chester1984
02-11-2007, 09:44 PM
i have suffered anxiety and depression worrying about inappropreate things since i was about 9 it has come and gone and then i got pregnant very young and all the way through the pregnancy i suffered from it and ocd but not paniking about normal things like health or normal things that others worry about when suffering from anxiety but completely insane things that i cant even tell people without them thinking im completely insane i wont even visit a counceller or tell my family or doctor through fear of rejection or them putting me in mental institute these disturbing thoughts seem to occure when im alone and my anxiety seems start when iv been thrugh a distressing situation i suffered depression and anxiety after my son was born it got even worse now im pregnant again and all my anxiety has come back but i cant take medication to help it the only sugestion my doctor said is to visit a counsellor and talk it out but im terrified that if i say how im feeling they will think im incapable of taking care of my son my heart is always racing and i always have thoughts of self harm but havent done it yet i surrpose i would like to know if anyone has been through something similar or have any sugestions what to do as i feel so alone right now
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Sannah
02-12-2007, 11:41 AM
Chester, counseling would really help! Here in the US if your child is taken care of they cannot take your child away. They cannot take your child because of any of your thoughts, only your actions. Please get referred for counseling.
DudleysMom
02-20-2007, 07:22 PM
Chester, I hope you read this since it is so many days since your first post. My advice would be to see a counselor. I was always an anxious kid. When I grew up I remained anxious. Anxiety and depression came on badly after my daughter was born. Anxiety and depression can sometimes be caused by hormonal disturbances. When I was in my late thirties, I began with horrible anxiety and panic attacks. It took eight years, but was eventually diagnosed as hyperthyroidism...again, a hormonal imbalance of a kind. Anxiety over anxiety creates and even heightened state of anxiety, and odd thoughts can be one of the symptoms. Hormonal imbalances can also affect the way you think. You will not be put into a mental institution because of your thoughts. A good counselor will help put your mind at ease. You are probably not suffereing from anything any weirder than some of the things I have experienced, and now that I am going throught menopause, I am in for another ride. But, I raised a beautiful healthy daughter, and have a wonderful marriage. Try to calm down and be kind to yourself. There is a quote I read once online that has always stuck with me....."Thought happens." Hope I was able to give you a little bit of support. Good luck, and try to enjoy your children. You would be surprised how a little diversion can help with anxious thoughts.
HarryAngel
02-21-2007, 06:00 AM
Believe it or not, you shouldn't run from those feelings of discomfort and isolation, but willfully face them without resentment. That discomfort is simply your conscience trying to convey to you that you're "going the wrong way" in your life. 90% of people will run from that discomfort, and will resort to drinking, over-eating, or some other form of fleeing. Learn to be still in your mind, and meditate, or at least be calm in silence. Things magically take care of themselves when you're not chasing around in your head trying to figure everything out on your own.
More to the point, try a book like "Been There, Done That? Do This!" by Sam Obitz. He has something called a TEA form that helps put things in persepctive.
More to the point, try a book like "Been There, Done That? Do This!" by Sam Obitz. He has something called a TEA form that helps put things in persepctive.
shorebird
03-02-2007, 04:06 PM
You may want to join a cbt group. The thought countering exercises like the tea form are excellent and teach you how to stop worrying so much and obsessing.
scarletknight33
03-02-2007, 08:39 PM
Chester -
I would definately seek treatment with a clinician who specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy, as this is one of the most effective forms of treatment to help a person work through anxiety and depression related issues, which go hand in hand. Ironically, a person can be anxious about being depressed and depressed about being anxious. Whether this issue is more homornally based or emotionally loaded, seeking treatment with a professional is an excellent start. A good clinician is one who is "compassionately confrontational". I hope this helps.
I would definately seek treatment with a clinician who specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy, as this is one of the most effective forms of treatment to help a person work through anxiety and depression related issues, which go hand in hand. Ironically, a person can be anxious about being depressed and depressed about being anxious. Whether this issue is more homornally based or emotionally loaded, seeking treatment with a professional is an excellent start. A good clinician is one who is "compassionately confrontational". I hope this helps.
cheekyminx_f_32
03-02-2007, 10:13 PM
hi im donna i really know exactly what you are going through.ive always had anxiety trouble but it only got worse after i had my kids...i sought a therapist help....exercises,some type med.,and talk therapy really works....i have a bridge phobia which has developed within the past couple years also...i think all this is from age, stress, and life in general. please talk with your dr and husband and family. the more ppl to help you the better off you really are...GOD BLESS
shorebird
03-16-2007, 02:49 PM
Chester -
I would definately seek treatment with a clinician who specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy, as this is one of the most effective forms of treatment to help a person work through anxiety and depression related issues, which go hand in hand. Ironically, a person can be anxious about being depressed and depressed about being anxious. Whether this issue is more homornally based or emotionally loaded, seeking treatment with a professional is an excellent start. A good clinician is one who is "compassionately confrontational". I hope this helps.
Great advice scarlett. Groups can be a cheaper alternative for cbt if that helps but do give cbt a try.
I would definately seek treatment with a clinician who specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy, as this is one of the most effective forms of treatment to help a person work through anxiety and depression related issues, which go hand in hand. Ironically, a person can be anxious about being depressed and depressed about being anxious. Whether this issue is more homornally based or emotionally loaded, seeking treatment with a professional is an excellent start. A good clinician is one who is "compassionately confrontational". I hope this helps.
Great advice scarlett. Groups can be a cheaper alternative for cbt if that helps but do give cbt a try.
shorebird
03-28-2007, 05:39 PM
Chester I hope you are feeling better. Come back and let us know how you are doing and if any of our suggestions have been helpful to you?
shorebird
04-13-2007, 05:28 PM
One last try. Are you still posting chester? How are you these days? I hope you gave cbt a try and it helped you.
Aileen7
04-22-2007, 01:40 PM
We used the book by Obitz in my group and the tea form exercise is what helped me but you have to do them everyday and I still do them daily.
shorebird
05-02-2007, 05:57 PM
Keep doing them Aileen and you will receive more and more benefits from them. I am hoping that it will be so ingrained in me down the road that I won't even need to do them anymore but I'm not there yet.
Aileen7
05-21-2007, 11:07 PM
Thanks for that encouragement. I am still doing them but hope to not need to anymore someday because I will be feeling so great:)
shorebird
05-30-2007, 04:21 PM
Aileen I would hope that is possible too but I am not ready to take that chance yet and thus still do them regularly.