I suppose this is a strange place to be asking for advice about this, but I have no one that I can really talk to who won't go "OMG" and inflate the problem.

So, my two boys were hanging out in the bedroom last night, which is fairly normal behaviour.. but I try and go in and the bigger one has blocked the door and says .. just a minute. I force my way in and my 5 yo is standing there trying to pull his shorts up and there is a smell of "bum" in the air .. ( if you know what i mean?) I ask what was going on and my 9 yo says my younger one was jumping on the bed and his pants fell down. I sent my 9 yo to bed and then sat down and talked to 5 . He said his big brother was sucking his penis and licking his bum and stuck his finger up his bum and it stinged. I wasn't sure what to do.. I asked if he was ok and gave him a cuddle and then went to talk to the older one.

He stuck to the story of the bed jumping for ages even after I told him that master 5 had told me what happened. I never told him what master 5 said, but all of a sudden he changed his story and said master 5 had done it to him not he to him (know what I mean?) and he couldn't stop him.

I feel sick about this.. and I feel like a bad parent for saying this, but I tend to believe my 5 yo, my 9yo has a tendency of looking me in the eye and lying about everything.

I think is is kinda normal for kids to experiment a little.. but not to this extent..especially at this age and not with your own brother.. and now I freak everytime I can't find both of them.

I am fairly certain my 9yo has never been abused. As 100% sure as a person can be about my husband and he has never stayed at anyones house or camps or anything. He is really never away from me apart from school. I just don't know where the behaviour has come from. Should I talk to a doctor? Something?


Words of advise comments etc would be appreciated.

i think it's quite normal for children to experiment a bit, but not at this level. i didnt know what oral sex was until i was about 16. i was a very late bloomer. i can see that you're also an australian so im assuming you know the tv program, "home and away." i used to be a regular watcher of this show. i started watching it when i was about six years old. obviously things that happen on this tv program as with other soaps are not things that happen in real life. its just a big drama. there is always relationships in these programs and all the school kids making out with each other etc. so when i was about 8 or 9, so probably about your son's age, i grabbed my 2 brothers and sister and hopped into bed with my bro and started kissing him trying to be like the tv show. i got my other brother and sister who were twins to do the same thing. this was a once only thing. mum came in and saw that we had been up to something and i walked past her and said everythings cool and that was that. about 10 years ago there was a little boy and girl(not brother and sister) who lived up the road both aged 4 and they used to come up to me and say guess what we did? we kissed under mummy and daddys bed. so it's not uncommon for childen to have a peck with another child, but obviously this situation with your boys is more than just a peck. do u have the internet at home? if so, your boys might be looking at porno websites without u knowing. one suggestion i can offer to u if u have the net, is to get a password so they cant access the net, that way they can only access it when you're in the same room as them. as for shows like home and away or neighbours, i dont believe they are damaging to a child. well i didnt do anything out of the ordinary as a teenager but certain situations on these programs like teen pregnancy, suicide, death, relationships can be quite confusing for a child. they may not understand whats going on. if u allow your children to watch these programs, u can always sit down and watch it with them, that way u can explain to them whats going on if they dont understand. as for a doctor, i guess it depends how bad the situation is and if thats all he's thinking about. my 13 year old cousin wanted a mobile phone real bad. his parents said no and that he can save up for one himself as they are not going to keep paying for his credit. he bought a phone out of his own money when he saved up enough. he showed me his phone and it had naked women on it from the internet. he then tried kissing me and stuff and i asked him not to saying you are 13 years old. i said u should be out playing sport, climbing trees, not worrying about girls. i was quite concerned with his behaviour and told his parents and they didnt seem to be too concerned but as a parent i know i would be. if u feel that your boys should speak to a doctor or a councillor about this then go for it. it's up to you whether u feel comfortable talking to them about it or if u think its better if they hear it from a stranger. good luck with everything!