flowers-madness
01-31-2007, 10:27 PM
Hi everyone, I am new here, and I joined because I feel like I REALLY need some help right away.
[edited]
I realized my first post was a bit too long so I felt I had to revise it.
In hopes of giving a bit of background, I am in the midst of a severe arguement with my boyfriend. It is due to another one of my fits of rage that have began to come on frequently, as of a couple months ago. This happens quite often and he has been frank in telling me that it has brought our relationship to ruin. He feels that I treat him very badly and in spite of my trying to tell him that I really do love him and I agree that I have been abusive, it has come to a point where I honestlt think he has had enough.
At this point I am willing to sacrifice anything to make it work. I accept now that alcohol seems to be what triggers many of my fits of rage and I am ready to stop drinking altogether. I also accept the fact that perhaps I do need proffessional help, and possibly need to be put on meds. I am no doctor but I have self-dignosed myself with bipolar disorder; I am convinced that everything I have read on the subject reflects my behaviors.
What I am asking for is good advice on how to present my problem to him.
I have said before, he has had enough at this point.
He feels that I am abusive.
Right now, he does not want to speak to me. He wants space.
I'm afraid that at this point he would not want to help me.
I NEED to talk to him about this if there is any chance of saving our relationship.
To put it bluntly, How can I get thru to someone who is fed up with my crap? I love him dearly and would sacrifice anything to make him feel loved, and to make our relationship work again.
I am grateful for ANY support, Thank you very much for reading this.
[edited]
I realized my first post was a bit too long so I felt I had to revise it.
In hopes of giving a bit of background, I am in the midst of a severe arguement with my boyfriend. It is due to another one of my fits of rage that have began to come on frequently, as of a couple months ago. This happens quite often and he has been frank in telling me that it has brought our relationship to ruin. He feels that I treat him very badly and in spite of my trying to tell him that I really do love him and I agree that I have been abusive, it has come to a point where I honestlt think he has had enough.
At this point I am willing to sacrifice anything to make it work. I accept now that alcohol seems to be what triggers many of my fits of rage and I am ready to stop drinking altogether. I also accept the fact that perhaps I do need proffessional help, and possibly need to be put on meds. I am no doctor but I have self-dignosed myself with bipolar disorder; I am convinced that everything I have read on the subject reflects my behaviors.
What I am asking for is good advice on how to present my problem to him.
I have said before, he has had enough at this point.
He feels that I am abusive.
Right now, he does not want to speak to me. He wants space.
I'm afraid that at this point he would not want to help me.
I NEED to talk to him about this if there is any chance of saving our relationship.
To put it bluntly, How can I get thru to someone who is fed up with my crap? I love him dearly and would sacrifice anything to make him feel loved, and to make our relationship work again.
I am grateful for ANY support, Thank you very much for reading this.