kywave
02-15-2007, 08:31 PM
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My 12 year old son is autistic and goes to a special needs school for ADHD and LD who also accepts some autistic students. He's had a bad year socially because he has no friends. He's doing much better academically.
After going back to school in January, he's created what he's called "The Perfect World". In it he is 25 years old. He drives a Mustang, is married with four kids. He goes there only at school when he is stressed and only at home when he has had a meltdown and is trying to calm himself down which is about once a month now.
He was suspended for two days a couple of weeks ago for throwing a pair of scissors at another student.
This week he opened up at family therapy and told the therpist and myself this: at the time he threw the scissors he was in his perfect world and playing basketball with friends, friends he doesn't have. When he threw the scissors, he thought he was throwing a basketball. He's been getting in trouble since after Christmas for things like this.
He comes out of it in his principals office and doesn't know why he is there so he smiles and nods and agrees to whatever they tell him he has done.
Has anyone else come across this before? I don't know how alarmed to be or not be. Now I have to wait until next week to find out more since this was at the end of our session when my son revealed this.
I'm looking for a new school for him for next year, but don't know if I should attempt to homeschool him for the rest of the year since this behavior has surfaced.
My 12 year old son is autistic and goes to a special needs school for ADHD and LD who also accepts some autistic students. He's had a bad year socially because he has no friends. He's doing much better academically.
After going back to school in January, he's created what he's called "The Perfect World". In it he is 25 years old. He drives a Mustang, is married with four kids. He goes there only at school when he is stressed and only at home when he has had a meltdown and is trying to calm himself down which is about once a month now.
He was suspended for two days a couple of weeks ago for throwing a pair of scissors at another student.
This week he opened up at family therapy and told the therpist and myself this: at the time he threw the scissors he was in his perfect world and playing basketball with friends, friends he doesn't have. When he threw the scissors, he thought he was throwing a basketball. He's been getting in trouble since after Christmas for things like this.
He comes out of it in his principals office and doesn't know why he is there so he smiles and nods and agrees to whatever they tell him he has done.
Has anyone else come across this before? I don't know how alarmed to be or not be. Now I have to wait until next week to find out more since this was at the end of our session when my son revealed this.
I'm looking for a new school for him for next year, but don't know if I should attempt to homeschool him for the rest of the year since this behavior has surfaced.
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ItisOkToCry
02-25-2007, 07:18 PM
Is your son on any medications at present?
Trixibel
02-27-2007, 06:41 PM
Wow. That is an interesting story. I used to escape into a fantasy world when I was younger (when I was bored in class) but I always knew I was in the fantasy world. It sounds like your son goes into it so deeply that he loses track of what's actually happening in his 'real world'.
I can't offer any advice except to say that your son obviously has a good creative imagination. I guess you've explained to the school that he's 'disassociating'. It would be a shame to medicate him and take that away from him as it's obviously something that makes him feel happy. Maybe you should encourage him not to play basketball in his 'other world' or anything that involves throwing!! Maybe he should save all 'other world sports' until he's at home in his back yard.
Sorry I can't help more.
I can't offer any advice except to say that your son obviously has a good creative imagination. I guess you've explained to the school that he's 'disassociating'. It would be a shame to medicate him and take that away from him as it's obviously something that makes him feel happy. Maybe you should encourage him not to play basketball in his 'other world' or anything that involves throwing!! Maybe he should save all 'other world sports' until he's at home in his back yard.
Sorry I can't help more.