About 5 weeks ago my boyfriend let a stranger give him oral sex and he got gonorhea from it, we had unprotected sex and I got it and we are both cured. I'm so worried about HIV(cause Its hard for me to believe it was only oral) anyway he went 3 days after and 4 weeks after and his hiv tests were neg. He went because I asked him to. Shortly after we had unprotected sex, I had muscle aches( also keep in mind i am 7 months pregnant) those still come and go but not as much as they did, i had 2 nights of night sweats which i was not soaking wet, now on Tuesday night I took a HOT shower and after drying my body off i noticed a rash all over my belly, its like little tiny red bumps and is a little itcy, and it went on to my forarms, like inbetween wrist and elbows, and i noticed some on my back where my bra strap is. Another thing I should let u know that on the monday before this rash I wore a new sweater for xmas that I didnt wash before wearing it. I'm just concerened this is a symptom of ARS rash....???????

SHesix: Why are we re-visiting this? I thought we had put all of this to rest before. If this is a new rash, then I think you're right and it's related to the new sweater. chris

Chris- I was getting so good about everything, but like I said in my other post....when I do start to get past it, something pops up!!!!!! I'm going to labor and delivery to have them look at it cuz doc is out of town and that is what he wants me to do.....but the docs there won't even think about HIV cuz they dont know my situation and I really dont want to tell them...what is the typical rash look like that is related to hiv?

I think if you continue to have sex with a man who has proven himself very careless and cavalier about his health, your health, and your unborn babies health, you will continue to have these worries throughout the duration of your relationship. Are you willing to live like that? Why stay with him? I think if you severed the ties with him, you will have many less worries, and many less health problems.......something to think about.
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I'm sorry rosequartz, I didn't realize I asked you or anyone's opinion about whether or not I should stay with this man I have been with for over for years, and that I am having a child with. Don't think that I haven't thought about my health, the baby's, or whether or not this will happen again.This has been a VERY difficult thing to go through, and until you are in a similar situation I don't think you should think u know whats best.......

I understand why you are worried S, I hope you are ok. I am sure you are but when you are worried about your health its hard to put things to rest in your mind, esp when you are pregnant because you worry so much for your unborn child all the time anyway so with having this HIV worry its no wonder you are stressed.

When are you having a HIV test?

If you ever need to talk then give me a shout.

I understand why you are worried S, I hope you are ok. I am sure you are but when you are worried about your health its hard to put things to rest in your mind, esp when you are pregnant because you worry so much for your unborn child all the time anyway so with having this HIV worry its no wonder you are stressed.

When are you having a HIV test?

If you ever need to talk then give me a shout.

HI, Thanks for your kind words.........its very hard to put things at rest for sure and I worry about my baby ALL the time.......I had a test 2 weeks after him and I had unprotected sex 3 times...it was neg. He had a test @ 3days after and 4 weeks after and was neg. I am thinking about going back to have another test next friday which makes it six weeks since him and I had uprotected sex. I never knew you could get std's from oral but now I do, and now he does to! when my 12 weeks come the baby will be born by then, but Plan to test at 6 weeks, 9, and 12. If I do need to talk I will hit u up! THANKS!:)

Dear SHesix: While Many people will wonder about the rightness and wrongness of the decision you have made to stay with your fiance, you did indicate in earlier posts that you two were finding (or had found) a church community and that (I think) you were going to counseling. Your decision to be with him is admirable and humbling. Just be careful...

NOw, about this "HIV rash", I really don't know that I've heard or read much about it. I will attempt to gather some information and, if I may, get back with you tomorrow.

As for the HIV tests in hospitals as it relates to your baby? I think it would be prudent to ask your doctor if it is required. It may be part of the hospital's protocol in labor and delivery. chris

Thanks for your help Chris, and look forward to any info u find if any....I went to labor and delivery on FRiday to have rash checked out and the doctor said he couldn't say for sure what it was...he took some blood to test for 2 things that would be harmful to baby if that is what it is.......should know the resuts sometimes this week. I told him that I was worried it had something to do with HIV and he just kinda shrugged it off and didnt seem concerned about it. The health dept. my fiance went to the nurse told him he didnt need to come back for testing when he was tested at 4 weeks.....When I went she told me the same thing, I guess with it not being a "high risk exposure" but I dont know exactly why she would say that.

Hi Chris,


Thanks for info, and it does help.....I'm guessing the rash that I got was from that darn sweater and not from HIV. Yes, I did see Philadelphia so I Know what blothes you are talking about. My fiance are doing a little better now and we are learning to communicate more, although there is a lot more to be worked on, but it's a start. When I do have sex with him it is protected EVERYTIME! and it will be that way for a LONG time! We are looking forward to our baby girl coming into the world........and in the meantime I think the planning of my baby shower should kep me pretty busy! Thanks again Chris! You are such a big help to everyone here..

Hi Chris,


Thanks for info, and it does help.....I'm guessing the rash that I got was from that darn sweater and not from HIV. Yes, I did see Philadelphia so I Know what blothes you are talking about. My fiance are doing a little better now and we are learning to communicate more, although there is a lot more to be worked on, but it's a start. When I do have sex with him it is protected EVERYTIME! and it will be that way for a LONG time! We are looking forward to our baby girl coming into the world........and in the meantime I think the planning of my baby shower should kep me pretty busy! Thanks again Chris! You are such a big help to everyone here..