stick2013
02-19-2007, 08:04 PM
Hi Hon,
Have been thinking that you haven't been posting much lately, and I was wondering if you were in "POST OVERLOAD" or if something else was going on with you??????
Come on girlfriend........What's up????? Miss you!!!!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
Have been thinking that you haven't been posting much lately, and I was wondering if you were in "POST OVERLOAD" or if something else was going on with you??????
Come on girlfriend........What's up????? Miss you!!!!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
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stick2013
02-20-2007, 07:47 AM
ICC,
Just wanted to "Bump" this up, so that you wouldn't miss it.....That said......What's going on hon????????
Sid
Just wanted to "Bump" this up, so that you wouldn't miss it.....That said......What's going on hon????????
Sid
ICC
02-20-2007, 08:38 AM
OMG Sid---what a nightmare I have had in the past couple of days. Planned a 50th suprise party for hubby way back in Nov. Everything was done ,planned and ready to rock. I spent the day trying to keep him occupied as he was a little sad that no one called. LOL Just as I was putting my coat on to get him there my 2 temp crowns fell out. SInce i didn't have root canals done, they were just totally drilled out of all decay and nothing more than stubs,but still the nerves are there, the pain started. I wanted them both pulled a year ago but 4 dentists fought me. should have stuck to my guns and that was my first piss off. Now he didn't want to go to the dinner he thought i was taking him to becuase he knew i was in pain but I had 60 people waiting there. We get there and one of our guests who I only invited because they grew up together but against my better judgement had also invited 6 other old friends of his that were the rudest, no class people I had ever met. One of them attacked me before i even had my coat off telling me that they couldn't smoke in the room which i knew and that the bartender told them 3 times with an attitude (yeh right) then he proceeds to tell me that IF something is said again he is going off and I had had it. I told him in no uncertain terms that he wouldn't do crap on my money if if he wasn't happy there to get his wife and the rest of his table and leave. I was so overwelmed between my crowns flopping all over my mouth, 60 people I'm trying to acknowledge and the pain that I was just digusted but tried a smile for hubby. Now i'm trying to work the crowd to say hello to everyone and couldn't talk as I was afraid i would spit my teeth out at someone:blob_fire , go ahead and laugh i did after the fact. I was afraid to take them out and get anything in the wholes. I tried toothpaste to hold them tight but nothing. finally i stuck a wad of gum in there and that held but too late.By that time it was an hour and a half maybe more since we got there. food was put away and i never ate, mingled, did anything all night. I was so dissapointed. hubby had a blast and everyone understood how i felt. Hubby finally went over and told this table to leave . they were still smoking and using the china to put their butts out in. On the way home i was starving and could only get McD's since that's all that was open but had to eat. spent all day sunday trying to relax, took the teeth out overnight so i wouldn't choke on them, then tried fixodent (DUH) and that worked through sunday. I am so annoyed. this has been a year and no permanents yet. I go today to have an assistant put the temps back in since my dentist in on vacation and then next week the permanents will be put on. I will never go against myself again. If I had them pulled last March the way I wanted this would have never happened. Alot of time and money and I couldn't even have a good time. So i visited here yesterday and sunday but was so overwelmend that i couldn't post or even concentrate on what i was reading. Mind is doing pretty good, hubby and I talked alot about the creeps that were there and he knew i invited them for him but we are both done with them. These people didn't even respons that they would be there or not and idn't even bring him a card. they drank, ate , smoked and left. Weeding through the bad. I;m OK , i'm just disgusted with people and annoyed at myself for not holding my ground with my own mouth. never again. i learned my lesson.
thanks for caring my friend,
Grasshopper xo
thanks for caring my friend,
Grasshopper xo
stick2013
02-20-2007, 03:43 PM
Hi Hon,
Ok so I did giggle about the teeth flopping thing. If you had posted and told me, I would have TOLD you to use fixodent. It's been my best friend for almost 9 yrs. OMG I will make you laugh now. I remember one day I was talking to this VERY WEALTHY and VERY EDUCATED woman........My teeth flew right out of my mouth, I caught them in mid air.......OMG I am laughing my butt off right now....hahahahahahahhahhahahahahahahhaha h..... I had had surgery on my mouth the day before, and had stitches all over, so I was told NOT to use any adhesive........I just shoved them right back in, continued to talk to her, and when I got in my car, I thought I would die of embarrassment......
Some people are just plain STUPID and IGNORANT.....The smokers fit that description to a tee...... Don't people know that smoking today in public is a NO NO..... I know that you smoke(YOU NEED TO QUIT TO) but it's just not done in public places today.....They sound like very arrogant, and not worth the time to be bothered with.... I am glad that you said if they didn't like it to leave, and even happier that hubby TOLD them to go.........
I hope that you got a giggle from my teeth flying experience........:D I ALWAYS used GLUE now..........
Hugs,
Sid
Ok so I did giggle about the teeth flopping thing. If you had posted and told me, I would have TOLD you to use fixodent. It's been my best friend for almost 9 yrs. OMG I will make you laugh now. I remember one day I was talking to this VERY WEALTHY and VERY EDUCATED woman........My teeth flew right out of my mouth, I caught them in mid air.......OMG I am laughing my butt off right now....hahahahahahahhahhahahahahahahhaha h..... I had had surgery on my mouth the day before, and had stitches all over, so I was told NOT to use any adhesive........I just shoved them right back in, continued to talk to her, and when I got in my car, I thought I would die of embarrassment......
Some people are just plain STUPID and IGNORANT.....The smokers fit that description to a tee...... Don't people know that smoking today in public is a NO NO..... I know that you smoke(YOU NEED TO QUIT TO) but it's just not done in public places today.....They sound like very arrogant, and not worth the time to be bothered with.... I am glad that you said if they didn't like it to leave, and even happier that hubby TOLD them to go.........
I hope that you got a giggle from my teeth flying experience........:D I ALWAYS used GLUE now..........
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
02-20-2007, 04:31 PM
Oh God Sid did I laugh when i read your story about your teeth flying. I had to have him there in 5 minutes so had no idea what to do. they are my only two crowns. Seeing the dentist tonight and he said something about IF my permanents fit right. I have news for him. they better because i tried to eat lunch today and one of the d**** crowns broke. I can't win with these teeth which is why i wanted them pulled last year. I was on the ignorant people. Sid you are right I need to quit BUT i never go anywhere and expect o light up when I want to. No ashtrays on the table or at the bar should have told them that. I shut them up and that wasn't good enought for hubby so he threw them out.:blob_fire Yeh for hubby. you gotta love him. I do. and trying to be more like him in this area everyday.
Love you my friend, thanks for caring.
Grasshopper.
p.s. how's the belly?
Love you my friend, thanks for caring.
Grasshopper.
p.s. how's the belly?
stick2013
02-20-2007, 08:32 PM
ICC,
The belly is fine so far......I have decided to give up Cashews, Peanuts, and Almonds....Be still my heart......I REFUSE to give up Strawberries, raisins, yellow squash, Zucchini, and blueberries......NOT GOING TO!!!!!
I am glad that you are starting to stand up for yourself more. It's all about setting boundaries, and taking care of you. When you were inviting people to the party, and you had second thoughts about these people.....Next time LISTEN to yourself. That GUT feeling is so important. ALWAYS listen to it.
I am glad that my "Flying teeth" story gave you a giggle. We all need a good laugh now and then.
Hugs,
Sid
The belly is fine so far......I have decided to give up Cashews, Peanuts, and Almonds....Be still my heart......I REFUSE to give up Strawberries, raisins, yellow squash, Zucchini, and blueberries......NOT GOING TO!!!!!
I am glad that you are starting to stand up for yourself more. It's all about setting boundaries, and taking care of you. When you were inviting people to the party, and you had second thoughts about these people.....Next time LISTEN to yourself. That GUT feeling is so important. ALWAYS listen to it.
I am glad that my "Flying teeth" story gave you a giggle. We all need a good laugh now and then.
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
02-21-2007, 08:33 AM
good morning Sid**** you know when i was writing the guest list I had mentioned these few people to both of my daughters and they agreed that though we don't like them and I have been breaking off all contact for a while now that they did grow up with my husband, one of them was our best man. and he was still friends withthem though I didn't bother with them. I had no problem being in a room of 60 with them there had they not started a problem. So the invitations went out. Hubby knows my feelings about them but we have compromised in the past year that he would associate with them when he could but leave me out of it. I wanted him to see clearly what they were like. He's one of these people that trusts everyone until he gets burnt. I trust no one until they prove themselves. Well believe me , he saw it first hand and knew exactly what i've been telling him for the past year was true. You're so right. My boundaries are getting stronger as I saw it, my gut told me know, I did it for him, I was right. Other then telling them they wouldn't start anything on my money I didn't day another word to any of them. My husband was hurt by their rudeness but is over it. Your flying teeth always make me laugh and since laughter is good for the soul you have always been good for me.
Love you,
Grasshopper
Love you,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-21-2007, 01:33 PM
ICC,
I think that I spoke too soon about the "Belly".....Have a low grade temp, some left side pain over hip area , and trotting to the potty room.............NOT A GOOD SIGN!!!!!!!!!!
I wish that I could get over other people treating me rotten, and rude, like your hubby can. But then again, men have a wonderful way of NOT being in touch with their emotions.
Off to be with 2 puppies for 8 days, NOT GOOD when I am NOT feeling good.....I will have use of computer though, so I will stay in contact.....
Feel rotten.....
Sid
I think that I spoke too soon about the "Belly".....Have a low grade temp, some left side pain over hip area , and trotting to the potty room.............NOT A GOOD SIGN!!!!!!!!!!
I wish that I could get over other people treating me rotten, and rude, like your hubby can. But then again, men have a wonderful way of NOT being in touch with their emotions.
Off to be with 2 puppies for 8 days, NOT GOOD when I am NOT feeling good.....I will have use of computer though, so I will stay in contact.....
Feel rotten.....
Sid
ICC
02-21-2007, 02:28 PM
Oh Sid, I feel so bad. It's time, and you know this, to call the Dr. Even if they're willing to try another round of anitbiotics but I think we both know you need more than that. It's those darn grapenuts:) or maybe the strawberry seeds:confused: Sid you know how dangerous this can be. Please promise me you will at least call. As far as hubby goes I watch him all the time. He is very practiced at saying it and walking away. he doesn't wait for a confrontation, an answer, anything. Gets his point across, unloads his own mind and that's it. He was hurt but it was gone in a day or two. My oldest daughter is like that also. I love watching and listening to them. It is an education to say the least. Just say it and walk away before the person has time enough to answer you back. therefore you have unloaded and have not had to be anxious or going back and forth. I am trying. Have been successful a few times lately. alot of my anxiety has died down because of it so I know my attitude has been holding me back. I think differently now about the world and those around me. I pretty much keep to myself, certainly don't invade anyone's privacy, am not judgemental or nasty and just wish to be treated the sae. So if I'm not i speak up immediately. My prayers are with you. Feel better. Please be careful.
Love you,
Grasshopper
Love you,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-21-2007, 08:59 PM
HI ICC,
Haven't called the Dr as of yet, cause we both know that she will NOT give me another round of antibiotics. But I found some Flagly in the back of my medicine cabinet, so I will take it if I need it. The "Grapenuts" Is cereal, and I haven't had any strawberries in weeks. I REALLY am watching what I eat, so I don't know what caused it this time??????????? I have had NO NUTS or SEEDS!!!!! Been eating mushy stuff and I Actually just started
back on real food about a week ago.
I wish I could just "Say my peace" and walk away too. But lately I just walk away, without saying anything, and I don't bother to ever speak to that person again. That really gets to them, because they can't figure out WHY I won't spesk to them anymore.....
I imagin hubby was hurt. He has known this person for a long time, and it hurts to end a friendship. Or at least what you THOUGHT was one. Funny when you really stop and think about ALL of the friends that you have had through out your life, HOW MANY of them are still your friends today?????? I can guess NOT MANY...... Weird how many people walk with us, and then leave. Something like that old saying about friends, here for a reason, or just a season....Something like that.
Ok, I will try and behave myself. I bought tons of veggies, and salad, cottage cheese, grapes, bananas, and steel cut oatmeal YUMMY, YUMMY, YUMMY.....So I will be good.......
Hugs Hon....:wave:
Sid
Haven't called the Dr as of yet, cause we both know that she will NOT give me another round of antibiotics. But I found some Flagly in the back of my medicine cabinet, so I will take it if I need it. The "Grapenuts" Is cereal, and I haven't had any strawberries in weeks. I REALLY am watching what I eat, so I don't know what caused it this time??????????? I have had NO NUTS or SEEDS!!!!! Been eating mushy stuff and I Actually just started
back on real food about a week ago.
I wish I could just "Say my peace" and walk away too. But lately I just walk away, without saying anything, and I don't bother to ever speak to that person again. That really gets to them, because they can't figure out WHY I won't spesk to them anymore.....
I imagin hubby was hurt. He has known this person for a long time, and it hurts to end a friendship. Or at least what you THOUGHT was one. Funny when you really stop and think about ALL of the friends that you have had through out your life, HOW MANY of them are still your friends today?????? I can guess NOT MANY...... Weird how many people walk with us, and then leave. Something like that old saying about friends, here for a reason, or just a season....Something like that.
Ok, I will try and behave myself. I bought tons of veggies, and salad, cottage cheese, grapes, bananas, and steel cut oatmeal YUMMY, YUMMY, YUMMY.....So I will be good.......
Hugs Hon....:wave:
Sid
ICC
02-22-2007, 08:37 AM
Dear Sid,
Yes i know also that another round isn't what you need. You probably have something in one of the pockets. UGH!! you poor thing. is the pain intense or bearable at this point?
I usually do what you do. just walk away. I have a great way of letting someone know they have offended and also knowing that there is no turning back as I don't want to here what they have to say. No point in me saying anything at times because people like that don't get it when you tell them anyway. waste of breathe. Hubby is really good at it and always has been. I'm watching and learning . You know what Sid? the few times I have had to say it and walk away lately the other person is left with their mouth gaping open. i think coming from someone who usually just "goes with the flow" it shocks the pants off them and they have nothing to say. Alot of peopleare uncomfortable with honesty. I'm not. I prefer it.
Feel better my friend,
Grasshopper
Yes i know also that another round isn't what you need. You probably have something in one of the pockets. UGH!! you poor thing. is the pain intense or bearable at this point?
I usually do what you do. just walk away. I have a great way of letting someone know they have offended and also knowing that there is no turning back as I don't want to here what they have to say. No point in me saying anything at times because people like that don't get it when you tell them anyway. waste of breathe. Hubby is really good at it and always has been. I'm watching and learning . You know what Sid? the few times I have had to say it and walk away lately the other person is left with their mouth gaping open. i think coming from someone who usually just "goes with the flow" it shocks the pants off them and they have nothing to say. Alot of peopleare uncomfortable with honesty. I'm not. I prefer it.
Feel better my friend,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-22-2007, 08:56 AM
Dear ICC,
Weird but the pain has gone.... But I know that something just isn't right. Time will tell.
I had something happen just recently so I thought that I would tell you. An ex friend of mine..... Well one of her daughters called me a few weeks ago to talk about her problems. Actually they were about her mother, my ex friend. I tihnk her mom is going through menopause and is just off the wall right now. Cheating on her 3rd husband, getting a divorce, and about to loose everything her current husband has given her. Including a brand new 6 bedroom home, 6 stall barn and 6 horses.....Anyway we talked and she told me that her sister would be upset if she knew that we were talking. I told her that I knew her sister was upset with me but not my problem.... Fast foward a few weeks. I run into the mother in law of the upset sister. She asked me if I had heard what was going on? I told her YES! She asked how I knew, and I told her **** had told me. She asked, "When did you SEE her?" So I told her that we had run into each other at the mall. Which we did, a few weeks AFTER she had called me. So I really did NOT lie. Well guess what.........**** Is now NOT SPEAKING to me......OMG!!!!! For NOT lying I get in trouble... Well I called her and left her a message, told her to NEVER, EVER bother me again, and that I do not lie, but apperently she does...I have know these kids, since they were 3, 5, and 7 they are now all in their 20's..... So yes I know about hurt, and the price that we pay for being honest.... Sometimes it just plain SUCKS!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
Weird but the pain has gone.... But I know that something just isn't right. Time will tell.
I had something happen just recently so I thought that I would tell you. An ex friend of mine..... Well one of her daughters called me a few weeks ago to talk about her problems. Actually they were about her mother, my ex friend. I tihnk her mom is going through menopause and is just off the wall right now. Cheating on her 3rd husband, getting a divorce, and about to loose everything her current husband has given her. Including a brand new 6 bedroom home, 6 stall barn and 6 horses.....Anyway we talked and she told me that her sister would be upset if she knew that we were talking. I told her that I knew her sister was upset with me but not my problem.... Fast foward a few weeks. I run into the mother in law of the upset sister. She asked me if I had heard what was going on? I told her YES! She asked how I knew, and I told her **** had told me. She asked, "When did you SEE her?" So I told her that we had run into each other at the mall. Which we did, a few weeks AFTER she had called me. So I really did NOT lie. Well guess what.........**** Is now NOT SPEAKING to me......OMG!!!!! For NOT lying I get in trouble... Well I called her and left her a message, told her to NEVER, EVER bother me again, and that I do not lie, but apperently she does...I have know these kids, since they were 3, 5, and 7 they are now all in their 20's..... So yes I know about hurt, and the price that we pay for being honest.... Sometimes it just plain SUCKS!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
02-22-2007, 01:13 PM
Dear Sid **** is this the same family you told me about that you had remained friends with the kids after ending the friendship with the mother? You know I have to tell you this has been one of my main reasons for isolating myself most of my adult life. From the time I was in my early 20's i realized that people are mean, nasty and all about themselves. at least most that i have come across have been. In my personal and professional life it has been the same. those with issues that have shoved them down my throat. Sid I have never done that. I knew I had issues, abuse, traumas but always felt they were mine to handle and have always paid a counselor for that help. have never inflicted my problems on anyone and yet took alot of theirs on myself and offered whatever help I could give. I hate liars!!! I hate people that lie to make themselves look better and me worse. I hate people who lie because they are jealous or to cover something up they have done and then I take the brunt of just as you just experienced. People say isolation is not a good thing. For me it is. I have a good family and a couple of good friends and all of you. I don't need an entourage following me with the phony BS. You're right, tell the truth, try to protect someone else and look what you get. slapped in the face. I have felt for many years that most people wouldn't know the truth if it jumped up and bit them. Some can't handle it. I remember my boss asking me one day what I was doing. I said "screwing off". He asked me "No really what are you up to" OMG what part didn't he get? My honesty? I have told people for years don't read between the lines with me for there are known. what you see and hear is all there is. no hidden agenda. Why do you think she called you? Do you feel as if you were set up? What's with anyone else interfering? You have been apart of this family for many years and have your right to talk to whomever you choose. UGH!!! I just hate BS.
I'm here for you,
Grasshopper xo
I'm here for you,
Grasshopper xo
stick2013
02-22-2007, 02:13 PM
Hi ICC,
Actually yes, it is the family that I told you about before. I really love all 3 of the girls, but man I can't believe the BS that I have been put through lately. DON'T get me wrong I have been helped by them many times when I needed a place to stay because i wasn't in a safe place emotionally. Their mom and I were good friends, and she helped me out many times, but then became jealous, first with her husband & I, and then her kids and I. I ended the friendship almost 2 yrs ago. The girls wanted to have a relationship with me, and I agreed, UNTIL their mother really put the screws to them about it. So I ended it with the girls too. Then **** started calling me for help. I really didn't mind, but I WILL NOT lie to cover anything up. I am 53 yrs old, and she is in her 20's. If she wants to have a friendship with ANYONE her sister should NOT butt in. But apparently **** NEEDED to HIDE that we were talking, so Screw it, it just wasn't worth it for me. I just can't accept liars, and people that won't take responsibility for what they say, and do. It really IRKS me.
I think that you guys know how honest that I am, you KNOW everything about my life, and my family.........So I thiknthat you know I am honest......
Yes I am upset over this and PI**** off over it.....
Hugs,
Sid
Actually yes, it is the family that I told you about before. I really love all 3 of the girls, but man I can't believe the BS that I have been put through lately. DON'T get me wrong I have been helped by them many times when I needed a place to stay because i wasn't in a safe place emotionally. Their mom and I were good friends, and she helped me out many times, but then became jealous, first with her husband & I, and then her kids and I. I ended the friendship almost 2 yrs ago. The girls wanted to have a relationship with me, and I agreed, UNTIL their mother really put the screws to them about it. So I ended it with the girls too. Then **** started calling me for help. I really didn't mind, but I WILL NOT lie to cover anything up. I am 53 yrs old, and she is in her 20's. If she wants to have a friendship with ANYONE her sister should NOT butt in. But apparently **** NEEDED to HIDE that we were talking, so Screw it, it just wasn't worth it for me. I just can't accept liars, and people that won't take responsibility for what they say, and do. It really IRKS me.
I think that you guys know how honest that I am, you KNOW everything about my life, and my family.........So I thiknthat you know I am honest......
Yes I am upset over this and PI**** off over it.....
Hugs,
Sid
ICC
02-22-2007, 04:22 PM
And with every right my dear friend. I am with you. we reach an age and have had so much hurt and BS in our lives that there is no room for more. People need to be accountable for their actions no matter what they are. But to try to take support from someone whoshe obviously loves and respects and then lie about it is wrong. SELFISH!!!! is what i say. all are concerned about themselves and no one else's feelings matter. I wouldn't sneak around either. We are either friends or we're not. No one's permission is needed. And you see what i mean about going back for more. That's where alot of my fear comes in with people. I don't want to give anyone a chance to get close because this is what they do. turn around, stick the knife in and then turn it. I have enought of that in my life to last me a lifetime.
Love you,
Grasshopper
Love you,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-23-2007, 08:01 AM
I know exactly how you feel, and yet I know too that isolation is not a good thing. It's like we are caught between a rock and a hard place.
My other friend called me yesterday, she is NOT happy in her marriage. Her husband in a jerk, emotionally abusive, and probably has Borderline Personality Disorder. 3 shrinks, and therapist, a head master of her childrens school, and everyone of her friends ask her WHY are you still with him???? She took one of her kids, and her kids 3 friends to Fl. for a vacation, she called me a little drunk, and wanted me to go to Fl with her for her birthday for a week in April....I just wish that I could make her understand that I have $$$$ Issues, responsibilities that I can't ignore, and I really don't want to go to Fl. Every yr I go to MI for her birthday, we make all sorts of plans and then end up NOT doing anything because she has 3 teenage kids, and her husband is a jerk. I don't mind just spending time with her and the kids, I enjoy it. But then HUBBY always has things that he wants her to do, places for her to be...UGH!!!!!! EVERY YEAR she says that she will come to MA for my birthday, and EVERY YEAR hubby the JERK does something that won't allow her to come......It's hard. We do have a strong friendship, she know i can't stand her husband... When he found out I had Diverticulitis 2 weeks ago.... HE actually TOLD her to call me and GIVE me his CELL PHONE # so that he could EDUCATE ME on Diverticulitis, and what I SHOULD and SHOULD NOT be doing, and how dangerous this is.... LIKE I AM REALLY GOING TO CALL HIM!!!!!!!! NOT in this life time. He is NOT my Dr, and he SUCKS as a Dr. I was ther once, he DX'ed me witha pulled muscle, told me to Stretch it by hanging from tall things.... Turns out I had a PINCHED NERVE IN MY NECK!!!!!!!!!!!! A Nurse Practioner DX'ed me in less than 3 minutes......
Sorry I am just really upset today thinking about this crap... Just venting. Thanks for listening...
Sid
My other friend called me yesterday, she is NOT happy in her marriage. Her husband in a jerk, emotionally abusive, and probably has Borderline Personality Disorder. 3 shrinks, and therapist, a head master of her childrens school, and everyone of her friends ask her WHY are you still with him???? She took one of her kids, and her kids 3 friends to Fl. for a vacation, she called me a little drunk, and wanted me to go to Fl with her for her birthday for a week in April....I just wish that I could make her understand that I have $$$$ Issues, responsibilities that I can't ignore, and I really don't want to go to Fl. Every yr I go to MI for her birthday, we make all sorts of plans and then end up NOT doing anything because she has 3 teenage kids, and her husband is a jerk. I don't mind just spending time with her and the kids, I enjoy it. But then HUBBY always has things that he wants her to do, places for her to be...UGH!!!!!! EVERY YEAR she says that she will come to MA for my birthday, and EVERY YEAR hubby the JERK does something that won't allow her to come......It's hard. We do have a strong friendship, she know i can't stand her husband... When he found out I had Diverticulitis 2 weeks ago.... HE actually TOLD her to call me and GIVE me his CELL PHONE # so that he could EDUCATE ME on Diverticulitis, and what I SHOULD and SHOULD NOT be doing, and how dangerous this is.... LIKE I AM REALLY GOING TO CALL HIM!!!!!!!! NOT in this life time. He is NOT my Dr, and he SUCKS as a Dr. I was ther once, he DX'ed me witha pulled muscle, told me to Stretch it by hanging from tall things.... Turns out I had a PINCHED NERVE IN MY NECK!!!!!!!!!!!! A Nurse Practioner DX'ed me in less than 3 minutes......
Sorry I am just really upset today thinking about this crap... Just venting. Thanks for listening...
Sid
ICC
02-23-2007, 08:30 AM
Oh Sid --- I am so sorry you are going through this. You know that is my point with people. always drama. never reliable. I don't isolate to the point of not having any outside contact but I have been extrememly choosy since my 20's. there were too many times that I did and went where others wanted and always kept everyone happy while i was miserable in cerain environements. I just refuse now. You can be there for your friend and she can be there for you but the situation with the husband and having plans changed or ruined is so unfair to you. Do you see what i mean about people anting it their way or no way. SELFISH AND ALL ABOUT THEMSELVES. I'm sorry but i hate it and won't expose myself to it anymore. I don't have much of a life right now because of my body but would prefer when the time comes to do things that don't require my personal life to be involved. I am much happier around happy people who are pleasant, sociable but don't have to be in your personal stuff. It will give me the social contact I need but will keep me from being judged or put in the position of being badgered to be somewhere that i don't want to be. I'm here for you, keep posting until we can get it all out. You sound like you are angry and sad at the same time. You are too good a person for this crap. I'll be off and on all day. come back.
Love you,
Grasshopper
Love you,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-23-2007, 05:54 PM
Hi ICC,
You know it's funny..... I love my girlfriend with ALL of my heart, but there are times that I just want to BEAT her to death for some of the choices that she makes, and beat her even more for the ONES that SHE WON'T MAKE!!!!! She is so unhappy right now, and has 3 kids , 2 of which are problems right now, and yet she can't see that her HUSBAND is the DIRECT PROBLEM that is CAUSING the problems with her kids.....UGH!!!!!!!!!! So we talk almost every day, she vents, I yell at her, I get frustrated, she gets upset, then we calm down, and repeat the process the next phone call. I just get so ANGRY!!!!!!! She is such a WONDERFUL person, so giving, so kind, so loving, and SO FRIGGEN DESERVING of a better life........WHY sha can't see this is beyond me.....
Ok, I have vented long enough.... Sorry, but THANK YOU for being here for me......
Love you,
Sid
You know it's funny..... I love my girlfriend with ALL of my heart, but there are times that I just want to BEAT her to death for some of the choices that she makes, and beat her even more for the ONES that SHE WON'T MAKE!!!!! She is so unhappy right now, and has 3 kids , 2 of which are problems right now, and yet she can't see that her HUSBAND is the DIRECT PROBLEM that is CAUSING the problems with her kids.....UGH!!!!!!!!!! So we talk almost every day, she vents, I yell at her, I get frustrated, she gets upset, then we calm down, and repeat the process the next phone call. I just get so ANGRY!!!!!!! She is such a WONDERFUL person, so giving, so kind, so loving, and SO FRIGGEN DESERVING of a better life........WHY sha can't see this is beyond me.....
Ok, I have vented long enough.... Sorry, but THANK YOU for being here for me......
Love you,
Sid
ICC
02-23-2007, 06:09 PM
Dear Sid ---- Your friend was me through a horrific 25 year marriage. I had a friend like you. We did the same. She yelled, I yelled back, we disagreed, i never made a move. When it was done we kissed and hugged and made up. this went on through our friendship of 26 years. She passed away 5 years ago. We even shared the fact that we buried children 6 months apart from each other. We both had a reason for being together and we both supporte deach other in our decisions whether or not we agreed with the other. I miss her terribly. Have not been able to bond with another woman my age since then until you..............:angel:
Love you,
Grasshopper
Love you,
Grasshopper
stick2013
02-23-2007, 07:46 PM
Dear ICC,
It's so hard... I sit here everyday and type and type and type, and I want to reach out and hug you. I think that you know I have bonded with Nikki, and you in a way that is so special to me. I care about everyone on this board, but the 2 of you have become so special to me. The progress that both of you have gone through is so great, it gives my heart a warm feeling every time I see that either of you have "Got It".
Yes even if I never get to KNOW you in the flesh, you have become a part of my life that I hold in a special place in my heart. Reserved for you and Nikki.....
I am so please, and feel special that you also consider me a friend.... Thank you for opening up and inviting me in.... When you are in a persons heart, it's like being close to god's heart..... Thank you my friend......
You seem to always know how to make me go from upset to feeling warm and fuzzy inside......Thanks for being my comfort zone too...
Hugs, and you are an :angel: too...
Sid
It's so hard... I sit here everyday and type and type and type, and I want to reach out and hug you. I think that you know I have bonded with Nikki, and you in a way that is so special to me. I care about everyone on this board, but the 2 of you have become so special to me. The progress that both of you have gone through is so great, it gives my heart a warm feeling every time I see that either of you have "Got It".
Yes even if I never get to KNOW you in the flesh, you have become a part of my life that I hold in a special place in my heart. Reserved for you and Nikki.....
I am so please, and feel special that you also consider me a friend.... Thank you for opening up and inviting me in.... When you are in a persons heart, it's like being close to god's heart..... Thank you my friend......
You seem to always know how to make me go from upset to feeling warm and fuzzy inside......Thanks for being my comfort zone too...
Hugs, and you are an :angel: too...
Sid
ICC
02-24-2007, 08:18 AM
Oh my dear Sid --- i am so glad i could relieve some of the pain, sadness adn frustration you're feeling. You have been here for me writing back and forth endlessly until i felt better it warms myheart to know icould dothe same for such a good friend. we've touched, in the best places. the mind, heart and soul. It's so hard to want to be there for a friend to help but knowing it will hurt you makes it one of those decisions we have to make but really wish we didn't.
Love you lots,
Grasshopper
Love you lots,
Grasshopper