Hi there,
I do not know where to start here.....

I am so sorry about your situation it must be very upsetting for you, and your family. Is your mum in councelling or therapy?

Remember this is not your fault, depression can change your whole personality at times.

hang in there. *hugs*

wow carsam,

that's a lot for one woman to handle!!!!!!
my mother's a bit similar to yours. she's derppressed but won't take any AD's because 'they'll cloud [her] mind, and [she's] not cra.zy."

i'm sort of amazed that out of ten siblings, your mom's only speaking to one!!! that truly does say something about her.

my mom has lots of health issues herself, and she takes care of them, but not of the depression--which, like i said, she doesn't believe she has. on top of that, like you, for the past 7 years, she's also been seeing about my dad, who's been in a nursing home bec. of a stroke that left him paralyzed, tube-fed, and dependent on others for just about everything. my sis and i tried and tried to talk to her to take it easier, but she refused (i think it's a martyrdom type of thing--only God knows). then, recently, besides the other health related illnessess she has, she's got diagnosed with atrial tachycardia, and put on heavy duty meds. that doesn't stop her either. i've tried to tell her we still need her around (even though both my sis and i are in our 30's), but to no avail...

oh yeah, and like you with the presents....once, for mother's day, i thought it would be nice to send my mom some flowers, you know, from that famous flowershop that delivers....well, that was the most miserable thing i did. the flowers arrived and they were beautiful, however, she told me that she doesn't need them, bec. she'd rather i'd give her one flower in person that send her a box of flowers through mail (even though i was there when she opened them!!) so, she had me take them. i took them with me, but let me tell you, it made me feel soooooo bad, so horrible, so..i can't even explain it. kept asking myself, what the heck did i do that was so wrong for her to go through such a tirade?!!! well, it wasn't me, it was her. and i vowed to myself that from then on, i'll never get her flowers again.

i've realized by now that many of these problems she created. i'm starting not to give 2 cents anymore, as i only get more migraines and more stress when we interact...my sister continues to be there for her....and to allow her to destroy her life for my dad, who is no his last legs (i care and love him, don't get me wrong, but the man is 74 years old, and says he wants to die, because he can't take it anymore). anyway, i'm not going to go into this much further...sorry for taking so much space here. just wanted to let you know i sort of know what you may be feeling, and that i'm sorry!!!!. i don't know what else to say.

hang on to your husband and your beautiful child!!!
blessings, always :angel:

Hi Ladies, thanks for your messages.
It is a very long story.....