Okay, so I had my first panic attack in august.. the day after I had my first one, the guy who was my boyfriend at the time came over. After about half an hour of hanging out with him, all the feelings I had from the night before came back, and I had another one, but this time I went to the ER for it. Anyway, after that experience, every time that guy would come over, I'd get those same anxious thoughts and I'd start to feel nauseated and all those awful feelings, so I'd just tell him to go home. Obviously, after a while of me telling him to just go home every time he came over, we ended things.

That was a few months ago, but now I'm worried that if I get into another relationship, what if I get those same feelings around that person? I'm really scared that if I find another really great guy, I'll mess it all up because of anxiety. I started seeing a psychologist for the panic attacks a few months ago, but I think they're moreso in relation to loud noises than they are to social situations. I'm not sure what to do. I can kiss whoever I want to with no problems at all, it's just the idea of ending up in a serious relationship again that really kinda freaks me out.

Hi there, I too went what you are going through a few years back - he was my first boyfriend and I was a student living away from home, and he was living in the same student block as me. He was a very calm and laid back kind of guy, but I think just the idea of having a boyfriend kind of freaked me out, as living in the same place, he could just turn up at my room anytime, and I did not want to put him off by telling him I was freaked out!! (If that makes sense). I ended up being so anxious that I physically could not eat anything - I would prepare myself a meal in the belief that I was really going to eat it but when it came to it, I could not swallow anything down. So in the end I had to see a doctor, who prescribed Ativan to take just when I was feeling really stressed. Like you, I did end the relationship a few months on, but mainly because he was just not the right guy for me. But later on, I found a really lovely guy, with whom I could just feel much more relaxed, so yes, I would say that if you find the right person who really wants to be with you, you will probably find that you are comfortable to admit to your past feelings - if he is the right guy for you, he will stick with you and see you through it. Hope this helps.

hi ive had over 15 years of anxiety disorder and lost numerous long term relationships as my partners at the time couldnt cope theyd be okay for a few years but then theyd get too frustrated.i dread everytime that im going to ruin another one but the more you worry the more you bring the anxiety on.im always good with my anxiety for the first 6 months then it just gets worse i think like you i become scared of committment and of them leaving me and i put pressure on myself to not let my anxiety win.try to not let yourself worry too much.