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suddenlyhere, I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this. I am bp myself so I don't have advice to give you but there are others here who are/were in similar situations with bp spouses and I'm sure they will chime in soon. Just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone.

Hi Llama,

Thank you for your response - it helps to know that there are caring ears out there. I too, am sorry for this whole situation and I know that this is the illness and not the person .

I just want to sort it out, but he seems to want to drag it out. This is all pretty new to me, and logic doesnt come into it - so I am lost with how to handle it. I know of at least two others on the forum going through a similar thing - I guess I am wondering what would bps (and everyone!) think would be the best thing to do in this situation. I do care about this person ... enough to let him sort this out by himself. If he suceeded in getting this cash (which he legally wont) he would send me bankrupt and consequently send himself bankrupt also.

The irony of the whole damn situation is that if I go down the legal path (which he cant afford, and I would prefer not to) he will get very very little at the end of it - apart from big legal bills...and the longer it goes the less he will get.

I find it so frustrating - he ended this - it came out of the blue - he has someone else - wouldnt you just move on into your new "happy" life?

Llama - Thank you for letting me know that you were thinking of me - it just lifted my night :)

suddenlyhere,

My wife too is trying to drag this whole thing out. I'm starting to think her cycling is getting the best of her and she is starting to see reality for what it is. Either way I'm not waiting around until she takes responsibility for her disorder. Your situation is very similar to mine at the present time. I have the lawyers taking care of it and I know it costs money but when dealing with someone very manic it's probably best to stay out of it as it would be worthless to even talk to him.

Don't give him the money - he would have to spend double or triple in court to get that amount from you so just tell him NO!! It really hurts when this all comes out of nowhere but it certainly makes all of us take notice of how bad this disorder can be sometimes. It's high time you moved on to your true "Happy" life.

God Bless...........U&A

Hey U&A,

Thanks for your response. I knew you were going through a similar thing with your xspouse.
I hope your situation is getting better (although I am sure I know the answer to that) I have been reading your posts and I really feel for you. I know what a horrible situation this is. I am thinking of you U&A and hoping it all gets resolved quickly for you, so that you can move on with your life.