Its been 30 days since my encounter.

I had vag/anal sex w/ a male personal trainer @work. I'm paranoid he may be hiv+.

I felt his penis touch my labia, but i stopped him and made him use a condom.

He kept saying he wanted it w/o the condom, but i refused. His excuse was that he wanted me to give me an oragasm, but i wouldnt have it any other way.

He gave me anal sex, but im paranoid the condom could have slipped or he took it off!

I wasn't freaking out like this at the time b/c the sex was great. But guilt/anxiety started settling in and the fact he wanted it w/o a condom makes me question his status. I know i was clean, but how could someone who barely knew me want 2 stick their goods inside me? Maybe he has hiv and didnt care? But he works w/ me how could it be? I'm also worried b/c he sweat like a beast during sex. It was unseasonably warm n the heat was on.

He called me the next day for another round but i told him on the phone i was concerned about him not wanting the condoms and if that's how he has been w/ past girls. I told him i was worried about getting tested but he insisted i am fine b/c he was tested last yr.

Ever since that talk, he has been distant at work. Things are kind of weird. He isnt flirty or very friendly even. Maybe Im just being weird though. But my nerves are out of control.

I had a pap done and informed my dr about this, but havent heard my results; however, in the past he said he'd call if sth was abnormal. But he did diagnose me w/ yeast. But cud be from the bc pill since i have noticed it b4.

I just hope to God this guy is negative. Im so worried.

You used a condom, whats the problem!!!!!
Lots of people dont like condoms or just dont care, so all those people are HIV+??!! OMG he sweats during sex!!! You should have told him you wanted the quick 3mins job....
So hes intentionally trying to give you HIV, even though you dont know hes got it?!
No wonder he doesnt want to talk to you....

thanks, thats what i needed 2 hear...

a lot of people sweat during sex so that is normal.

Most men dislike using condom because it can decrease the sensation or they have erectile problem, etc.

Lets just say he did slip the condom off during anal sex, the chances of you contracting HIV even if he is HIV+ is still small even if you are the recipient of an anal intercourse.

He is probably upset because you are resisting his sexual advances. not because he is trying to pass HIV to you.

Either way it is best to get tested for your peace of mind. Good on you for practicing safe sex.

Paraniod i know your fear, i was haveing sex with this guy for the first time and he took the condom off and i didn't know it. I got so angry and sraced and the next day he showed me his neg test. I asked him why he took that condom off and he said it was because he belived me when i said i hadn't had sex for five years which was true. So if you talk to him about your history that may be the reson he didn't want to use a condom.:angel: :angel: :angel: