stick2013
01-22-2007, 04:03 PM
HI kiddo,
Ok, so where are you??? Have you finished painting the house yet. Or are you trying to get all gussied up for when hubby gets home???? What is it about 4 weeks now?????
Hello.............................. Where are u?????
Hugs,
Sid
Ok, so where are you??? Have you finished painting the house yet. Or are you trying to get all gussied up for when hubby gets home???? What is it about 4 weeks now?????
Hello.............................. Where are u?????
Hugs,
Sid
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Phoenix
01-23-2007, 05:06 AM
Dear dustoff,
Please "dust off" the computer keyboards and give us a shout.:)
Take care all
God Bless all:angel:
FTM
Please "dust off" the computer keyboards and give us a shout.:)
Take care all
God Bless all:angel:
FTM
dustoffkid
01-23-2007, 03:09 PM
thanks, guys,
No I am definitely NOT lurking....
I am still painting, thanks for asking (and it looks good), fixing stuff around the house and all that- also getting together a list of things I will need to do for moving and for a new job :D . Oh, and yes, about 4 weeks till hubby's return.
I don't really want to go into symptomology too much whilst at work, as this is a government computer and I don't need the stigma.
I promise I shall make better attempts from home.
Hugs to all!
dustoff
No I am definitely NOT lurking....
I am still painting, thanks for asking (and it looks good), fixing stuff around the house and all that- also getting together a list of things I will need to do for moving and for a new job :D . Oh, and yes, about 4 weeks till hubby's return.
I don't really want to go into symptomology too much whilst at work, as this is a government computer and I don't need the stigma.
I promise I shall make better attempts from home.
Hugs to all!
dustoff
stick2013
01-23-2007, 04:37 PM
Hi Dustoff,
Just do US ALL a favor......Check in hon once in awhile ok... We really do worry. Glad that things are going great... Do you want to paint my apartment??? I asked you that before and you didn't answer..... :jester: 4 weeks huh.......You must be ONE ANTSY LADY. I feel so sorry for hubby when he gets home......LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL heheheheheheeheh Poor guy will need a vacation after you get done with him.
I am so happy that things are going ok.....
Talk to you soon.
Love n hugs,
Sid
Just do US ALL a favor......Check in hon once in awhile ok... We really do worry. Glad that things are going great... Do you want to paint my apartment??? I asked you that before and you didn't answer..... :jester: 4 weeks huh.......You must be ONE ANTSY LADY. I feel so sorry for hubby when he gets home......LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL heheheheheheeheh Poor guy will need a vacation after you get done with him.
I am so happy that things are going ok.....
Talk to you soon.
Love n hugs,
Sid
Phoenix
01-25-2007, 08:13 AM
Dear dustoff,
Whats going on? I haven't heard from you in a few.
Take care
God Bless:angel:
FTM
Whats going on? I haven't heard from you in a few.
Take care
God Bless:angel:
FTM
dustoffkid
01-25-2007, 08:15 AM
I'll be on later to talk... hubby got extended for an extra 4 friggin months.
Phoenix
01-25-2007, 08:17 AM
"Bummer":confused: Let's definitely talk later.
stick2013
01-25-2007, 11:03 AM
Dustoff,
I am not in a great place right now emotionally or physically, but when I read your post I just had to pop in and tell you how sorry I am for you.. Oh hon, I a am really so sorry. I will talk to you when I am feeling a little better..
Hugs
Sid
I am not in a great place right now emotionally or physically, but when I read your post I just had to pop in and tell you how sorry I am for you.. Oh hon, I a am really so sorry. I will talk to you when I am feeling a little better..
Hugs
Sid
dustoffkid
01-25-2007, 03:38 PM
I've had a bad day with this one, guys- I found out last night and the Army handled it all bass-ackwards; instead of being just upset in general I am pissed off specifically at the command and the media and the way that they handled this.
I slept poorly last night and am fearing bedtime tonight as the stress is making me jumpy and antsy (I'm sure some of you can relate). I got home and shoveled the entire driveway by hand yesterday- I hoped the exercise would help me burn off some of the angry energy- never stopping to think of the bulging and herniated discs in my lumbar spine. Needless to say that besides my considerable mental agitation I also have much pain today.
I will be online to say hi (and maybe lurk a bit) tomorrow; I will be back for more substantial communication over the weekend.
dustoff
I slept poorly last night and am fearing bedtime tonight as the stress is making me jumpy and antsy (I'm sure some of you can relate). I got home and shoveled the entire driveway by hand yesterday- I hoped the exercise would help me burn off some of the angry energy- never stopping to think of the bulging and herniated discs in my lumbar spine. Needless to say that besides my considerable mental agitation I also have much pain today.
I will be online to say hi (and maybe lurk a bit) tomorrow; I will be back for more substantial communication over the weekend.
dustoff
Phoenix
01-26-2007, 07:27 AM
Dear dustoff,
How did you :yawn: sleep?:
Take care
God Bless:angel:
FTM
How did you :yawn: sleep?:
Take care
God Bless:angel:
FTM
dustoffkid
01-26-2007, 08:53 AM
Surprisingly well. I did have deams and I tossed and turned a bit, but not bad compared to other nights. Of course, typical of me I have been ministering to everyone elses' freakouts about this and probably haven't taken the time to assimilate it myself yet. Who knows when it will hit? :)
The doggy is a great comfort to me, believe it or not. She has been very cuddly and quiet the last couple of days (they always do know something's up, don't they?) and I don't know what I would do without her. She doesn't talk, she just leans her little doggy self up against me and sighs. What a doll. Maybe she could teach some people how to behave. ;)
It's insanely cold here, windchills in the -20's, and so no walks for Dustoff and Sadie... I just go home and bundle up on the chair with the dog.
Thanks, y'all, you are the best online family a girl could have.
The doggy is a great comfort to me, believe it or not. She has been very cuddly and quiet the last couple of days (they always do know something's up, don't they?) and I don't know what I would do without her. She doesn't talk, she just leans her little doggy self up against me and sighs. What a doll. Maybe she could teach some people how to behave. ;)
It's insanely cold here, windchills in the -20's, and so no walks for Dustoff and Sadie... I just go home and bundle up on the chair with the dog.
Thanks, y'all, you are the best online family a girl could have.
Phoenix
01-26-2007, 09:00 AM
Dear dustoff,
With the wind chill factor here, we are looking at 6 below.
I went outside and began walking but didn't feel too much; it was on the return that it dawned on me that I have nerve damage a:dizzy and can barely feel anything:eek: .
Take care
God Bless FTM
With the wind chill factor here, we are looking at 6 below.
I went outside and began walking but didn't feel too much; it was on the return that it dawned on me that I have nerve damage a:dizzy and can barely feel anything:eek: .
Take care
God Bless FTM
dustoffkid
01-26-2007, 09:33 AM
FTM-
I feel ya.
I'm just glad that she doen't want to be outside any more than I do (it hurts her feet); I don't have to feel guilty about bringing her in before she has investigated every inch of the river road, there and back. :D
I have nerve damage in my leg, and some in my back- not fun.
I hope you are feeling OK (as OK as possible), my friend. Stay inside and take care of yourself.
dustoff
I feel ya.
I'm just glad that she doen't want to be outside any more than I do (it hurts her feet); I don't have to feel guilty about bringing her in before she has investigated every inch of the river road, there and back. :D
I have nerve damage in my leg, and some in my back- not fun.
I hope you are feeling OK (as OK as possible), my friend. Stay inside and take care of yourself.
dustoff
Phoenix
01-26-2007, 09:37 AM
Dear dustoff,
What's eating at you? (and please don't say "nothing")
What's eating at you? (and please don't say "nothing")
dustoffkid
01-26-2007, 09:56 AM
What do you mean?
Right now the stress of this news about hubby is bad. Partly because of the news itself, and partly because I actually work on post and we have the TV on, the local news is covering it overandoverandover again...like "where's that bruise? Let me POKE it again for you." And all the other spouses are wandering around with the "Woe is me" attitude and I am sick of it. But I can't stay home.
I know I sound terribly intolerant, but it's OK to want to be upset and pissed off and all that for myself, right? Do I have to wear it on my sleeve and let everyone give me false empathy (or sympathy)? They act like there is something wrong with me because I don't want to moan about it all day. I'd rather try to be as positive as I can and help other people. I have found through LONG experience that this is actually therapeutic for me, and I won't stop, even if they call me Pollyanna.
OK, y'all wanted me talking, now ya have it. Let's see if I ever stop.
Thanks, friend, for caring.
dustoff
Right now the stress of this news about hubby is bad. Partly because of the news itself, and partly because I actually work on post and we have the TV on, the local news is covering it overandoverandover again...like "where's that bruise? Let me POKE it again for you." And all the other spouses are wandering around with the "Woe is me" attitude and I am sick of it. But I can't stay home.
I know I sound terribly intolerant, but it's OK to want to be upset and pissed off and all that for myself, right? Do I have to wear it on my sleeve and let everyone give me false empathy (or sympathy)? They act like there is something wrong with me because I don't want to moan about it all day. I'd rather try to be as positive as I can and help other people. I have found through LONG experience that this is actually therapeutic for me, and I won't stop, even if they call me Pollyanna.
OK, y'all wanted me talking, now ya have it. Let's see if I ever stop.
Thanks, friend, for caring.
dustoff
Phoenix
01-26-2007, 11:35 AM
Now we are getting somewhere.
People percieve that you don't care and most likely equate that to you not caring about your husband very much.
You reserve the right to keep it in, have it gnawing away at your insides, burning you and making your stomach nautious.
If you are alright with that.
Or you could express your dissatisfaction and even though they may not be able to empathize or sympathize but at least it appears normal to them.
Or you could share here and keep talking, for we're all ears and it will be our secret, thus saying "to heck with them.
Or you could tell us why other's perceptions bother you (I may be off, let me know---be gentle).
Keep talking, please.
People percieve that you don't care and most likely equate that to you not caring about your husband very much.
You reserve the right to keep it in, have it gnawing away at your insides, burning you and making your stomach nautious.
If you are alright with that.
Or you could express your dissatisfaction and even though they may not be able to empathize or sympathize but at least it appears normal to them.
Or you could share here and keep talking, for we're all ears and it will be our secret, thus saying "to heck with them.
Or you could tell us why other's perceptions bother you (I may be off, let me know---be gentle).
Keep talking, please.
dustoffkid
01-26-2007, 12:02 PM
I think you misunderstand what I meant (I don't think I expressed it well)...
I have expressed my anger and disappointment. Out loud. In front of people. They have sympathized, empathized, and offered help. This was all appreciated. They know I care about hubby, and about myself.
These are people that I know and respect.
However, there are people here whom I know but who have always treated me with rudeness or barely acknowledged me at all (not that anything happened, they are just rude like that to everybody) and they are suddenly wanting me to talk. I talk to my friends, I talk to you, and I help others who are going through this too. I don't need to make myself a shivering wreck just to satisfy their perceptions of how I am supposed to be reacting.
I'm dealing with it on so many levels in different ways... and the news just keeps pouring in from Afghanistan and none of it is good.
I have expressed my anger and disappointment. Out loud. In front of people. They have sympathized, empathized, and offered help. This was all appreciated. They know I care about hubby, and about myself.
These are people that I know and respect.
However, there are people here whom I know but who have always treated me with rudeness or barely acknowledged me at all (not that anything happened, they are just rude like that to everybody) and they are suddenly wanting me to talk. I talk to my friends, I talk to you, and I help others who are going through this too. I don't need to make myself a shivering wreck just to satisfy their perceptions of how I am supposed to be reacting.
I'm dealing with it on so many levels in different ways... and the news just keeps pouring in from Afghanistan and none of it is good.
Phoenix
01-26-2007, 01:39 PM
Dear dustoff,
You are right, to heck with the insincere ones.
You are right, to heck with the insincere ones.