because i have what my dr thinks is partial simple seizures and i don't black out my wife is mad because the dr wont let me work i've tried to explain what i go thew every day and she only wants to look at the one or two good days a weak idont have attacks and say see her MOM hasn't helped any at all eather saying things like you only shake for a few seconds and then your fine when truth be known it is almost every day for hours at this time i am still drawing acheck from the department of correction but my wifes mom has convinsed her that when the dr said i coudn't work untill these attacks where under controll that i should have went and got another job and hide it from them rather than trying to get me lined out


[This message has been edited by jadam (edited 07-09-2003).]

I am not sure quite what to tell you only I think their behavior is not right. Maybe you should pull up some web sites and let them read what it is you are going thru. Have them go to the doctor with you and have the doctor tell them what you are going thru. If you work for the corrections dept. then you should not be going to work until they have you straightened out.

I am sorry that you are going thru this. My husband is very supportive only there are times when I think that he can't understand and it becomes to much for him so he thinks that if he doesn't mention it, it will go away. I think all spouses go thru that. It is not just your ailment but one shared by anyone who loves you. That is a lot for them especially that they are not the ones going thru it and feeling how trying it is. It is hard to describe what you are feeling also I bet. That makes it hard for them to understand also.

I will be praying for you and I hope your family comes around soon. Try what I suggested and see if that doesn't help.

God Bless you,

KittyMom

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Mother of 3 beautiful kids and wife to a Great husband! I love helping others...it helps me grow!

I am sorry that your wife and motherin law are not being too supportive. You need to heed your doctor's advice. Maybe your wife could talk with the doctor next time to better understand. Have her look at epilepsy foundation of america site or epilepsy ontario, they talk about the seizures well.
You say you have them for hours? Or is this the post ictal, after time where you feel off. The seizure itself is not always the interupting factor to make work hard. It can be that long PI time. My son can have the whole day messed up with a simple or complex partial. THe seizure is 1-2 minutes but he can not think straight for a long time after and can be angry and tired....

Good luck, hope you can clue in the ladies in your life....