ICC
01-13-2007, 06:22 PM
Ladies who are post menopause. Sid i know you are but I am not sure of ages. Most of the girls are young so it might be me and you. Had the last one on march 11, 2004. Yes i was thrilled so i remember the date well. Am done with all the hot flashes and night sweats thank God. it took two full years but I am comfortable. question??? every month around the 11th I am PMS. and I mean PMS. the irritibility, insomnia, cravings, bloating, fatigue:yawn: all of it. only lasts a couple of days but I find I now get depressed and very anxious. would like to cry for maybe 2 days all day. Do you think there is any link between being post-menaopause emotions and PTSD, anxiety, depression? I know this might sound like a dumb question But it just seems my emotions go crazy around this time and I guess I am not sure if that's what it is or if the sadness will come and go like this for awhile due to the PTSD. I know i'm rambling but i'm not sure if i'm wording it in a way that makes sense.:dizzy:
Hugs,
PMS ICC:D
Hugs,
PMS ICC:D
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stick2013
01-13-2007, 07:30 PM
Dear ICC,
I think that this one is strictly Menopausal. I get the bloated crap around the time that I would have at that "wonderful time of the month." Sometimes I get a little emotional too. But I think it's menopausal, and NOT related to PTSD. But that's just my opinion. Hang in there this to shall pass. Although I still have hot flashes...................:blob_fire :blob_fire
Hugs,
Sid
I think that this one is strictly Menopausal. I get the bloated crap around the time that I would have at that "wonderful time of the month." Sometimes I get a little emotional too. But I think it's menopausal, and NOT related to PTSD. But that's just my opinion. Hang in there this to shall pass. Although I still have hot flashes...................:blob_fire :blob_fire
Hugs,
Sid
Phoenix
01-13-2007, 07:31 PM
Dear ICC,
From what I know of post menopause, there is less estrogen produced. This can cause fluctuations in moods and even massive symptoms of depression.
You've had your cycle regularly throughout your life and it could be that your body is still on that same monthly biological "time clock."
Having PTSD, in my estimation, would only intensify situations.
As you have limited the discussion to mood variations, I will stick to the topic.(i'm learning:) ).
Take care
God Bless:angel:
FTM
From what I know of post menopause, there is less estrogen produced. This can cause fluctuations in moods and even massive symptoms of depression.
You've had your cycle regularly throughout your life and it could be that your body is still on that same monthly biological "time clock."
Having PTSD, in my estimation, would only intensify situations.
As you have limited the discussion to mood variations, I will stick to the topic.(i'm learning:) ).
Take care
God Bless:angel:
FTM
Lost_in_Time
01-13-2007, 08:09 PM
Awwwwwwwwwww, man!! The "other" stuff has been so bad all my life that I have soooooo looked forward to menopause. You have just burst my bubble about it!!! :) Which is worse though???
stick2013
01-13-2007, 08:13 PM
Dearest lost,
With this information.....you will probably run to the nearest hospital and check in... MENOPAUSE is WORSE!!!!! At least that's my opinion.....
Hugs,
Sid
ps......I loved your post, I smiled then laughed......
With this information.....you will probably run to the nearest hospital and check in... MENOPAUSE is WORSE!!!!! At least that's my opinion.....
Hugs,
Sid
ps......I loved your post, I smiled then laughed......
Lost_in_Time
01-13-2007, 08:18 PM
Oh, dear, I was living for menopause..........
ICC
01-13-2007, 08:21 PM
Lost --- i agree with Sid that was great.I also lived for meno. mother and sister both had hysterechtomys (my spelling stinks) and I used to ask the dr. what he had against me that he wouldn't give me one. I am sooooooo happy to be rid of "it" but have to say the years of perimenopause were not at all easy and the first two years of meno I thought i would lose my mind with the constant sweating day and night. covers on , cover off. Sid I have been lucky to have gotten rid of all that but my belly is now alot lower than it used to be:blob_fire and so are other body parts:D :D :D :D I thought this was possible to have PMS symptoms and that's all it was since it's the exact time of the month. I guess this will go on forever. :dizzy:
FTM----I invited you. if you have education on meno which I am sure you do please add to the mix. I wasn't sure if the mood swings were from that or my emotional disorders. it's so hard to tell sometimes. Nothing is wrong and when I thought of the date that's when it hit. me. Just more complications. after all between you, Sid and myself you are the only one getting pregnant.:jester:
Love you guys,
ICCxo:wave:
FTM----I invited you. if you have education on meno which I am sure you do please add to the mix. I wasn't sure if the mood swings were from that or my emotional disorders. it's so hard to tell sometimes. Nothing is wrong and when I thought of the date that's when it hit. me. Just more complications. after all between you, Sid and myself you are the only one getting pregnant.:jester:
Love you guys,
ICCxo:wave:
stick2013
01-13-2007, 08:21 PM
Dear lost.....
I would rather DIE for PTSD, than to EVER have to go through MENOPAUSE.....
Hugs,
Sid
I would rather DIE for PTSD, than to EVER have to go through MENOPAUSE.....
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
01-13-2007, 08:26 PM
Sid----did you have a horrible time?:eek: I guess you really just answered that. How long to it go on through peri into meno?
Lost-----what's up? are you having probelms in that area? or do you just hate it?
ICC:blob_fire
Lost-----what's up? are you having probelms in that area? or do you just hate it?
ICC:blob_fire
Lost_in_Time
01-13-2007, 08:28 PM
Okay, will leave the topic of menopause. It's too depressing!!! (Only half joking/serious about that.)
Yes, to whoever asked me. I have had severe periods all my life AND I hate it.
Yes, to whoever asked me. I have had severe periods all my life AND I hate it.
ICC
01-13-2007, 08:39 PM
Lost------ my sister was like that. suffered each time. cramps to the point where she would miss 2 days of school or work a month. I was lucky . never had a problem until I got whacky through peri-menopause. Everyone is different. I feel if you need something to stabilize your mood especially if it's hormone related and there is a real possibility that your hormones are making matters worse the Gyn is the guy for the job. I'm not an avid believer in HRT but if it's needed then it's needed. I figure why suffer anymore than you have to when there's help out there. ok i'll let the menopause go for now since it's depressing you. Some day all the crap you go through will be over.
Love you , keep safe and I will pray that ther eare no power outages. I must live in the dark as I didn't even know there was a storm out there.
Crazy ICC:jester:
Love you , keep safe and I will pray that ther eare no power outages. I must live in the dark as I didn't even know there was a storm out there.
Crazy ICC:jester:
stick2013
01-13-2007, 08:42 PM
ICC,
First hot flash was at 41....I am 53 now. Not as many, but they are still with me. The mood swings, night sweats, hot flashes, irritability, bed periods, no periods, light ones, AWFUL one, cramps, migraines, headaches, swelling, you name it.... I HAD IT.......
Like I said I would rather DIE from PTSD than ever LIVE for MENOPAUSE......
Hugs,
Sid
First hot flash was at 41....I am 53 now. Not as many, but they are still with me. The mood swings, night sweats, hot flashes, irritability, bed periods, no periods, light ones, AWFUL one, cramps, migraines, headaches, swelling, you name it.... I HAD IT.......
Like I said I would rather DIE from PTSD than ever LIVE for MENOPAUSE......
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
01-13-2007, 08:48 PM
I often wonder how women cope with problems like that and how they live day to day life feeling like crap. How was childbirth? Easy/hard/long???:eek:
ICC
ICC
hergy
01-14-2007, 02:27 AM
I have long dreaded menopause. I'm getting closer. Oh, boy.:dizzy:
I have Bipolar I, PTSD and a bit of other crap. I've been aware of the effects of the curse after the 'curse' for a long time. For now, I have 2 weeks of mad PMS, a long, painful period, and one week of 'normal' me.:rolleyes:
I'm a moody, crazybox already. Though my childbearing years are not pleasant, I dread menopause even more. What will the world do with me when my hormones start exploding into wild action?!:eek: There's no medication to heal what will ail me.:(
Man, I hope it will at least hold off until I get a few issues under control.
I feel for you ICC and Sid. I truly do. You are genuine troopers. Hot flashes - ugh!:mad: I won't be the first and not the last.
With all there is to contend with, it's wierd that many women still tend to live a bit longer than men.
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
Nikki
I have Bipolar I, PTSD and a bit of other crap. I've been aware of the effects of the curse after the 'curse' for a long time. For now, I have 2 weeks of mad PMS, a long, painful period, and one week of 'normal' me.:rolleyes:
I'm a moody, crazybox already. Though my childbearing years are not pleasant, I dread menopause even more. What will the world do with me when my hormones start exploding into wild action?!:eek: There's no medication to heal what will ail me.:(
Man, I hope it will at least hold off until I get a few issues under control.
I feel for you ICC and Sid. I truly do. You are genuine troopers. Hot flashes - ugh!:mad: I won't be the first and not the last.
With all there is to contend with, it's wierd that many women still tend to live a bit longer than men.
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
Nikki
isitme
01-14-2007, 07:09 AM
icc -Did you read my mind? Seriously, over the last couple of days, I debated posting here about the same thing. Funny, it was suggested by family that I was going through the change when I was 1st depressed, (family couldn't possibly think it was due to me having mental problems)! I am waiting for the end of periods and can't wait to be free of all that stuff. Anyway, I'd like to make a point. It was at the same time that my periods disappeared (for a few months) that this new anxiety problem occured. I was wondering if it was just a coincidence? I've never needed anxiolytics on top of the AD's. And since a period, my mood has lifted too. PS - all has headed south with me too. You are not alone.:)
ICC
01-14-2007, 09:11 AM
good morning ladies and FTM------- red , you are too funny:jester: "the curse after the curse" i love it and it gave me a good laugh. I know you said you are around 35, am I right?
isitme----Yes that's what I went through for years even with dr.s. it wasn't the PTSD or anxiety it was MENOPAUSE as far as they were concerned. 2 years after going through it the effects are still there as i'm sure sid will agreee and who knows if they ever go away. But have diminished immensely except for the 2-3 days around the time i would have gooten one. how old are you?
I ask your ages because my oldest is 34 and from what she is describing to me I belive she in in the early stages of peri-menopause. Hot flashes have started, 2 weeks of every month she wants to kill eveyone who comes near her, a bad period and then one week of feeling like herself. she also has what she calls "brain fog" that makes her crazy. allergies????sinuses????? she's been told hormones have something to do with it so that also is worse 3 weeks out of the month.I never suffered from depression until a couple of years before period ended and the anxiety and insomnia got 10 times worse.
Just one more thing women have to deal with. Sorry FTM but we got childbirth and meno.:p
Love to all,
ICC xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
isitme----Yes that's what I went through for years even with dr.s. it wasn't the PTSD or anxiety it was MENOPAUSE as far as they were concerned. 2 years after going through it the effects are still there as i'm sure sid will agreee and who knows if they ever go away. But have diminished immensely except for the 2-3 days around the time i would have gooten one. how old are you?
I ask your ages because my oldest is 34 and from what she is describing to me I belive she in in the early stages of peri-menopause. Hot flashes have started, 2 weeks of every month she wants to kill eveyone who comes near her, a bad period and then one week of feeling like herself. she also has what she calls "brain fog" that makes her crazy. allergies????sinuses????? she's been told hormones have something to do with it so that also is worse 3 weeks out of the month.I never suffered from depression until a couple of years before period ended and the anxiety and insomnia got 10 times worse.
Just one more thing women have to deal with. Sorry FTM but we got childbirth and meno.:p
Love to all,
ICC xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
isitme
01-14-2007, 09:28 AM
icc - I'm 43. My periods have been eratic, lighter for 6 months or so. Hot flushes, but nothing unbearable. The menopause is yet another avenue to look down. Given my other problems, it's hard to distinguish which symptom belongs to which problem. As regards your daughter. I know my mum went through the change at 30. The Dr said she was probably pregnant given her age, but she never did have that baby!!!!!!:)
stick2013
01-14-2007, 10:51 AM
HI All,
Looking back I see a lot of stuff. First of all I started seeing my GREAT therapist at age 41... The same age as my first hot flash. This was also the time that my ptsd was at it's worst. I mean BAD TIME. This is when EVERYTHING came into a full blown PTSD FLARE UP!!!!! I had always had the "Acting out behavior" as I so call it. eating disorders, drinking, doing things I knew were wrong, anxiety bad, panic even worse, at times not even able to make a simple decision, or changing my mind a thousand times, using sex as a weapon, or to feel bad about myself, or just because I didn't care. or because I confused it with love. (Ok I am giving out way too much info here)
My point is I'm not sure now if it was menopause, or PTSD..
ICC I stated in earlier post that I thought it was just menopause, but I am NOT sure know that I am looking back at me. I really don't know which it was Meno, or PTSD???????
Will have to re think this....Could be the chicken or the egg thing????
Anyway MENOPAUSE SUCKS!!!!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
Looking back I see a lot of stuff. First of all I started seeing my GREAT therapist at age 41... The same age as my first hot flash. This was also the time that my ptsd was at it's worst. I mean BAD TIME. This is when EVERYTHING came into a full blown PTSD FLARE UP!!!!! I had always had the "Acting out behavior" as I so call it. eating disorders, drinking, doing things I knew were wrong, anxiety bad, panic even worse, at times not even able to make a simple decision, or changing my mind a thousand times, using sex as a weapon, or to feel bad about myself, or just because I didn't care. or because I confused it with love. (Ok I am giving out way too much info here)
My point is I'm not sure now if it was menopause, or PTSD..
ICC I stated in earlier post that I thought it was just menopause, but I am NOT sure know that I am looking back at me. I really don't know which it was Meno, or PTSD???????
Will have to re think this....Could be the chicken or the egg thing????
Anyway MENOPAUSE SUCKS!!!!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
01-14-2007, 11:11 AM
Hi all----I have to agree it's very confusing. I am coming to the conclusion that meno is one the the things that flares PTSD off. Same here Sid meno and the worst of my PTSD all at the same time. had the PTSD and GAD symptoms blown off for years since the dr.s believed it was just hormonal. we know that not to be but i do believe there is a link to hormones or should i say lack of that aggravated any emotional disorder.
Isitme--what do you think?
ICC:dizzy:
Isitme--what do you think?
ICC:dizzy:
isitme
01-14-2007, 11:21 AM
:dizzy: :dizzy: I have 'board overload'. I need time out.:dizzy: :dizzy: I'll be back later!:)
stick2013
01-14-2007, 11:24 AM
isitme,
You are way to cute.....
Hugs,
Sid
ICC,
Yup now that I look back I am really confused too. Weird?????
Hugs,
Sid
You are way to cute.....
Hugs,
Sid
ICC,
Yup now that I look back I am really confused too. Weird?????
Hugs,
Sid
hergy
01-14-2007, 02:54 PM
red , you are too funny:jester: "the curse after the curse" i love it and it gave me a good laugh. I know you said you are around 35, am I right?
Right now I wish I could tell you I'm 25.:(
Yes, I'll be 35 this month. I don't have hot flashes or irregular periods. I've had sinus and allergy problems and mood difficulties all my life. And Aunt Flow has never been a good friend to me. But I'd choose her companionship over menopause any day. I wish I could skip it and go directly to post menopause.
Right now I wish I could tell you I'm 25.:(
Yes, I'll be 35 this month. I don't have hot flashes or irregular periods. I've had sinus and allergy problems and mood difficulties all my life. And Aunt Flow has never been a good friend to me. But I'd choose her companionship over menopause any day. I wish I could skip it and go directly to post menopause.
isitme
01-15-2007, 05:46 AM
icc - I've had a think now.
I believe starting the menopause HAS hindered the progress I had made. I felt so good several months ago, I was debating coming off the Ad's. I felt an inner peace within myself. I had conquered my 'need' to drink. I even debated quitting smoking. Then, for what I saw as no reason at all, I completely nose dived into a deep depression. The anxiety went wild. Then I arrived here.........:)
I believe starting the menopause HAS hindered the progress I had made. I felt so good several months ago, I was debating coming off the Ad's. I felt an inner peace within myself. I had conquered my 'need' to drink. I even debated quitting smoking. Then, for what I saw as no reason at all, I completely nose dived into a deep depression. The anxiety went wild. Then I arrived here.........:)
ICC
01-15-2007, 06:50 AM
isitme---i posted an answer to something you asked and it disappeared and now i have no idea where and what. sorry. i'll figure it out. computer problems yesterday . Sid and I both agreed that somehwere in our 40's the PTSD/anxiety/depression got worse and that's when we sought help. I don think the hormone unbalance adds to it but doesn't cause it. mayb eit makes itso much worse that that's when we can't stand anymore and seek help. I think it's and age thing also. you reach a certain age and know that life should not be like this.
red----I am making you resident comedian :jester: first it was Sid and then FTM, it's your turn. My sister-in-law at a party at her house years ago said "Aunt Flow' was coming. and I asked her what time:blob_fire My daughters and I have always called it "freddie" after freddie kruger. that's how much they love it;)
ICC
red----I am making you resident comedian :jester: first it was Sid and then FTM, it's your turn. My sister-in-law at a party at her house years ago said "Aunt Flow' was coming. and I asked her what time:blob_fire My daughters and I have always called it "freddie" after freddie kruger. that's how much they love it;)
ICC
hergy
01-20-2007, 03:41 AM
My sister-in-law at a party at her house years ago said "Aunt Flow' was coming. and I asked her what time:blob_fire My daughters and I have always called it "freddie" after freddie kruger. that's how much they love it;)
That's hilarious, ICC.:D That's professional comedy.:jester:
That's hilarious, ICC.:D That's professional comedy.:jester:
ICC
01-20-2007, 07:20 AM
and I was in my 40's red and had no idea who "aunt flow"was:D Feeling better?
ICC
ICC
hergy
01-21-2007, 01:02 AM
Feeling better?
Not totally, but I'm getting there. Thanks so much for your support and comfort. The nurturing is MUCH appreciated.:)
Love,
Nikki
Not totally, but I'm getting there. Thanks so much for your support and comfort. The nurturing is MUCH appreciated.:)
Love,
Nikki
stick2013
01-21-2007, 11:34 AM
Dear Nikki,
When menopause hits, you will WISH that you were born a man..... I have for years now......LOL!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
When menopause hits, you will WISH that you were born a man..... I have for years now......LOL!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
Lost_in_Time
01-21-2007, 05:08 PM
Okay, after saying that I was leaving this thread (and I did), I came back today to see if the discussion got any better. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Y'all are still scaring me!! I thought menopause was going to be a GOOD thing!! I've spent one week a month for the past 27 years in misery. The only hope was that SOMEDAY this was going to stop. I can't believe it could be worse than this!!! So, I"m just not going to believe you!!! :) I have to hold onto the hope that something better comes...sometime...somewhere...someway..
I have, the past year, had trouble with my uterus putting pressure on my bladder. It kind of comes and goes. I thought that if it does GO then I can live with it. But, my stomach has been hurting for about a month now. I don't know if it's the bladder or something else. It worries me, but I'm NOT a doctor-going person either. I applaud the person (I"ve forgotten who..names all run together for me..was it red_five??) who has made the dr's appointment. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I went to the doctor for the first time only since the T has helped me to overcome that fear and to be able to go. I haven't ever had a pelvic exam and only saw this doctor briefly who told me the uterus was pushing on the bladder. I'm not even sure he really knew what he was talking about. I think I had sometime more like an ovarian cyst that finally burst..that's when I got better. NOW, with this new pain, I dont' know what it is......
Okay..that's my whine for the day.......i hate doctors....
I have, the past year, had trouble with my uterus putting pressure on my bladder. It kind of comes and goes. I thought that if it does GO then I can live with it. But, my stomach has been hurting for about a month now. I don't know if it's the bladder or something else. It worries me, but I'm NOT a doctor-going person either. I applaud the person (I"ve forgotten who..names all run together for me..was it red_five??) who has made the dr's appointment. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I went to the doctor for the first time only since the T has helped me to overcome that fear and to be able to go. I haven't ever had a pelvic exam and only saw this doctor briefly who told me the uterus was pushing on the bladder. I'm not even sure he really knew what he was talking about. I think I had sometime more like an ovarian cyst that finally burst..that's when I got better. NOW, with this new pain, I dont' know what it is......
Okay..that's my whine for the day.......i hate doctors....
stick2013
01-21-2007, 07:23 PM
Dear lost,
I recommend that you go see a GYN Dr. I had cervical cancer when I was in my early 20's. It's nothing to fool around with. My cousin died of Uterine cancer at the age of 41, she left 4 children under the age of 18. It's not something that I look forward too either(I just had mine on Friday) but it's a lot better than cancer. So please re-think this issue.......
Hugs,
Sid
I recommend that you go see a GYN Dr. I had cervical cancer when I was in my early 20's. It's nothing to fool around with. My cousin died of Uterine cancer at the age of 41, she left 4 children under the age of 18. It's not something that I look forward too either(I just had mine on Friday) but it's a lot better than cancer. So please re-think this issue.......
Hugs,
Sid
Lost_in_Time
01-21-2007, 07:28 PM
It's a real phobia. Hard to deal with, kind of like PTSD. It's not really a matter of "reconsidering." Thanks.....
stick2013
01-21-2007, 07:30 PM
Dear lost,
Would you consider going to a female GYN????
Sid
Would you consider going to a female GYN????
Sid
hergy
01-21-2007, 07:43 PM
When menopause hits, you will WISH that you were born a man..... I have for years now......LOL!!!!!
Aw, thanks, Sid, you know just how to bring peace to my heart.:rolleyes:
The ONLY comfort I've ever seen in this matter is that I know I'm not going to be the only one. I envy your strength and humor, NOT your hot flashes and hormone frenzy.:)
Love and hugs and an icy wind for every burning evening,
Nikki
Aw, thanks, Sid, you know just how to bring peace to my heart.:rolleyes:
The ONLY comfort I've ever seen in this matter is that I know I'm not going to be the only one. I envy your strength and humor, NOT your hot flashes and hormone frenzy.:)
Love and hugs and an icy wind for every burning evening,
Nikki
stick2013
01-21-2007, 07:49 PM
Dear Red,
Don't laugh, but when the hot flashes were at there worst, and it was winter..... I would stand outside. My neighbors would just giggle and say,"HHHMMM 'nother hot flash?" I wanted to punch their lights out, and stuff them in a microwave oven for about 5 minutes. Then open the door, smile, and say,"'nother hot flash?"
Hugs,
Sid
Don't laugh, but when the hot flashes were at there worst, and it was winter..... I would stand outside. My neighbors would just giggle and say,"HHHMMM 'nother hot flash?" I wanted to punch their lights out, and stuff them in a microwave oven for about 5 minutes. Then open the door, smile, and say,"'nother hot flash?"
Hugs,
Sid
hergy
01-21-2007, 08:05 PM
I applaud the person (I"ve forgotten who..names all run together for me..was it red_five??) who has made the dr's appointment. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH....I haven't ever had a pelvic exam...NOW, with this new pain, I dont' know what it is....
Thanks for the applause, LiT.:wave:
It wasn't easy and I'm sure the closer that appointment gets, the more anxiety I'll have.:dizzy: But, after I made the appointment, I already felt more powerful, like I'M in charge of me for a change.
Since my cancer in 2004, my doctors informed me that I'm at a higher risk for any kind of cancer now. The psychologist on my cancer team said that she perfectly understood why I had never had a pelvic exam, but that at least addressing the root of the issue in therapy is worth it in order to take charge of my physical health.
I'm not ok about those issues that have kept me away from pelvic exams, but waiting could be a very bad mistake for me. I'm not aware of any pressing reproductive problems, but a check-up is very important.
You do have an issue that needs prompt attention. You deserve the peace of mind that comes with taking care of yourself. It's an amazing hurdle, but you can do it.
There are some special folks on this board whose cyber bodies will be in the exam room with me, along with one who will be outside the door since he's a guy.:)
Grab hold of your life, give it a love squeeze and push your special self to the doctor's office. Make known your concerns. I did. Most doctors are very willing to gently guide you through. You can do it. Your body deserves the best health you can get.
Love and a cyber hand to hold,
Nikki
Thanks for the applause, LiT.:wave:
It wasn't easy and I'm sure the closer that appointment gets, the more anxiety I'll have.:dizzy: But, after I made the appointment, I already felt more powerful, like I'M in charge of me for a change.
Since my cancer in 2004, my doctors informed me that I'm at a higher risk for any kind of cancer now. The psychologist on my cancer team said that she perfectly understood why I had never had a pelvic exam, but that at least addressing the root of the issue in therapy is worth it in order to take charge of my physical health.
I'm not ok about those issues that have kept me away from pelvic exams, but waiting could be a very bad mistake for me. I'm not aware of any pressing reproductive problems, but a check-up is very important.
You do have an issue that needs prompt attention. You deserve the peace of mind that comes with taking care of yourself. It's an amazing hurdle, but you can do it.
There are some special folks on this board whose cyber bodies will be in the exam room with me, along with one who will be outside the door since he's a guy.:)
Grab hold of your life, give it a love squeeze and push your special self to the doctor's office. Make known your concerns. I did. Most doctors are very willing to gently guide you through. You can do it. Your body deserves the best health you can get.
Love and a cyber hand to hold,
Nikki
hergy
01-21-2007, 08:16 PM
Don't laugh, but when the hot flashes were at there worst, and it was winter..... I would stand outside. My neighbors would just giggle and say,"HHHMMM 'nother hot flash?" I wanted to punch their lights out, and stuff them in a microwave oven for about 5 minutes. Then open the door, smile, and say,"'nother hot flash?"
:D :D :D :D
That would be an AWESOME comeback, Sid! I'd help you stuff 'em in!:blob_fire
Believe me, I would NEVER laugh at you standing in the cold with a hot flash. Makes perfect sense.
I read a lot, so I've known for a long time what I have to NOT look forward to with menopause. I have nothing but sympathy and support for any woman who's in the throws of the post-curse curse.
Love,
Nikki
:D :D :D :D
That would be an AWESOME comeback, Sid! I'd help you stuff 'em in!:blob_fire
Believe me, I would NEVER laugh at you standing in the cold with a hot flash. Makes perfect sense.
I read a lot, so I've known for a long time what I have to NOT look forward to with menopause. I have nothing but sympathy and support for any woman who's in the throws of the post-curse curse.
Love,
Nikki
Lost_in_Time
01-21-2007, 11:33 PM
Okay...now, I have a new fear to add to the list........think I'll go cry awhile....I just can't go to the doctor......I don't know how.....its not you guys.......it's just me........
hergy
01-22-2007, 12:36 AM
Okay...now, I have a new fear to add to the list........think I'll go cry awhile....I just can't go to the doctor......I don't know how.....its not you guys.......it's just me........
I'm so sorry if I scared you. It was never my intention. I'm in the same boat as you. I understand. Please know that. I'm so sorry.
I was there. I am there. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone with those difficulties. Regardless, I know I've got to do it.
If necessary, they can give you a mild sedative. They can't put a person to sleep for this procedure, but they can relax you.
Cancer is NOT commonly found during pelvic exams. I have a history, so that's my push.
But it's important for every woman to know the health status of her entire body.
Again, I'm so sorry for frightening you.
I'm so sorry if I scared you. It was never my intention. I'm in the same boat as you. I understand. Please know that. I'm so sorry.
I was there. I am there. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone with those difficulties. Regardless, I know I've got to do it.
If necessary, they can give you a mild sedative. They can't put a person to sleep for this procedure, but they can relax you.
Cancer is NOT commonly found during pelvic exams. I have a history, so that's my push.
But it's important for every woman to know the health status of her entire body.
Again, I'm so sorry for frightening you.
Administrator
03-31-2007, 07:56 PM
This is not a subject to be discussed on the Post Traumatic Stress Board. Use the closest appropriate board.
Cancer is not automatically linked to menopause or bladder issues, either, so please discuss cancer on one of the Cancer Boards.
Thanks.
Cancer is not automatically linked to menopause or bladder issues, either, so please discuss cancer on one of the Cancer Boards.
Thanks.