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I had an encounter that I deeply regret on 13th October. I had a swab taken at my doctors surgery for thrush 11 days after and that was clear of thrush. I had a urine sample taken at 12 days past, was tested for chlamydia and that was negative. I then went at 18 days past and I had a swab for ghonorhea . At 6 weeks past I had blood tests at my surgery for HIV and syphallis. All of my tests have been negative.

My dr said there is no need to repeat the hiv test as a 6 week test is enough. Why am I still worrying then if all were negative? it wouldn't of been too soon would it? I am worried the std tests were too soon? I didn't go to a GUM clinic, I had it all done at my drs surgery. The wait to get in at the GUM was 6 weeks and I couldn't wait that long plus with my anxiety I wanted to be somewhere where I knew the dr & nurse.

I am feeling achy, tired, not myself etc..... I don't know if its stress or if im ill. Thinking hiv or something:-( I am going to see my dr in 2 weeks to chat about things but I know he will be cross with me for douting him. Down below feels fine so not sure why im panicking about stds.

Sorry to post again, I feel so so low and alone right now.

Ok I rung my local GUM clinic for advice and the receptionist said my dr is wrong and 6 weeks is not accurate for HIV result. She couldn't tell me how soon u can get tested for stds. I told her i had tests between 2-6 weeks and she wasn't sure, she said maybe 2-3 weeks for swabs.

I am now in bits, why would my dr lie to me, he said 6 weeks was fine???

Hiya C,

Thanks for your reponse, I really do appreiciate it.

This is what happened (it wsa friday 13th October, what a day) my husband and I were having problems, we have 3 kids, stress, he is a workaholic etc... I wasnt' happy, I went out got very drunk on vodka (im not a big drinker at all so vodka isnt something I ever drink) I got drunk and I was told by my friend I was kissing the landlord and I went upstairs. Anyway next day I wake up at my m8s house, I can remember being in the pub and being back at my friends house having a laugh and a drink before going to sleep. I cannot for the life of me remember being with this man, aparently I did kiss him in the pub. I got intouch with him and he said we had sex, I did not believe him, surely id remember and as a woman you just know when you have had sex, I was also on my period. Too much info, sorry.

Next day I told this man I needed to talk to him, I was worried sick and full of regret. He told me we went upstairs because I wanted to, he said I asked him to have sex with me??? ive never slept with anyone but my husband (I am 27). This man said it lasted about 30 seconds and then he said he asked if I was ok and I told him to get off because it was wrong and he said that was that, I got dressed and left. He said we didn't use anything because he has a piercing and they just tear.

This man said he felt dreadful, he was close to tears. He is 16 yrs older than me, he had split from his girlfriend 3 weeks before and he said he was faithful to her. He said he had been married for 12 yrs before that and has 4 kids. He has a reputation for being a flirt so I was worried sick if my health was at risk. I told him this and he said he gives blood 4 times a year and no need for me to worry.

I bumped into him in town last week, he said he gave blood at the begining of december so if he had anything serious he would know by now but im still freaking out. He swore to me he has never had problems down below but im so scared.

I think my 6 week test was an antibody test??

Thanks for taking the time to read this C.

Forgot to mention he said he didn't finish inside me, well it was only 30 seconds;-)

I have questioned this, I even asked him if I did consent and he swore to me he I did. I guess if he raped me he would not of got intouch with me and he doesn't seem the type to be honest. Well I hope not.

Do you think from what ive said that the risk is very low? he also gave blood 4 weeks ago and is aparently fine.

I am in bits. I am getting really bad leg and arm pain down my left side, its freaking me out because I feel so tired and run down.

I saw my dr today about something else unrelated and I told him how worried I was. He said the swabs and urine test for chlamydia I had done were negative so no need to repeat and he also said the 6 week HIV test is fine, also no need to repeat. He thinks im putting myself through more heartache if I keep going for tests.

I said this man gave blood 4 weeks ago and still had not heard anything from the blood service as ive been intouch and asked him. He said he was being honest and that he would tell me if he had, I think he would. My dr said no way should I be concerned.

My dr said the only time he would repeat at 13 weeks a HIV test is if the person was from africa or deffinatly HIV +. He said in my case I need to forget it and not put myself or my family through more tests.

Should I forget all of this? I had all my tests done and all were negative.

Thanks C,

I know you are right. I suffer with health anxiety so this really has set me back, just when ive come out of counselling and done so well over the last 2 years.

I have a very good relationship with my GP so I know I should trust him, he would not let me be put at risk, he would lose his job for giving me the wrong info im sure.

THis man knows for sure, he even said he was terrified id think he raped me, he was in tears saying he was sorry. He asked me to leave my husband, said he was in love with me. I told him I was sorry and wanted to stay friends.

Thanks for your advice C.