ICC
02-09-2007, 08:38 AM
Good morning my friend.............I'm a little angry and alot anxious right now and intend to deal today and not put myself through this for another couple of months so here I am. Was scheduled for my trial next tuesday for my WC case. Have already given my depo way back when. My paperwork from the Judge says in big black bold letter " BE WARNED, THIS IS A ONE DAY TRIAL, THERE WILL BE NO CONTINUANCES" When i asked my attorney about that he said this Judge does that to protect the IW from the Insurance co.'s stall tactics. Whatever they weren't prepared for on tuesday couldn't be used. DONE in one day! I have been somewhat anxious about this for no other reason that it is what it is . going to court. just that shaky feeling of being on display. I could do nothing but answers questions truthfully and to the best of my knowledge. that being said, my attorney called yesterday afternoon and said there will be no trial we are doing the rest through the mail. He had already drafted a letter to the Judge notifying him. I asked what the reason was and he said both attorneys had conflicts that day and agreed to completing things through the mail. Then he told me there will be a depo taken from my supervisor (who wasn't even in the building) and a co-worker who helped me do part of the job but also didn't witness anything other than knowing i was doing the job. First of all to me this makes it a continuance which the Judge ordered against so I would love to know how they are getting away with this. The Insurance co. knew in June what the date of trial was and were told by the Judge to be prepared. I have no idea what either of these two people could have to say since neither of them are witnesses. I feel the Insurance co. after taking my depo knew that I was a credible witness and don't want me testifying in front of the judge. Also I have to tell you that when i was injured I was like a "mad woman" holding onto a cart to get myself back to my office but screaming the whole way "here we go again, I get hurt because no one else wants to do this job," When i arrived back in my area the co-worker who is giving a depo was the first one I saw and he asked what was wrong. I told him i was hurt again but again I was screaming and carrying on "here I go back into the WC system, It's always me who gets hurt, I 'm fed up with this crap" Called my supervisor and left him a voice mail to the same tune "I am hurt again, sick and tired of always being the one who has to do this alone and get hurt , there is no management here, I am leaving to go home and call a dr. So you see the only thing they can testify to is that I am a "crazy lady". I think they will pull my PTSD into it though I have always been a superb employee and it has never prevented me or hindered my job performance I'm sure they found medical records somewhere that say I have PTSD and I think they will use it against me. My feeling is this. PTSD did not cause me to be injured and we are not seeking compensation for it. I may have reacted the way I did because I have it but it was not the cause. I have to sit through these two depo's and have the right when they are over to sit with my attorney and discuss anything they lied about or that was just wrong. Anything they say that another employee told them is hearsay and inadmissable. at that point I will be sworn in (without the two of them in the room) and can counteract any discrepancies.FTM i am so angry about this being postponed as I wanted it over with on tuesday. Everything will end at the same time so it hasn't extended the time for the Judge's decision but it bugs me that they knew for almost a year that they needed these two depos and waited until 2 days before the trial to decide they needed them. Isn't that going against the Judge's orders?:confused: The depos probably won't be for another month so that's just more time that I have to hold this back. I have been honest with my attorney from day one and made it clear that I was like a crazy woman after I was injured. You know FTM everyone is different. I was so scared, in pain, frustrated and in the past have never even been offered a ride home after suffering a 3 month concussion falling in the employer's parking lot on ice. Knowing their history in not helping the only thing on my mind was getting home safely. I can easily explain my attitude but just feel to go against a Judge's ruling should be wrong and not allowed. Help ease my mind.
:dizzy: Grasshopper
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Phoenix
02-09-2007, 10:01 AM
Dear Grasshopper,
Hang in there. I want to give this the attention it deserves but have a few appointments. You will definitely be hearing from me later; you can count on it.
Take care
God Bless
FTM
Hang in there. I want to give this the attention it deserves but have a few appointments. You will definitely be hearing from me later; you can count on it.
Take care
God Bless
FTM
Sannah
02-09-2007, 10:05 AM
ICC, I am sorry that this couldn't be over for you!
stick2013
02-09-2007, 10:21 AM
Dear ICC,
Welcome to the system of NOT being a system.......This is a game, and you know it, WC will do anything and everything to stop you from winning.....
First of all I would be so ANGRY AT YOUR LAWYER!!!!!!!!! He should have NOT agreed to doing things through the mail... THIS WAS COURT ORDERED!!!! But lawyers have a secret pact, I KNOW..... I have 2 that are friends.....They all play the game of professional courtesy.......
Second the reason that they waited so long to take the depo's from the other 2...........Time has a way of confusing the memory. It also didn't directly affect them, so they also have a different take on things.......If 4 people saw an accident at the same time and an hour later were asked to describe it......you would get 4 different versions.......A year later they would have a problem recalling ANYTHING correctly about the accident.... The human mind sees things differently for EVERY PERSON!!!!!!
Hon, I wish that there was someway to help you, something that I could do.... The only thing I can offer is my understanding and support......
Love you bunches......Keep you chin up!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
Welcome to the system of NOT being a system.......This is a game, and you know it, WC will do anything and everything to stop you from winning.....
First of all I would be so ANGRY AT YOUR LAWYER!!!!!!!!! He should have NOT agreed to doing things through the mail... THIS WAS COURT ORDERED!!!! But lawyers have a secret pact, I KNOW..... I have 2 that are friends.....They all play the game of professional courtesy.......
Second the reason that they waited so long to take the depo's from the other 2...........Time has a way of confusing the memory. It also didn't directly affect them, so they also have a different take on things.......If 4 people saw an accident at the same time and an hour later were asked to describe it......you would get 4 different versions.......A year later they would have a problem recalling ANYTHING correctly about the accident.... The human mind sees things differently for EVERY PERSON!!!!!!
Hon, I wish that there was someway to help you, something that I could do.... The only thing I can offer is my understanding and support......
Love you bunches......Keep you chin up!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
02-09-2007, 10:28 AM
FTM.....I will anticipate your help.
Sannah....thanks for caring. I knew the trial was next week since november and waited and waited. the only good part of it is that I don't have to go to court ever now. Though I would have preferred to testify in front of the Judge and get it over with than to sit through these two depos. they can lie and make up whatever they want and I have to sit quietly, not react in anyway and then when they're done I go into another room and CAN contradict anything that's wrong with their testimonies. My boss hates as as I do him. I don't think there is another human being on the face of the earth that I hate but I do him. He is a sneak, liar, cheat and the most unfair person I have ever met. the other one who is testifying is one of those who can't htink for themselves so swears by whatever he's told. I never wanted my PTSD to come into play with this because it didn't cause the injuries BUT i do believe that is what this is all about. the fact that I went out of there like a crazy woman I know will come up. You know, we are all different and maybe 5 others wouldn't have responded as I did but the pain, fear and frustration consumed me when I came down off my toes and my knee buckled , rolled over on my ankle and back was on fire. I knew I was hurt badly. when I got in my car and went to lift my left arm to back out I knew I had injured my shoulder and neck. have MRI's to back each and every injury up. I just wanted it over with on tuesday and now have to sit and wait again and possible listen to people lie about me and you all know that's one of my triggers. so the fear is setting in already.
thanks for caring,
Grasshopper
Sannah....thanks for caring. I knew the trial was next week since november and waited and waited. the only good part of it is that I don't have to go to court ever now. Though I would have preferred to testify in front of the Judge and get it over with than to sit through these two depos. they can lie and make up whatever they want and I have to sit quietly, not react in anyway and then when they're done I go into another room and CAN contradict anything that's wrong with their testimonies. My boss hates as as I do him. I don't think there is another human being on the face of the earth that I hate but I do him. He is a sneak, liar, cheat and the most unfair person I have ever met. the other one who is testifying is one of those who can't htink for themselves so swears by whatever he's told. I never wanted my PTSD to come into play with this because it didn't cause the injuries BUT i do believe that is what this is all about. the fact that I went out of there like a crazy woman I know will come up. You know, we are all different and maybe 5 others wouldn't have responded as I did but the pain, fear and frustration consumed me when I came down off my toes and my knee buckled , rolled over on my ankle and back was on fire. I knew I was hurt badly. when I got in my car and went to lift my left arm to back out I knew I had injured my shoulder and neck. have MRI's to back each and every injury up. I just wanted it over with on tuesday and now have to sit and wait again and possible listen to people lie about me and you all know that's one of my triggers. so the fear is setting in already.
thanks for caring,
Grasshopper
Phoenix
02-10-2007, 06:29 AM
Dear Grasshopper,
I came back to this site yesterday evening and was neither feeling well or prepared to post in a positive manner. My mother(R.I.P.) taught me if you had nothing good to say, don't say it at all; so I exercised that principle; yesterday..................
Today is another day.
Depositions are the barometer from which the attorneys form their questions. All you can do to ensure that you don't get "jammed" up during trial by another attorney's line of questioning is tell the truth.
Now if your attorney had a scheduling problem, I believe that he should have brought this to your attention a while ago.
I can understand you being upset, to say the least.
Looking at the situation, it can be viewed in many ways:
1) The attorney could be looking out for your best interest. He could have done some research on the other attorney and felt it was not in your best interest. I could envision a court room with an opposing attorney that is going to try and twist your words, making you feel frustrated, thus making your thoughts cloudy. This person will attempt to bring your blood pressure up and trivialize every facet of your claim, as if you only needed a bandage for a small bruise. Attorneys will rake through your life and find anything to use, especially if it benefits them.
It seems that your former boss(since you have no intention on going back, I believe) will put others up to discredit you and the attorney will eat that up, as if it were a five-course meal.
They would have played the old "smoke and mirrors" game......................
Their intent is to use your PTSD to their advantage and the percentages are in their favor.
You know the way you feel after "Post Overload;" multiply that exponentially.
This could quite possibly set you back a bit or all the way to the "stone age"(metaphorically speaking).
The companies tactics provided no time for your attorney to properly prepare for the "surprise; which is to be expected.
2) On the other hand, as Sid said, the attorneys share a certain "bond" in which a client rarely is informed of every facet of their discussions. Does your attorney come off as lazy or do you have the utmost confidence in him?
The thing about attorneys is that we are asked to put all of our faith in them. If you have issues with trust, it is only natural to second-guess them.
3) Then there is the "third side of the coin;" which dictates Murphy's Law to a tee. There is a possibility that something did come up but my only question would be: "Why today?"
4) Then there is a mixture of one with the other or facets of all three.
As you do not want to anger your attorney at this point, you could ask him if writing a letter about how you feel; your disappointment that the boss will not own up to his "obligatory responsibilities." Let the judge know how you are feeling presently, as compared to when the deposition was taken (the doctors appointments, the episodes at home, etc.).....................
See what he says (your option, of course). Remember that judges are people too; many with families.
You could run it past your attorney and see what he says. He can then look over it before submitting (it might have to be notarized) it to the court.
If he advises against it, you write that letter, get it notarized and send your attorney a cover letter explaining why you sent this to him (closure is one option).
Make sure your right "Sincerely and Respectfully stated" at the end of the letter, as I know that you will pour your emotions into it........................
In hindsight, the saying "every disappointment is a blessing" comes to mind.
It could boil down to "The Man Upstairs" looking out for your best interest.
Take care
God Bless
FTM
I came back to this site yesterday evening and was neither feeling well or prepared to post in a positive manner. My mother(R.I.P.) taught me if you had nothing good to say, don't say it at all; so I exercised that principle; yesterday..................
Today is another day.
Depositions are the barometer from which the attorneys form their questions. All you can do to ensure that you don't get "jammed" up during trial by another attorney's line of questioning is tell the truth.
Now if your attorney had a scheduling problem, I believe that he should have brought this to your attention a while ago.
I can understand you being upset, to say the least.
Looking at the situation, it can be viewed in many ways:
1) The attorney could be looking out for your best interest. He could have done some research on the other attorney and felt it was not in your best interest. I could envision a court room with an opposing attorney that is going to try and twist your words, making you feel frustrated, thus making your thoughts cloudy. This person will attempt to bring your blood pressure up and trivialize every facet of your claim, as if you only needed a bandage for a small bruise. Attorneys will rake through your life and find anything to use, especially if it benefits them.
It seems that your former boss(since you have no intention on going back, I believe) will put others up to discredit you and the attorney will eat that up, as if it were a five-course meal.
They would have played the old "smoke and mirrors" game......................
Their intent is to use your PTSD to their advantage and the percentages are in their favor.
You know the way you feel after "Post Overload;" multiply that exponentially.
This could quite possibly set you back a bit or all the way to the "stone age"(metaphorically speaking).
The companies tactics provided no time for your attorney to properly prepare for the "surprise; which is to be expected.
2) On the other hand, as Sid said, the attorneys share a certain "bond" in which a client rarely is informed of every facet of their discussions. Does your attorney come off as lazy or do you have the utmost confidence in him?
The thing about attorneys is that we are asked to put all of our faith in them. If you have issues with trust, it is only natural to second-guess them.
3) Then there is the "third side of the coin;" which dictates Murphy's Law to a tee. There is a possibility that something did come up but my only question would be: "Why today?"
4) Then there is a mixture of one with the other or facets of all three.
As you do not want to anger your attorney at this point, you could ask him if writing a letter about how you feel; your disappointment that the boss will not own up to his "obligatory responsibilities." Let the judge know how you are feeling presently, as compared to when the deposition was taken (the doctors appointments, the episodes at home, etc.).....................
See what he says (your option, of course). Remember that judges are people too; many with families.
You could run it past your attorney and see what he says. He can then look over it before submitting (it might have to be notarized) it to the court.
If he advises against it, you write that letter, get it notarized and send your attorney a cover letter explaining why you sent this to him (closure is one option).
Make sure your right "Sincerely and Respectfully stated" at the end of the letter, as I know that you will pour your emotions into it........................
In hindsight, the saying "every disappointment is a blessing" comes to mind.
It could boil down to "The Man Upstairs" looking out for your best interest.
Take care
God Bless
FTM
ICC
02-10-2007, 08:33 AM
good morning all----I will try to explain better. I rec'd my notice from the Dept of Labor & Industry yesterday stating that there will be NO FURTHER HEARINGS, ALL EVIDENCE AND BRIEFS ARE DUE BY MAIL BY ?????.Ok so I know this did not detain anything because even if i went next week the attorney's briefs would be due at the same time as they are now. IF, and this is only an IF, the other attorney had an emergency and couldn't make it the trial would have been postponed to God only knows when so my attorney may have done me a favor. If in court the opposing attorney who was the same one who took my depo brought my PTSD into the mix my attorney would ahve objected as it is not a part of the WC injuries and I am not seeking compensation for it hence not admissable. I will agree with attorney's and thier pacts of courtesy. FTM---neither of these people were witnesses to the accident. they have nothing to say about it that would not be a lie since they weren't there. Don't you think if anyone the attorney wanted to slip up it would be me? This would have been my 2nd testimony so I believe in order to slip me up he would have preferred going in front of the Judge. He tried several times in the depo and couldn't. As far as my relationship with my supervisor it has never been good. At one point years ago he told me he now knew why I was a b----. Because my daughter died. I told him in front of his boss that i don't being my daughter to work so don't you. I fell all him and the other witness can testify to is that i left angry and screaming. I have never denied that. We all react different to situations. I have explained it like that. I was in pain, frightened, and just wanted to get home safely. again, my reaction after the fact has nothing to do with the injuries, all being backed up by 3 dr.s and MRI's. Thank God I will have the opportunity to counteract anything they say that is not true or never happened. I'm just annoyed that this could have been done with and now i don't even know when i will have to attend these depos. I'm not concerned about me counteracting them. I just don't want to participate at all.
Sid and FTM**** When i woke yesterday I had an agenda. I am so proud of myself for not stewing in this. I called my atttorney first thing in the morning and then again in the afternoon. no call back yet. Sid you are 100% right. I am pissed at MY attorney. I had to sleep on it to know what I was feeling but that's it. I am angry at him for allowing the other attorney more time and not bringing this to my attention a week ago. I'm not worryied about winning or losing for I have all MY ducks in one basket and do believe the good Lord is watching over my best interests. I have told the truth, done everything I could to get well and the fact that my boss might want to slander me is a whole other ball of wax that i don't believe belongs in a WC case but in an employment harrassment case. I don't feel his dislike of me is relevant and believe it will be noticible and objected to. I am writing my attorney a letter with my feelings and questions and telling him had he returned my call or shared with me what was going on, this letter wouldn't be necessary.that's all I ask. I am the client, please don't make decisions without my knowledge and if you have to explain to me why. don't just rush off the phone. when you blow me off it's not the rudeness that bothers me it's the fact that i feel you are not listening to me that does. On top of everything I hired one of the partners and now have another attorney in his office representing me who I don't like. that will be said too.
thanks for caring and responding. I know thee are long drawn out reads and take time to think about. Keep it coming.
Love all,
Grasshopper
Sid and FTM**** When i woke yesterday I had an agenda. I am so proud of myself for not stewing in this. I called my atttorney first thing in the morning and then again in the afternoon. no call back yet. Sid you are 100% right. I am pissed at MY attorney. I had to sleep on it to know what I was feeling but that's it. I am angry at him for allowing the other attorney more time and not bringing this to my attention a week ago. I'm not worryied about winning or losing for I have all MY ducks in one basket and do believe the good Lord is watching over my best interests. I have told the truth, done everything I could to get well and the fact that my boss might want to slander me is a whole other ball of wax that i don't believe belongs in a WC case but in an employment harrassment case. I don't feel his dislike of me is relevant and believe it will be noticible and objected to. I am writing my attorney a letter with my feelings and questions and telling him had he returned my call or shared with me what was going on, this letter wouldn't be necessary.that's all I ask. I am the client, please don't make decisions without my knowledge and if you have to explain to me why. don't just rush off the phone. when you blow me off it's not the rudeness that bothers me it's the fact that i feel you are not listening to me that does. On top of everything I hired one of the partners and now have another attorney in his office representing me who I don't like. that will be said too.
thanks for caring and responding. I know thee are long drawn out reads and take time to think about. Keep it coming.
Love all,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-10-2007, 08:48 AM
Dear ICC,
All that you can do is be honest..... You have all of the medical evidence to back everything up. It just sucks that it had to be done this way. I agree lawyers can be SH*** . They look out for themselves, and their agendas. I have 2 for friends......One of them just had pretty serious surgery, and I asked him how he was doing. He told me that he felt really good, had virtually NO PAIN and has taken NO PAIN MEDS after surgery..... I just looked at him and said, "What did you expect, your a lawyer, NO HEART, NO PAIN" So he said could I get a little sympathy here???? I told him to look it up in the dictionary, that it was listed between SH** and SYPH***.
Hope I gave you a chuckle to start the day off
Hugs,
Sid
You are right they can't use your PTSD against you.......
All that you can do is be honest..... You have all of the medical evidence to back everything up. It just sucks that it had to be done this way. I agree lawyers can be SH*** . They look out for themselves, and their agendas. I have 2 for friends......One of them just had pretty serious surgery, and I asked him how he was doing. He told me that he felt really good, had virtually NO PAIN and has taken NO PAIN MEDS after surgery..... I just looked at him and said, "What did you expect, your a lawyer, NO HEART, NO PAIN" So he said could I get a little sympathy here???? I told him to look it up in the dictionary, that it was listed between SH** and SYPH***.
Hope I gave you a chuckle to start the day off
Hugs,
Sid
You are right they can't use your PTSD against you.......
ICC
02-10-2007, 08:50 AM
as you all know when i have something "stuck" i am long winded. Feel bad for my counselor don't you:D
Sid I do know that this is a game. It's a stall tactic. They know they have nothing and I have it all together and I believe waited until the last minute and though the Judge ordered no continuances he didn't order no postponments which i would think are the same but will be on my attorney to explain further. I understand totally what you're saying about 4 people seeing things differently but they saw nothing. one wasn't even in the building so anything he "saw" would be an outright lie. In his position I don't think he'll perjure himself. I believe what he will do is use his dislike of me and the fact that all of his female employees except me flirt with him and think he's hot. I have never had a problem closing his door and having a verbal debate with him hence his dislike of me. I call a spade a spade. Yet he has told me I am his most diplomatic, flexable employee. I can hold my own in tough situations where there is no emotion. It's the emotional, people I feel something for that I have had a hard time going at. I believe he will use the many times we have butted heads and that he thinks I am a "hot head" . I've never denied that. I believe he will bring my daughter's death into the mix. all not admissable. anything any other employee told him is hear say and not admissable. the other employee wore the "mask" of friendship for alot of years. I don't think he would lie about me. He saw nothing and I believe will say that. Nothing either of them have to say has anything to do with being injured. all it has to do with is my personality which also has nothng to do with how MRI's read out.
Love you for caring and being here for me. you seem to always know when i am in distress.
Grasshopper
Sid I do know that this is a game. It's a stall tactic. They know they have nothing and I have it all together and I believe waited until the last minute and though the Judge ordered no continuances he didn't order no postponments which i would think are the same but will be on my attorney to explain further. I understand totally what you're saying about 4 people seeing things differently but they saw nothing. one wasn't even in the building so anything he "saw" would be an outright lie. In his position I don't think he'll perjure himself. I believe what he will do is use his dislike of me and the fact that all of his female employees except me flirt with him and think he's hot. I have never had a problem closing his door and having a verbal debate with him hence his dislike of me. I call a spade a spade. Yet he has told me I am his most diplomatic, flexable employee. I can hold my own in tough situations where there is no emotion. It's the emotional, people I feel something for that I have had a hard time going at. I believe he will use the many times we have butted heads and that he thinks I am a "hot head" . I've never denied that. I believe he will bring my daughter's death into the mix. all not admissable. anything any other employee told him is hear say and not admissable. the other employee wore the "mask" of friendship for alot of years. I don't think he would lie about me. He saw nothing and I believe will say that. Nothing either of them have to say has anything to do with being injured. all it has to do with is my personality which also has nothng to do with how MRI's read out.
Love you for caring and being here for me. you seem to always know when i am in distress.
Grasshopper
ICC
02-10-2007, 09:00 AM
FTM***** the first thing i thought of when i knew i had to sit and listen to this crap was my BP.:eek: I cannot explain this but Judges and attorney's seem to like me. My attorney tells me it's because i don't faulter and and blunt and honest and it comes out loud and clear. I will have to sit quietly while they are giving their depos and when it's over I have the opportunity to speak to my attorney alone and discuss anything that was wrong with their testimony, lies or things that just didn't occur. If they try to dicredit me I feel I am perfectly capable of counteracting and restoring my own credibility. I don't and never have felt threatened by authority figures so will listen intently, keep my cool, and then blast my attoreny when it's over about any discrepancies. PTSD does not cause bodily injury!!!!! the reaction to the bodily injury in my case caused a flare up but this was after the fact. I could push this to the hilt and bring my PTSD and dx of Major Depression into the mix but have no intention of it. I am not seeking compensation for it and just like my HBP and diabetes that have been aggravated since the injuries I am not bringing those issues into the mix either therefore the other side cannot. My personal health issues are not apart of the WC case so IF brought into it will not even be considered. OK so now you have heard my strength in being able to sit through this. Please, please as soon as the depos are over with I will crumble from holding back thorugh them and will need you all more than ever. it will be a setback for me as my boss will trigger many bad emotions in me. that's why I wanted it over with next week. i could see the light at the end of the tunnel. and now it's just been prolonged. So we will work on keeping me calm until the storm and getting me back where I was afterwards.
Peace and hugs my friend...........
Grasshopper
Peace and hugs my friend...........
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-10-2007, 09:02 AM
Dear ICC,
I am so proud of you for doing this the RIGHT way. For controlling your anger, for being professional, and for standing up for yourself without lowering yourself to their standards....... This is what healing is all about. Reacting the right way........
Just keep reminding yourself that NOTHING else matters...Not the emotional, not what others say, think, feel. Not anything... What is important is that YOU Have PROOF through all of your MRI, CTs, and Drs that you WERE injured, and are still recovering..........Focus on that....
You are learning girlfriend......
Hugs,
Sid
I am so proud of you for doing this the RIGHT way. For controlling your anger, for being professional, and for standing up for yourself without lowering yourself to their standards....... This is what healing is all about. Reacting the right way........
Just keep reminding yourself that NOTHING else matters...Not the emotional, not what others say, think, feel. Not anything... What is important is that YOU Have PROOF through all of your MRI, CTs, and Drs that you WERE injured, and are still recovering..........Focus on that....
You are learning girlfriend......
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
02-10-2007, 09:17 AM
thanks Sid..........I needed that. I was so proud of myself yesterday for placing the 2 calls. My husband asked why I was calling and I told him " I will not hold this in for weeks. It's being straightened up now." So for the absence of a call back from my attorney I will mail my letter to him telling him just what i think of what he did and with no explanantion. My letter from the Judge states that all parties agreed. WHAT:mad: ALL PARTIES???????? Aren't I a party to this? BS. I should have been told before things were changed not after the fact. that's my piss off. took me to sleep on it to see it clearly but not being informed really crawled you know where. :dizzy:
How do you feel?
Love,
Grasshopper
How do you feel?
Love,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-10-2007, 08:17 PM
Dear ICC,
Not being informed by lawyers..........OH MY GOODNESS are you saying that they should actually CALL their CLIENTS and ask them ANYTHING?????? Yeah right and my hair is PURPLE, I have a hunch back, my legs are only 15 inches, and I have a fuzzy tail too........ I am cute.....Lawyers calling.... NOT IN THIS LIFE TIME!!!!!!
So now you all know what I look like. Anyone going to guess what color my eyes are??????
Love,
Sid
Not being informed by lawyers..........OH MY GOODNESS are you saying that they should actually CALL their CLIENTS and ask them ANYTHING?????? Yeah right and my hair is PURPLE, I have a hunch back, my legs are only 15 inches, and I have a fuzzy tail too........ I am cute.....Lawyers calling.... NOT IN THIS LIFE TIME!!!!!!
So now you all know what I look like. Anyone going to guess what color my eyes are??????
Love,
Sid
Phoenix
02-11-2007, 06:13 AM
thanks Sid..........I needed that. I was so proud of myself yesterday for placing the 2 calls. My husband asked why I was calling and I told him " I will not hold this in for weeks. It's being straightened up now." So for the absence of a call back from my attorney I will mail my letter to him telling him just what i think of what he did and with no explanantion. My letter from the Judge states that all parties agreed. WHAT:mad: ALL PARTIES???????? Aren't I a party to this? BS. I should have been told before things were changed not after the fact. that's my piss off. took me to sleep on it to see it clearly but not being informed really crawled you know where. :dizzy:
How do you feel?
Love,
Grasshopper
Dear Grasshopper,
Rarely do attorneys tell their clients specifics of conversations. Many a times I would ask my attorney "so what is their stance?" Their response is always "they're not changing their position."
It is customary for an attorney to advise their client not to say anything, to anyone at all but what happens when they fail to update the client?
**************I DO NOT ADVISE THIS TO ANYONE*****************
I have contacted offices of The President,NYS Governor,Attorney General,Insurance Department and both Senators. I have contacted the media and even the Justice Department. I also contacted the Nassau County Exextive Director,Queens D.A.,Police Commissioner's and a list that escapes me at this moment.
I have emailed my attorney so many times that a book can literally be compiled.
Personally, I cannot sit around while others are spreading lies, with respect to this accident. It eats at me on a daily basis.
One could say that I am obsessed with the search for justice.
To tell me to "let it go" would be the same as saying "forget that you have any pain or injuries."
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That being said, a letter is always a good way to express your disappointment but please pay attention to the manner in which you bring the issues to the "table."
Take care
God Bless
FTM
How do you feel?
Love,
Grasshopper
Dear Grasshopper,
Rarely do attorneys tell their clients specifics of conversations. Many a times I would ask my attorney "so what is their stance?" Their response is always "they're not changing their position."
It is customary for an attorney to advise their client not to say anything, to anyone at all but what happens when they fail to update the client?
**************I DO NOT ADVISE THIS TO ANYONE*****************
I have contacted offices of The President,NYS Governor,Attorney General,Insurance Department and both Senators. I have contacted the media and even the Justice Department. I also contacted the Nassau County Exextive Director,Queens D.A.,Police Commissioner's and a list that escapes me at this moment.
I have emailed my attorney so many times that a book can literally be compiled.
Personally, I cannot sit around while others are spreading lies, with respect to this accident. It eats at me on a daily basis.
One could say that I am obsessed with the search for justice.
To tell me to "let it go" would be the same as saying "forget that you have any pain or injuries."
**************************************** ******************
That being said, a letter is always a good way to express your disappointment but please pay attention to the manner in which you bring the issues to the "table."
Take care
God Bless
FTM
ICC
02-11-2007, 08:11 AM
Sid-----you are so right. what WAS i thinking?:eek: I personally thing with purple hair you're eyes are probably pink. How DO you feel?
FTM----You know i understand why you have contacted each and every department. the injustices of the world are so hard and sometimes impossible to swallow. I am proud of you for doing this as I feel more people should. I won't get into the government BUT I have felt for many years that our insurance industry is corrupt in more ways than one and the fact the the Insurance Commission allows it a crime. They take injured people in pain, possibly for life and then take their livelhood, any support means, demean them by calling them liars. it's a big joke to them trying to sweat or starve the person out. MONEY!!!!!!!!!! is the key here. They will do anyting to keep our money in their pockets. I am wishing you the best and praying that all works out well and you get at least one of these agencies willing to help you. My case is not as involved as yours nor are my injuries as serious but all the same I do understand where you are and why you are compelled to fight this to the end. I will not tell you to "let it go' anymore but will be by your sidein your fight. my prayers are with you always.
Love,
Grasshopper
FTM----You know i understand why you have contacted each and every department. the injustices of the world are so hard and sometimes impossible to swallow. I am proud of you for doing this as I feel more people should. I won't get into the government BUT I have felt for many years that our insurance industry is corrupt in more ways than one and the fact the the Insurance Commission allows it a crime. They take injured people in pain, possibly for life and then take their livelhood, any support means, demean them by calling them liars. it's a big joke to them trying to sweat or starve the person out. MONEY!!!!!!!!!! is the key here. They will do anyting to keep our money in their pockets. I am wishing you the best and praying that all works out well and you get at least one of these agencies willing to help you. My case is not as involved as yours nor are my injuries as serious but all the same I do understand where you are and why you are compelled to fight this to the end. I will not tell you to "let it go' anymore but will be by your sidein your fight. my prayers are with you always.
Love,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-11-2007, 08:40 AM
ICC,
Nope my eyes are NOT pink!!!!!
Love you,
FTM,
You know that I promised NOT to badger you on this subject, so I will only say this........Take care of your emotional health, and physical health now. I have a feeling that you may be heading for a downward spiral....
Sid
Nope my eyes are NOT pink!!!!!
Love you,
FTM,
You know that I promised NOT to badger you on this subject, so I will only say this........Take care of your emotional health, and physical health now. I have a feeling that you may be heading for a downward spiral....
Sid
Phoenix
02-11-2007, 08:50 AM
Dear Grasshopper,
Thank you for the words of encouragement.
Dear Sid,
Please explain "downward spiral."
Take care
God Bless
FTM
Thank you for the words of encouragement.
Dear Sid,
Please explain "downward spiral."
Take care
God Bless
FTM
stick2013
02-11-2007, 08:59 AM
FTM,
I am worried that you are completely burnt out......I refuse to badger you as I promised I wouldn't. But you know what this is doing to you emotionally and physically. All I ask is that you take care of yourself..........I do care...
Sid
I am worried that you are completely burnt out......I refuse to badger you as I promised I wouldn't. But you know what this is doing to you emotionally and physically. All I ask is that you take care of yourself..........I do care...
Sid
ICC
02-11-2007, 09:05 AM
FTM---you know i agree with Sid about this. It is draining physically, mentally and emotionally. I know since I spent my time in the summer writing and calling anyone and everyone who would listen. I took it's toll on me. Just please be careful and rest when you have to. Take a break now and then of not thinking about any of it. you have done what you needed to do now you need to take care and wait for responses. I know when you are in pain constantly it hard not to think about it but as you have said to me many times the body and mind work together and will not continue to work at all if not taken care of. BURN OUT:eek: It will shut you donw totally. so my friend I wish you the best but please , please be careful and stay in tune with your body and mind.
Love you,
Grasshopper
Sid----I would have gone with blue first but that made sense. Pink i thought went lovely with the purple hair. This is my 3rd time asking how you feel. If you don't answer me this time the "bat" is coming out.
Hugs and love,
Grasshopper
Love you,
Grasshopper
Sid----I would have gone with blue first but that made sense. Pink i thought went lovely with the purple hair. This is my 3rd time asking how you feel. If you don't answer me this time the "bat" is coming out.
Hugs and love,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-11-2007, 09:30 AM
Dear ICC,
Nope not blue either......:jester:
I am doing better. I finally made it out the my apartment yesterday, after being in since Monday afternoon. Still on Antibiotics for another 5 days.YUCK!!!!! Flagly SUCKS, and Levaquin is a nasty one too. I am still very hesitant about eating anything other than MUSHY foods. But my Dr told me that last time that after 3 or 4 days of resting, that I should be ok to eat reg. food. I will call her in a couple of weeks and see how she feels about sending me to a surgeon. I think it may be time to do a resection. I am NOT looking forward to this at all, but I am having this more, and more and I am afraid of perforation. So I will just have to figure everything out........
Thanks for asking hon......and warning me of the upcoming use of the "BAT."
Love,
Sid
Nope not blue either......:jester:
I am doing better. I finally made it out the my apartment yesterday, after being in since Monday afternoon. Still on Antibiotics for another 5 days.YUCK!!!!! Flagly SUCKS, and Levaquin is a nasty one too. I am still very hesitant about eating anything other than MUSHY foods. But my Dr told me that last time that after 3 or 4 days of resting, that I should be ok to eat reg. food. I will call her in a couple of weeks and see how she feels about sending me to a surgeon. I think it may be time to do a resection. I am NOT looking forward to this at all, but I am having this more, and more and I am afraid of perforation. So I will just have to figure everything out........
Thanks for asking hon......and warning me of the upcoming use of the "BAT."
Love,
Sid
ICC
02-11-2007, 09:57 AM
thanks Sid----I was worrying. I worked with a woman that had it and I remember twice at least calling an ambulance at work. She would end up in the hopital for weeks on IV antibiotics and it would take her months before she was right again. she finally had surgery, retired and looks and feels like a new woman since. Just take it slow. you know the drill. Better to fix it than to have anything perforate. then you know what you'll be carrying around.:eek: I never took levaquin but my youngest did and said it 's the most horrible drug she's ever been on. tore her belly up. I'm glad you are somewhat better and on your toes about talking to the dr. You know I care so keep me posted.
Love you,
Grasshopper
Love you,
Grasshopper
Sannah
02-11-2007, 10:52 AM
FTM, I have to agree with Sid. Injustice is so wrong but if you are going to make yourself sick trying to right it....? Knowing when to fight and when to just do the best that you can to save yourself - there is nothing wrong with that. If I only had a little sword and I was up against King Kong I would have to know when to run in order to save myself. I would not be a coward by not sacrificing my life in order to say that I didn't back down. Knowing when to stop in order to save yourself is not saying that you did not suffer.
The definition of the downward spiral is continuing to fight to the point where you exhaust all of your mental and emotional energy until you collapse.
The definition of the downward spiral is continuing to fight to the point where you exhaust all of your mental and emotional energy until you collapse.
Phoenix
02-11-2007, 10:54 AM
Dear Sid,
Alright, I'm way past "toast" on the bread scale and I realize this. I am so glad that my daughter doesn't read this.
Dear Grasshopper,
I have yet to write to the....................
Alright, i'm done. The Governor's and A.G.s' offices are usually the ones to respond. Prior to my accident, I received a few responses from The White House but these days it's a long shot.
I'll sit back and patiently wait (it's a stretch).
I will tell you two the same thing that I told the psychiatrist:
If it wasn't for my daughter.........................(enough said).
I would never do anything but it's just the way I feel, at times.
Take care
God Bless
FTM
Alright, I'm way past "toast" on the bread scale and I realize this. I am so glad that my daughter doesn't read this.
Dear Grasshopper,
I have yet to write to the....................
Alright, i'm done. The Governor's and A.G.s' offices are usually the ones to respond. Prior to my accident, I received a few responses from The White House but these days it's a long shot.
I'll sit back and patiently wait (it's a stretch).
I will tell you two the same thing that I told the psychiatrist:
If it wasn't for my daughter.........................(enough said).
I would never do anything but it's just the way I feel, at times.
Take care
God Bless
FTM
Phoenix
02-11-2007, 11:03 AM
FTM, I have to agree with Sid. Injustice is so wrong but if you are going to make yourself sick trying to right it....? Knowing when to fight and when to just do the best that you can to save yourself - there is nothing wrong with that. If I only had a little sword and I was up against King Kong I would have to know when to run in order to save myself. I would not be a coward by not sacrificing my life in order to say that I didn't back down. Knowing when to stop in order to save yourself is not saying that you did not suffer.
The definition of the downward spiral is continuing to fight to the point where you exhaust all of your mental and emotional energy until you collapse.
Dear Sannah,
I'm not too far from collapsing; I can feel it. I must scale back. Thank you.:dizzy:
Take care
God Bless
FTM
The definition of the downward spiral is continuing to fight to the point where you exhaust all of your mental and emotional energy until you collapse.
Dear Sannah,
I'm not too far from collapsing; I can feel it. I must scale back. Thank you.:dizzy:
Take care
God Bless
FTM
stick2013
02-11-2007, 12:22 PM
Dear FTM,
You wrote...................
Dear Sid,
Alright, I'm way past "toast" on the bread scale and I realize this. I am so glad that my daughter doesn't read this.
I have been eating TONS of TOAST:blob_fire lately due to having Diverticulitis......So I suggest that you look out...............:)
Hugs,
Sid
You wrote...................
Dear Sid,
Alright, I'm way past "toast" on the bread scale and I realize this. I am so glad that my daughter doesn't read this.
I have been eating TONS of TOAST:blob_fire lately due to having Diverticulitis......So I suggest that you look out...............:)
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
02-11-2007, 01:51 PM
FTM----I am grateful that you have your daughter. being a good parent I think it makes you stop at some point before you do collapse. Take it easy. Take your "mask" off when you are alone so your daughter doesn't see as i'm sure you don't want her to and lay back and just be you. relax from the head down or the toes up and just let your inner self rejuvinate. How about a bower?
Peace my friend,
Grasshopper
Peace my friend,
Grasshopper