it, I'm not really depressed, just lazy and allsorts else too.
My attitude now - SOD 'EM ALL.:) If they can't support me, their views are not valid in the slightest.
I've come across this attitude and yes, it makes you feel worse. I've be told to snap out of it, I'm not really depressed, just lazy and allsorts else too.
My attitude now - SOD 'EM ALL.:) If they can't support me, their views are not valid in the slightest.
thecameraeye
01-16-2007, 06:05 PM
people in general are quite retarded.
I've found that I hate about 80% of the human race. For what reason? I dunno. Maybe because they're human.
I've become this way because when you are depressed you are in your own state of mind. No one is willing to reach out and help you because that's how everyone is. If you finally do get someone to reach out and help you, it's after several people that have already taken a giant crap on you and you really don't care for their help. Sometimes you welcome it but with a very hesitant approach.
People suck. Believe me.
I've found that I hate about 80% of the human race. For what reason? I dunno. Maybe because they're human.
I've become this way because when you are depressed you are in your own state of mind. No one is willing to reach out and help you because that's how everyone is. If you finally do get someone to reach out and help you, it's after several people that have already taken a giant crap on you and you really don't care for their help. Sometimes you welcome it but with a very hesitant approach.
People suck. Believe me.
thecameraeye
01-16-2007, 06:07 PM
'has anyone else come across this attitude?? im sure im not the only one. i find alot of it from parents or bosses"
I've come across this attitude and yes, it makes you feel worse. I've be told to snap out of it, I'm not really depressed, just lazy and allsorts else too.
My attitude now - SOD 'EM ALL.:) If they can't support me, their views are not valid in the slightest.
It often makes it so much worse. Because when you're depressed, you already have a low self esteem. So people account it for the fact that you're "lazy, ignorant, not driven" and it makes you feel worse because
a) it's not true - you're depressed and that's the main fact.
b) it impedes on your already low self-esteem, thereby making it worse, causing you to slump, slumber, and hate everyone around you for not understanding you. :blob_fire
I've come across this attitude and yes, it makes you feel worse. I've be told to snap out of it, I'm not really depressed, just lazy and allsorts else too.
My attitude now - SOD 'EM ALL.:) If they can't support me, their views are not valid in the slightest.
It often makes it so much worse. Because when you're depressed, you already have a low self esteem. So people account it for the fact that you're "lazy, ignorant, not driven" and it makes you feel worse because
a) it's not true - you're depressed and that's the main fact.
b) it impedes on your already low self-esteem, thereby making it worse, causing you to slump, slumber, and hate everyone around you for not understanding you. :blob_fire
wottha
01-19-2007, 12:24 AM
Mental health really is so misunderstood. The stigma these days is less, but there is a loooonnnggg way to go. Seems unless you have experience (either directly or indirectly) mental health issues, you just cannot understand how it affects you. It's an intangible, unsee-able thing. Like chronic illnesses that don't make you 'look' unwell. Same deal.
Oh well. Take solace in the fact that there ARE plenty of people out that that DO understand what you're going through. You don't need to justify yourself to anyone... Your first responsibility is to yourself.
Now, snap out of it ;) (JUST A JOKE DONT SHOOT ME)
Oh well. Take solace in the fact that there ARE plenty of people out that that DO understand what you're going through. You don't need to justify yourself to anyone... Your first responsibility is to yourself.
Now, snap out of it ;) (JUST A JOKE DONT SHOOT ME)
pucca_chick
01-21-2007, 07:03 PM
lol-cameraseyes-i agree with your replies-theryre hilarious but so true. most people cant go the distance with you when your mentally ill, theyre all well meaning at the start like my god damn doc, and then they do-crap on you that is, get fed up cos your not able to snap out of it and then bugger off.
wottha-lol i wish i could nap out of it but what can ya do :)
wottha-lol i wish i could nap out of it but what can ya do :)
SanyBelle
01-29-2007, 04:26 PM
When I was married, my husband said he was depressed, couldn't keep a job, slept all the time, etc. I didn't understand and told him to snap out of it, get a job, get out of bed. Now that I have anxiety and depression I believe he was really sick, but I'll never admit that to him now. I can't believe how bad I feel, how fatigued, how nauseaus... but I don't look or sound sick... that's what confuses people who have never been depressed.
Isobella
01-31-2007, 07:09 PM
I think people are so busy with their own lives and their own problems that they haven't time to stop and consider what other people may be going through. I think most people know depression is a real illness, but as a depressed person looks ok physically it's hard for others to think of it as an illness in the same way as they might if it was a physical illness. You can't change people's reactions to your illness, but you can change your reaction to their reaction (if that makes sense!). Unfortunately as you go through life you'll find that people often react in a none too sympathetic way to other people's illnesses and problems. Yes, there are some lovely people out there, people who are naturally empathetic, and there are some horrible ones too, but most people fall somewhere into the middle, ie they are sympathetic at times but not at others and their own problems are uppermost in their minds at times therefore they don't have time for other people's. This is human nature, to see things from your own point of view. The best thing to do is to try not to get upset at their reaction (yes, I know, easier said than done) as this only adds to your stress and you can do without that. i don't think that people mean to be unkind, they just are wrapped up in themselves.
ASPROUSEY05
02-01-2007, 05:56 PM
<<<<I've found that I hate about 80% of the human race. For what reason? I dunno. Maybe because they're human. >>>>>>> haha, i feel this way too a lot!!! people attempt to know how someone else feels in different situations, even if htey themselves have never been in that, and they think they should give their opinion, and tell you what they would do in that situation, ha!! noone knows what someone else feels like!! and sweety you are not weak, there is a difference between stress and anxiety, but if your hurting yourself that is something you definitly need to seek HELP for... i use to cut when i was younger, and my parents thought it was for attention.. even if it was, not everyone who wants attention is going to do that!! i was numb at the time.. i got better, but that stuff is always there sometimes, and everyone handles situtations different.. !!! im sure its not that your lazy, or weak... sometimes things are too much.. depression, anxiety etc. are MEDICAL CONDITIONS.. not an excuse.. and sometimes people need medications, time, stress relief etc to help their condition.. good luck hun, and i really hope things start to look up for you soon!
marleymoe
02-19-2007, 02:57 PM
Unfortunately, most people don't get it. Alot of people will truely try to get it. They will read up on it and ubderstand alot about it. They will have just enough info to be dangerous. You will trust them, and then whammo -- they are the ones who will hurt you the most because all of a sudden they will get tired of being helpful and yell atyou to snap out of it. ultimately it is up to you to get therapy and just realize that you have a disease and learn how to think differently than a "normal" person. Also try to realize what your triggers are to your isolations. This is not meant to depress you even more. I am a 40 something female that has been living with depression for over 20 years and didnt know until one year ago. since then it has been a living hell for me and my family. I have finally implemented the above recently and it seems to be working. good luck