munchie11
02-04-2007, 08:10 AM
Hi everyone
I had a couple of pretty rough months, but for the past couple of weeks I have been stable and feeling very well. My thing is that whenever I am really happy, I have this fear that something bad will happen to take it away. I am very blessed, I have a wonderful husband and 8yo son and we are a happy family. Maybe I think I don't deserve to be happy, I'm not sure what it is, but when everything is going good, I just feel something terrible is around the corner. Does anyone else feel like this? Maybe I'm used to drama, any of your suggestions would be very much appreciated.
Thanks
Munchie
I had a couple of pretty rough months, but for the past couple of weeks I have been stable and feeling very well. My thing is that whenever I am really happy, I have this fear that something bad will happen to take it away. I am very blessed, I have a wonderful husband and 8yo son and we are a happy family. Maybe I think I don't deserve to be happy, I'm not sure what it is, but when everything is going good, I just feel something terrible is around the corner. Does anyone else feel like this? Maybe I'm used to drama, any of your suggestions would be very much appreciated.
Thanks
Munchie
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Paige1989
02-04-2007, 09:09 AM
I'm in the same boat as you. :S I've had a stable week after a very unstable month and I keep expecting something bad to happen. It's like I can't take happiness on its own; something has to be bad along with it. It's a pain at the best of times, but I'm working on it. I just keep reminding myself that everything doesn't have to be all bad and pray the paranoia settles down. It doesn't always work, but sometimes it does...rarely...
kimber lee
02-04-2007, 09:32 AM
yeah i used to feel this way untill i started taking yoga, believe me i say yoga is the best thing for people with bipolar, i feel that if your lookig for something bad to happen you are sure to finf=d it, stop looking for what you dont know what it is your looking for, wasting time and energy, just take it as it comes . i know its hard not to get those feelings though.
goody2shuz
02-04-2007, 05:08 PM
Hi, I just had to add my two cents worth here;) I think whether you have Bp or not we all seem to go through something similar in terms of our thinking. I know for my BP daughter this is something that she will have to face and learn how to deal with as well.
Thing is, I truly believe that we are all subject to self-fullfilling prophecy, that is, if you really think something bad is going to happen or is coming it eventually will. Isn't that Murphy's Law???
I think that we all will experience the good and bad moments in our lives and that what is most important is living day to day with a positive outlook....looking at the glass as being half full rather than half empty. That way when we do come across those bad moments in our lives that they will be shorter in duration and we will find ourselves looking forward more to the happy moments that are sure to follow.:)
It's all mind over matter, as they say.....isn't it???
((((HUGS)))) ~ Goody :angel: :wave:
Thing is, I truly believe that we are all subject to self-fullfilling prophecy, that is, if you really think something bad is going to happen or is coming it eventually will. Isn't that Murphy's Law???
I think that we all will experience the good and bad moments in our lives and that what is most important is living day to day with a positive outlook....looking at the glass as being half full rather than half empty. That way when we do come across those bad moments in our lives that they will be shorter in duration and we will find ourselves looking forward more to the happy moments that are sure to follow.:)
It's all mind over matter, as they say.....isn't it???
((((HUGS)))) ~ Goody :angel: :wave:
EYESTWO22
02-04-2007, 11:34 PM
Yes it is.....
It's called OPTIMISTISM :) (somewhere I remember saying that in a "thread")
Just think "To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater
achievements of the future", :D
Peace
Eyes
It's called OPTIMISTISM :) (somewhere I remember saying that in a "thread")
Just think "To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater
achievements of the future", :D
Peace
Eyes
Used&Abused
02-05-2007, 11:43 PM
Thing is, I truly believe that we are all subject to self-fullfilling prophecy, that is, if you really think something bad is going to happen or is coming it eventually will. Isn't that Murphy's Law???
Very true goody2shuz,
It's hard for BP's to focus on the positives in life but being responsible for the disorder will allow them to address it in therapy or like munchie11 is here. Where there is a will there is a way as EYES has certainly showed us.
Personal responsibility and optimistism are traits any BP must master to have the stability so many of you deserve. It really applies to everyone in life and today many non-BP's even have a hard time mastering those traits but they are essential to a happy healthy life.
God Bless..........U&A
Very true goody2shuz,
It's hard for BP's to focus on the positives in life but being responsible for the disorder will allow them to address it in therapy or like munchie11 is here. Where there is a will there is a way as EYES has certainly showed us.
Personal responsibility and optimistism are traits any BP must master to have the stability so many of you deserve. It really applies to everyone in life and today many non-BP's even have a hard time mastering those traits but they are essential to a happy healthy life.
God Bless..........U&A
blauermonday
02-08-2007, 09:29 AM
When you have a history of swinging or cycling between extreme moods, I think you develop a certain caution, that to stay closer to (or approach) stability and to prepare yourself for an inevitable change in feelings, you have to recognize that a pleasant or good series of days can't last forever. The trick is not letting this self-knowledge get in the way of your enjoying those pleasant days. And this trick is something everyone has to learn, as no one know what the next days or hours will hold. But I think we BP's have to become especially protective of ourselves, which involves learning from our past swings and not repeating mistakes we have made in trying (or not trying) to manage those swings. Not staying aware of our symptoms, our current emotional state, our sensitivity and our tendency to change is cheating ourselves of the best care possible. Enjoy the good times, take a moment to recognize the uneasiness for what it is--a need to be protective, cautious, grounded in reality--and go back to enjoying the good times while they last, this time around. ;)