I feel like running away for a week or two. I’ve felt this way for a few weeks and the feeling isn’t going away. I’m 26 years old and married. I don’t have any kids. I’ve planned where I’ll go and how to get there. Everyday I recheck the bus schedule and think about what I’ll take with me. I’ve planned every detail out. I’m going to go and see an ex boyfriend. I know I shouldn’t but I’m obsessed with him. I think about him constantly. I’ve talked to my husband about this. He’s against it, but I think he will take me back. I’m willing to risk that he doesn’t take me back.

A part of me wants to never come back here, but I will. My husband loves me and my family are okay. I have no major issues right now. I’m not running away from anything specific, I just need a break from my life.

Has anyone ever had thoughts of running away?

Honest Tea, I think your making a big mistake because you took marriage vows that should be honored. If you go to an ex for 2 weeks you will not honor your marriage. If you are so unhappy it is best to be out of the marriage before being involved with someone else. Trust is important in life and if you cheat on your husband with someone else there will be no trust for anyone. What is it that makes you so unhappy? Tell us more.

hi there, just wanted to tell you the same kind of thing happend to me however it ended in ahospital stay i know what your thinking of seems the right thing right now but trust me it isnt and you will see that i just hope it isnt to late that you do. Although we have an illness there is only so much our loved ones can put up with please remember this and think carefully some things are worth more than what is in our heads if you know what i mean maybe there are unresolved issues what ifs but that is the past you now have a present and a future think about that!! Learn to love what you have and not to think about what might have been if only because the if only never happend and so never will why waste time there?? sorry babe but please think as always love and prayers Debsxx

I think I love my ex more than my husband. My husband is a better provider and loves me way more than I love him. I want to visit my ex to see whom I want to be with. I’ve been going back and forth about this for 6 years and been married to my husband for 3 years. Hopefully I’ll see him again for a few days and get over him. I don’t think therapy is working. I talk about him in therapy all the time and nothing changes. I’ve written lists about all the negative things about him and compared him to my husband.

I know I’m married and made vows. I’ve cheated a few times and told my husband about it. My husband says he will divorce me if I cheat again or stop taking meds. I can’t go on feeling torn over this. One day I’m happy with my husband and the next I want to leave him. I usually want to leave him more than stay. Our biggest problem is sex related. He’s trying to work on our issue, but sexually I’m most unhappy.

I feel like I’m just going around and around about this and need to do something or I’ll be stuck forever. I know my husband wants the best for me, but right now I have to make a decision. Every few months I tell my husband I want a divorce and then change my mind. This is draining me of energy and is all I think about. I cry off and on all day because I'm so confused and I really want to be happy oneday.

Honest Tea ~ I am assuming that you are Bipolar or you wouldn't have posted here. If I am incorrect then I apologize. I know that running away is definitely a sign of instability and often precedes mania. I would strongly recommend that you talk about this with your psychiatrist....the feelings you are getting are impulsive and will most likely have consequences that will affect your life whether it be your relationship or the remorse you will feel after you have acted upon them.

PLEASE talk to a professional about this. Running away will only have you facing the same demons you are facing now. It may serve as a temporary fix but it will cause more harm than good. YOu are best off putting this energy into something positive. Everytime my daughter is unstable she wants to run away. That is why I am posting my concerns to you.

I hope that you feel better soon. The holidays are here and sometimes with all the stress that comes along with them we all have felt as if we would like to run away. The thing is, running away doesn't solve the problems...learning to face them will.

((((HUGS)))) ~ Goody:angel: :wave:

I think I love my ex more than my husband. My husband is a better provider and loves me way more than I love him. I want to visit my ex to see whom I want to be with. I’ve been going back and forth about this for 6 years and been married to my husband for 3 years. Hopefully I’ll see him again for a few days and get over him. I don’t think therapy is working. I talk about him in therapy all the time and nothing changes. I’ve written lists about all the negative things about him and compared him to my husband.

I know I’m married and made vows. I’ve cheated a few times and told my husband about it. My husband says he will divorce me if I cheat again or stop taking meds. I can’t go on feeling torn over this. One day I’m happy with my husband and the next I want to leave him. I usually want to leave him more than stay. Our biggest problem is sex related. He’s trying to work on our issue, but sexually I’m most unhappy.

I feel like I’m just going around and around about this and need to do something or I’ll be stuck forever. I know my husband wants the best for me, but right now I have to make a decision. Every few months I tell my husband I want a divorce and then change my mind. This is draining me of energy and is all I think about. I cry off and on all day because I'm so confused and I really want to be happy oneday.


I'm not usually this blunt but your situation sounds pretty cut and dry to me:cool: Just consider this.... Your decision becomes easy when your husband tells you he has someone who loves him more than he could have dreammed, so you can go ahead and go to your past boy friend.(you just did your husband a favor and they live happily ever after)! So know you can be with your X and who knows who else, a wife? another girlfriend? both? Just about the time you get there he says "I'mouttahere" :yawn: You have just lost all options with no place to run away to. Except your own head! Some BP's might agree that could be a dangerous place to be certain times! Sounds like you might be spending a little too much time there lately. You need to get out of your own way and WAKE-UP! You can thank me later for rattling your cage!:wave:

Hello

There have been so many, many,many times when I just want to run away and planned the whole thing. But whenever I am in the right frame of mind, I look back and thank so much for not doing anything rash.

Thanx

Thanks everyone for replying. I wanted to leave today, but decided to give it some more time. I hate this feeling. I've thought about going to see family and taking time to clear my head. Right now I'm not working and just sit home all day online. I guess I'll think about this some more before I do anything. Maybe the need to run away will get better or something. I really do miss my ex and sometimes think we will be happy together, but I love my husband. I worry that if I leave him, he will be alone and I'll feel so guilty.

Tea I am glad you are taking time to think about this. I know too many people that left a marriage thinking the grass was greener on the other side of the fence only to walk in cow poo. Sometimes a person dreams of what it wouild be like with another person and usually they are only trading one set of problems with another. Be careful.

Honest tea,

First of all, I honestly LOVE your user name! :D

It seems to me that you have a couple of issues to unravel. There is the decision of stay with husband or pursue ex. But then there is a separate issue: If your ex were unavailable, despite loving your husband, are the two of you just not compatible?

Something kind of similar happened to me. My husband and I were together for 11 years, and half the time I would think he was the best thing since sliced bread, when I was hypomanic and all would be great with the world. When I was down, I knew in my heart that I wanted a divorce, that he was hurting me. I would have never left though, because of my marriage vows. But I fantasized so much about being on my own again, with my own little place. Once or twice I ran away to stay in a hotel for a night. If you do get away just to think, try and go someplace neutral, not the ex's, and someplace safe in case you are veering into mania, maybe with family. In the end, I ended up in the hospital and he asked for the separation. It seems like your husband is kind of at the same point.

You need to decide if this marriage is where you want to be, and if so, get yourself and your husband into counseling together to save it. Or you may be startled when he says this is it, the end, and you may realize that he was the greener grass. Or maybe, deep in your heart, you know you would be better off not in the marrriage. In my case, the separation was the right thing for me, now I am a butterfly flying free, no longer trapped in a cocoon. I would have died. Perhaps thoughts of your ex are just a tool, a route of escape. I dunno. Hope some of this helps. It is still hard for me to think about, too recent (last Valentines).

Thank you. I'm still trying to sort things out. My husband has offered to drive me to see my ex in order to get over him. I don't know what I want to do right now. I think the hotel room would be nice, I could use some time to my self. My family doesn't care for my husband and would like to see me leave him. My husband has been great through all this and I don't want to keep hurting him.

Hey Tea
You do need to get past your ex, but take it from me, I left a marriage to be with someone that didnt work out, and landed me in way more hurt than I could have thought. We were best friends for years as kids.
oddly enough my husband took me back as I never had sent him the divorce papers.... but that wont work for anyone, and almost 2 years later we still have issues but I know I tried the grass I thought was greener and just realized I already had it. No one is perfect but you have to decide on why you are leaving. I agree with all the posts that say get away to a neutral place to take a break. Getting bored with life if you are always home (me too!) and having sexual frustrations (ditto) makes you think that guy is not the right one. Maybe give him a chance for longer. I am also 26 and have been married 3 yrs like you. It never is easy, the first 5 yrs are the hardest but you look back and think wow and are so much closer because of that.
Good luck, I hope it turns out ok, just make sure what you do you think clearly. Dont think of it as what guy think of what makes you happy. If your hubby just doesnt make you happy dont replace him try to find happiness. when you are whole, then another man can come along if its before that then you will keep hopping from guy to the next not knowing why it wont work out. At least from my experience.
:)
Leomia

Why did you and your ex break up in the first place? Theres got to be a reason he's an ex.

Your husband sounds like an amazing person dealing with all of this. Thats someone i'd want to hang on to, unless you're truly unhappy then you should do both yourselves a favor and end it soon.

I've felt like running away before. I never have. I usually want to move on where nobody knows me and start over. But realistically i'd have the same problems there, if not more, than I have now. So its just a fantasy of mine and i'll probably keep it that way.

Why did you and your ex break up in the first place? Theres got to be a reason he's an ex.

Your husband sounds like an amazing person dealing with all of this. Thats someone i'd want to hang on to, unless you're truly unhappy then you should do both yourselves a favor and end it soon.

I've felt like running away before. I never have. I usually want to move on where nobody knows me and start over. But realistically i'd have the same problems there, if not more, than I have now. So its just a fantasy of mine and i'll probably keep it that way.


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