We have a playpen out in our family room (2 bedroom apartment). And, when it gets to 9 or 10 at night, our son gets sleepy and I put him down (and sometimes he's fallen asleep in the swing or bouncy chair). And, then I go lie down on the couch just for a second and conk out. As a result, Ican't remember the last time I actually slept in my bed. I know this, but it doesn't seem to matter when it gets to that 9 or 10 pm. I could easily put him in his bassinet in the bedroom, but I just don't seem to make it in there. Plus, he often wakes up around 1 for the last feed. So, I feel like I should wait to retire to the bedroom then, but then I'm so tired, that I never do. Sounds terrible, doesn't it?

I've edited this to point out that I love my husband very much!

Don't worry u r not alone. My husband and I haven't slept together since the birth of my son. My son is going to be 3 months tomorrow.

Not to say that this is the right thing to do, I think that it it is impo transition him to his own room and bed soon, so that we gat back some normalcy in our lives:-)

HI

NO. . . not in at least 6 months. I have a hard time with the idea of letting the baby sleep by himself. HE does sleep in his crib but I sleep in his room with him in the extra bed we have in there. I hope to move back to my bedroom soon but am having so many problems with the baby waking constantly at night again, that I feel like I should just stay where I am. .

It was my boyfriend who spent the 1st couple of weeks on the couch. He would stay upto watch a movie while i took our son to bed. While i missed him i found it easier to deal with the baby as i knew he wasn't waking dad. Now we only sleep apart when dad has his turn of a night feed, as i would wake up anyway if kai was in my room. When i'm able to stay up longer i hope we will get more alone time until then i'm enjoying being mummy.

My husband and I have never shared a bed. I know it sounds bad, but we just prefer to sleep separately. We're very happy and have been together for 7 years, but we both prefer to sleep alone. In addition, we face similar child related issues as you all, I have to up and down with the baby, and before that our older ds (now 5) which disturbs dh when he has to work. He works nights and doesnt get home till the middle of the night and has to wind down first, so doesnt want to disturb the baby and I in the bedroom. There are lots of things that impact it. Dont feel bad. Whatever works for you, maybe just check youre still communicating and on the same page and both happy with the situation.

What ever works for you. I was told a few months ago from my Neurologist that my bed is for sleeping and sex and not kids. I dont beleive that either so that was a waster of her breathe. I do beleive that we as woman feel it best that we are not waking dh's up when kids get up at might but again to each his own.

If you are waiting for baby to get up at 1am feeding you can do it just as well in yoru own bed and get a couple hours of good sleep in your own bed while waiting. Baby's really shouldnt be in swing for that long a period of time anyway. They do best when (not sick) on their backs in their own comfy bassinet/crib. Again jut my opinion. Been there done that with the whole not knowing who dh was but shortly lived once kids got trained to sleep through the night. you always wake with the russling of a baby and dont get that great of a good sleep so try to keep baby in a different room and get some rest in your own bed. If it works for you then stick with it though.

Ocassionally. Sometimes one of us will sleep in the bedroom closest to the nursery (there isn't an extra bed in the nursery). This is because the baby "cycles through" her sleep cycles and will make noises and grunts when she is nearly awake. The monitor catches this and wakes us BOTH up in our bedroom. By sleeping in that other bedroom the "on duty" person can shut off the monitor and just listen for real cries as opposed to all of those other baby grunts. We both get more sleep that way. But I would say that 50% of the time we sleep in the bed together... it's just that I go to bed at 8 pm and he goes to bed at 11pm... with appropriate waking times, too. sigh...

My daughter is going on 11 months and I have not slept in my bed since she was born. At first I was only going to sleep on the couch with her for the first few months when the baby wants to be close and doesn't understand. During her 4-6 month she was sleeping on her own most of the time but then suddenly she decided she was really hungery at night and I hated getting up several times so I just took her back to the couch with me. Now, I have found that "attachment parenting" or otherwise sleeping with her is fine and a child will naturally want to sleep on their own around 2-3 years of age. I have already made it nearly a year and it went by fast. I also plan to encourage her sleeping on her own when she is 2-3 or so by letting her pick out bedding and getting her excited about it, etc. It is easier and makes more sense to me, than to put her in a crib, let me cry, try to comfort her when she wants to be held, because when I tried, she stands up and screams and I would have to stand there 3 hours.

Wow, my ds sleeps like such a monkey, I hate sleeping with him. He's all over the place. I sleep much better on my own with the monitor off. Since he's in the next room I can hear him when he wakes. I'd say if it isn't putting a strain on your relationship, it's cool. With us, no way. Every relationship is different. Keeping your relationship strong with dh is probably the best thing you can do for your child. That being said, if the baby waking is causing more of a strain on your relationship than not being in bed with dh, then sleeping separate is probably the best. For us, dh doesn't have the sonar mommy ears, he sleeps like a log and never hears ds.

I don't think I slept in the bed with my husband for about 2 1/2 months after my son was born because I would fall asleeep in the recliner. He made a comment about it so I started sleeping in bed again. I did it because after my son fell asleep when I rocked him, like you I was so tired I would fall asleep. It was easier to sleep there holding him all night than waking my husband up when he had work and I ws on maternity leave. Plus I didn't want to wake up the baby. So you do what you have too. I don't think it's bad.

LOL Thank gosh I'm not the only one!

DH and I are on completely opposite schedules (he works nights/I work days) so when he's coming to bed at 2 or 3 in the morning stirring things up (he has RLS), doesn't really fly with me when I have to be up at 4:30. Especially if my dd has been up several times.

We haven't slept in the same bed since dd was born almost 5 months ago.

We actually tried to sleep in the same bed the other weekend and I ended up kicking him out! Neither one of us got any sleep at all.

Heck, at least I know I won't get pregnant again any time soon! :D