finegane
02-05-2007, 01:34 PM
Hi everyone-
I dont know if this is related to PTSD or not, but whenever I see the counselor (at my college) who made me go to the hospital, anxiety and anger fill me up sooooo much. I dont see her that often, but when I do, I get scared for how mad I feel at her...how if I didnt have any self-restraint, I'd go up to her and punch her in the face. I've talked to her since I've been in the hospital, but only to tell her how angry I was with her. I have a new counselor at school now, but they are in the same office so when I go to see her, I wind up running into the old one. I dont know what to do...
I dont know if this is related to PTSD or not, but whenever I see the counselor (at my college) who made me go to the hospital, anxiety and anger fill me up sooooo much. I dont see her that often, but when I do, I get scared for how mad I feel at her...how if I didnt have any self-restraint, I'd go up to her and punch her in the face. I've talked to her since I've been in the hospital, but only to tell her how angry I was with her. I have a new counselor at school now, but they are in the same office so when I go to see her, I wind up running into the old one. I dont know what to do...
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galinaqt
02-05-2007, 02:01 PM
Can you find a councelor who is not in the same office? Did your new councelor knows the story? May be you have a chance to see her at different location?
I can understand your feelings. I had 2 councelors I highly rethent. One councelor I had was indeed killed by the patient which doesn't suprise me.
I can understand your feelings. I had 2 councelors I highly rethent. One councelor I had was indeed killed by the patient which doesn't suprise me.
stick2013
02-05-2007, 07:07 PM
Hi Fine,
I will suggest what ICC does..... She writes a letter..... Put all of you feelings into it, swear, write bad things whatever, just let all of your emotions out in the letter.... Then light it on fire, burn it and let go of the anger......
If that doesn't help.....The restraint is your best hope......
Hugs,
Sid
I will suggest what ICC does..... She writes a letter..... Put all of you feelings into it, swear, write bad things whatever, just let all of your emotions out in the letter.... Then light it on fire, burn it and let go of the anger......
If that doesn't help.....The restraint is your best hope......
Hugs,
Sid
hergy
02-06-2007, 02:09 AM
You can also try opening up about your feelings to the new counselor. She may have a suggestion on how to handle the matter to relieve your stress.
I also like the letter burning idea.
Whatever you do, don't let the anger fester. It will only hinder your progress.
Hang in there.
Love,
Nikki
I also like the letter burning idea.
Whatever you do, don't let the anger fester. It will only hinder your progress.
Hang in there.
Love,
Nikki
Phoenix
02-06-2007, 05:24 AM
Dear finegane,
This is highly unorthodox, so please bear with me:
Why don't you ask your new therapist to schedule an appointment including the other one?
This way, you can get your feelings out in the open and then if they feel it is not in your best interest, they can always suggest other options.
Just an idea.
TC
GB
FTM
This is highly unorthodox, so please bear with me:
Why don't you ask your new therapist to schedule an appointment including the other one?
This way, you can get your feelings out in the open and then if they feel it is not in your best interest, they can always suggest other options.
Just an idea.
TC
GB
FTM
galinaqt
02-06-2007, 05:28 PM
Dear finegane,
This is highly unorthodox, so please bear with me:
Why don't you ask your new therapist to schedule an appointment including the other one?
This way, you can get your feelings out in the open and then if they feel it is not in your best interest, they can always suggest other options.
Just an idea.
TC
GB
FTM
I think new therapist will be in owkward position since it is her coworker client is unhappy about. It is mental patient word against doctor's word.
If that meeting take place old therapist could be very defencive and it may hurt person's feelings even more. Likely it never will be done.
Only realistic thing is ask new councelor if it is any opportunity to see her in different location or days old councelor not working. If it is any opportunity to go to person who is not working with old person in one office I'd jump to it.
This is highly unorthodox, so please bear with me:
Why don't you ask your new therapist to schedule an appointment including the other one?
This way, you can get your feelings out in the open and then if they feel it is not in your best interest, they can always suggest other options.
Just an idea.
TC
GB
FTM
I think new therapist will be in owkward position since it is her coworker client is unhappy about. It is mental patient word against doctor's word.
If that meeting take place old therapist could be very defencive and it may hurt person's feelings even more. Likely it never will be done.
Only realistic thing is ask new councelor if it is any opportunity to see her in different location or days old councelor not working. If it is any opportunity to go to person who is not working with old person in one office I'd jump to it.
Phoenix
02-06-2007, 05:41 PM
I see your point.
On a personal note, I would never stay anywhere I was not comfortable because it will affect how I express myself in sessions and actually hinder my progress.(this is just me).
TC
GB
FTM
On a personal note, I would never stay anywhere I was not comfortable because it will affect how I express myself in sessions and actually hinder my progress.(this is just me).
TC
GB
FTM
ICC
02-06-2007, 06:02 PM
Just my opinion. I have to agree with FTM in that it would have to be comfortable with my counselor and myself otherwise it wouldn't work at all. BUT I have seen one for only 3 visits and asked to be changed, not because she did anything wrong but we just didn't click. I have been seeing another in the same office for a couple of years and see the first one periodically and we are very pleasant to each other. A professional should understand these things and act accordingly or to me they should be reported. Not everyone clicks and in a therapy setting, it being so personal and serious, there should be no room for a therapist being rude, nasty or a cry baby.
The opinion of..............
Grasshopper
The opinion of..............
Grasshopper
finegane
02-06-2007, 10:58 PM
Thanks everyone for the good ideas. I've done the letter thing...no help. I also talked directly to my old counselor...made me feel about 0.5% better, I still wanted to yell and scream at her, but I didn't. It's weird. I definetly feel some anger when I think about it, but when I see her, it's quadrupled (because I don't know any term for anything higher then that) Anyways...I'm gonna talk about it with my new counselor on Thursday.
I've been feeling kind of blue lately, and I don't know what to do...I'm petrified to tell anyone because I'm afraid that they'll send me back to the hospital, and I'd rather be run over by a train then do that.
Sorry for the rambling, I guess I needed to get that out though.
I've been feeling kind of blue lately, and I don't know what to do...I'm petrified to tell anyone because I'm afraid that they'll send me back to the hospital, and I'd rather be run over by a train then do that.
Sorry for the rambling, I guess I needed to get that out though.
Phoenix
02-07-2007, 05:18 AM
Thanks everyone for the good ideas. I've done the letter thing...no help. I also talked directly to my old counselor...made me feel about 0.5% better, I still wanted to yell and scream at her, but I didn't. It's weird. I definetly feel some anger when I think about it, but when I see her, it's quadrupled (because I don't know any term for anything higher then that) Anyways...I'm gonna talk about it with my new counselor on Thursday.
I've been feeling kind of blue lately, and I don't know what to do...I'm petrified to tell anyone because I'm afraid that they'll send me back to the hospital, and I'd rather be run over by a train then do that.
Sorry for the rambling, I guess I needed to get that out though.
Dear Finegane,
Why don't you feel that the therapist's hospitalization was in your best interest? Do you honestly feel that you were placed there with the intention to traumatize you? (I probably know the answer; just something to reflect upon)
There are times when we have to look at ourselves; our progress or lack there of.
If you want a better quality of life, you have to put your issues out there.
Don't wait for someone to pick up on your signs because situations can be taken out of your hands rather rapidly.
If you can't find the words to tell your therapist during a session, then write it down prior to. We are always here if you want to "run it past" us.
We tend to look out for each other here;) .
Take care
God Bless
FTM
I've been feeling kind of blue lately, and I don't know what to do...I'm petrified to tell anyone because I'm afraid that they'll send me back to the hospital, and I'd rather be run over by a train then do that.
Sorry for the rambling, I guess I needed to get that out though.
Dear Finegane,
Why don't you feel that the therapist's hospitalization was in your best interest? Do you honestly feel that you were placed there with the intention to traumatize you? (I probably know the answer; just something to reflect upon)
There are times when we have to look at ourselves; our progress or lack there of.
If you want a better quality of life, you have to put your issues out there.
Don't wait for someone to pick up on your signs because situations can be taken out of your hands rather rapidly.
If you can't find the words to tell your therapist during a session, then write it down prior to. We are always here if you want to "run it past" us.
We tend to look out for each other here;) .
Take care
God Bless
FTM
ICC
02-07-2007, 09:01 AM
Finegane----I'm so sorry the letter writing ritual didn't work. What I did was wrote all my feelings directly to the person who abused me. Then I burned it as I was talking to the person adn telling him/her that their abuse and my pain was done, over with. THEY COULD NEVER EVER HURT ME AGAIN AND i WOULD HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE FOR LIFE FOR WHAT THEY DID TO ME. When I was doing this I had my all connected to it. I was screaming at these people and burning all the hurt they created in my life. the other thing i've done as FTM has suggested is days before a counseling session I have taken notes on how I felt and my thoughts. brought it to my counselor and told her to read it because I couldn't speak it. she took it from there. Wishing you all the best.
Hugs,
Grasshopper
Hugs,
Grasshopper
Sannah
02-07-2007, 10:16 AM
Finegane, sorry to hear that that hospitalization is haunting you so badly. About your anger toward the counselor - I went back to your other post and read what was going on with you before you went to the hospital. This is how the system works. The counselor was doing her job. It's really good that you told her that you were still angry with her. This is good, expressing your feelings. You didn't get any relief from this, however. I guess she didn't respond the way that you wanted her to? How did she respond and how should she have responded that would have helped you to feel better?