purplegirl1
02-03-2007, 12:59 AM
So my husband left his job because his boss was harassing him really bad- he worked there for 1 year. He is looking for a full time job and trying to get some sort of job part time just to pay the bills. 2/6 will be 2 weeks he left his job - so almost 2 weeks, and I am freaking out because we have bills to pay and I work but my salary does not cover the bills. We have a little money saved but I don't want to use that I want to keep it saved and I am just obsessing that he won't find a job and we will be in such debt.... any advice to help me?
I have OCD and Depression, on Luvox and go to CBT so I am monitored well but just wanted some peer advice
thanks
I have OCD and Depression, on Luvox and go to CBT so I am monitored well but just wanted some peer advice
thanks
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ocdengineer
02-03-2007, 11:22 AM
If he is actively looking for a job then relax and let him do it. I am sure whatever stress you feel, he feels the same times 2, so any added stress you give him will just make the situatio worse. If he isn't looking for a job then I would be a little worried and maybe he needs help. A lot of times loss of a job can be a pretty traumatic event and he could be depressed however it sounds like this was his decision, so he is probably looking for another job. These things take time, so bear with him and he will figure it out. The important thing is that you two are a team and need to act as one even if things do get bad for awhile otherwise you could lose a marriage over a job and that would just be a shame.
Take care,
OE
Take care,
OE
purplegirl1
02-05-2007, 09:52 PM
thanks for the advice - yes he is looking for a job. I am just "obsessing" and "freaking out" lol... I am learning to relax and deal with what the situation is.. he has some leads and is trying to get a job as a waiter for the time being to pay bills. I have decided to focus on myself a little bit more - work out after work to help myself relax - destress a little and be healthy and busy.. this way I would obsess less. Thanks a bunch..
ocdengineer
02-06-2007, 07:24 AM
Good. Keep him motivated and be supportive. I know job hunting is no fun when you have to do itto keep afloat.
Good luck,
OE
Good luck,
OE

