I am worried that my boyfriend my have Hiv. He recently has noticed a very painful and swollen lymph node in his groin area. He went to the doctor and was told that it was most likely viral. They took a blood test and the doc told him that if it doesn't go away in a month that they will have to do a biopsy. She told him the name of the Infection that he has... but he can't remember what it is called.:rolleyes: She also asked to look at his feet and said that they look normal. Then she asked him if he was having any gastro problums like bloody stools. She thought that it was weird that he wasn't. So anyway, I have been trying to look on-line to see what kind of viral infection he may have and everthing says that a swollen lymph node in the groin area can be symptomatic of HIV. Also, he has had a swollen lymphnod in under his chin for years that he just informed me of, but this one doesn't hurt.
Does this sound like HIV. He has also had bladder infections in the past, and I know that this can be a symptom in men of his age. However, the doctor told him that it was somthing he ate. We also have HPV so I know that makes him 50% more likely to have hiv.
Any input will help.
Thanks

:( HIV cannot be diagnosed by symptoms. It just can't be.
I hope you guys will go get tested together. At least you'll know the truth and can move forward. (Big hug for you.)

What else could it be though? Should I be really worried? :eek:

I made a really big mistake. I knew that I never should have brough up getting tested to my boyfriend. He got really upset that I suggested it and said that he was going to kill himself if he has it. He said that I always make a big deal out of a little thing. So I told him that he shouldn't worry about it then because I am obviously paranoid. He said that the doctor would most likely have suggested it if that was what he had. I told him that in general that it would be a good thing to get tested for because we already have 1 std. It would be nice to know. They tested me for HIV when I got teste for HPV and it was negative, but I was told that that doesn't mean anything. That he could still have it. Anyway, Now I think that I really upset him and should have kept it all to myself or brought it up at a diffrent time... but we were on the subject so I thought it would be okay but now he says that I ruined his whole night and he is going to have to think about it when he goes to work. Why am I so stupid? I think I may have really ruined our relationship. I don't know if he will get over this or think about me the same way. Nothing will be the same. What should I do to make this right? He thinks that I am trying to put the nails in his coffin.

first thing i wouldn't care if a guy gets angry about me asking him to take a hiv test. I would take care of myself and use comdons with the person. If i were you i would go get tested myself. If a person doesn't have a risk for hiv they normally don't say if they have it they are go to kill themselves what i'm trying to just say take care of yourself.Get tested.

I don't want him to kill himself. He's my boyfriend going on 4 years and I love him. I feel horrible about brining it up and if he kills himself I will feel like it is my fault. If he has HIV, he contracted it way before he met me. He hasn't been with anyone else since 2000, possibly before that.... so I have a few questions. If someone could answer, I would appreciate it.

1. Would he be showing more symptoms besides swollen lymphnodes by now if he's psoitive?

2. Since I have been with him for so long does that mean that the odds are very high that I have it too?

3. Are swollen lymph nodes are very high indicator of HIV? Do you get them in the HIV stage as well as the AIDS stages?

4. Can other diseases that are viral cause swollen glands other than HIV?

5. If HIV were an issue wouldn't his doctor have mentioned it?

6. If he were in the latter stages of HIV wouldn't his blood work have shown some abnormalities that the doc would have mentioned such as low white blood count, etc.....????

If someone could reply I would appreciate it. I don't have anyone to talk to about this. My boyfriend isn't talking to me and I am scared. i have been crying my eyes out all day! This feels worse than not knowing mine or his status.

The only way to know if he has hiv is from geting a hiv test. You guys can take the orasure and it comes back in 20 min. The swollen lmpnods normaly happen in a few weeks after being infected. The only thing you guys can do is get tested. I know your afaid, but the best thing to do is get tested. My sister has hiv and she never think about killing her self. She has had it for 19 years now. undectable never get sick. I feel you, but think about the stress you puting yourself threw.God Bless You.:angel: :angel: :angel: I'm afaid to go get tested tommorow, but i'm going to do it. Peace.