Hello,

Over the last two years my wife and I have developed a serious addiction, it didnt happen over-night and we are dealing with alot of physical and mental stress trying to lower our levels and ultimately stop using pain killers. It's really tough, Its hard to cope with everyday ordeals when we arent using, and the withdrawls are leading to continuous relapse. As a couple we are trying to become each-others support system, but lately it seems that we can also be eachothers enemy when it comes to using. We are wanting to know if any couples or individuals could share some experience or hope with us about how to deal with the withdrawls and maybe give some feedback about developing a positive support system between us. our family and marriage needs healing the same as we do. any help or acknowledgement is appreciated.

Mr&mrsOwens

I had friends[a couple of 11 yrs] who were addicted to pain med. for a long time.
Before the addiction,they were fun to hang out with,dinner,a movie,bars,etc.
But after a while,there addiction was noticeable.When they didn't have any med. they couldn't do anything.They split a while back,and i talk to the both of them on separate occasions.I guess in the end,they blamed it on each other.They also tried to stop,the woman left him because she said she couldn't quit with him around.Well,he still does them i heard,and a friend of mine seen her,and she still does them too,but i guess not as bad[what ever that means] I'm being honest,if you want to save your relationship[I'm sure you do] do something NOW.Get professional help,like an addiction specialist.

I know what your sayin.When we are withdrawling,we fight really bad.Whats the worst is we are both addicted,have kids and can't just lay around when we withdrawl.Something like this really can ruin a marriage.Sorry to hear about your friends and keep up with the advice.

How are yous doing? I hope good.Theres a lot of good people on this forum who can give great advise,and the beauty is when your clean and sober,you can still stick around and tell others how you did it!I wish the best!!!!!
_MAD.-

We're not doin to well. :( We are out of medicine and tryin to get people to tell us how to deal with withdrawls thats not expensive.I know I gotta get better for myself and my kids.Thanx for the support.

Mrs.owens

Hope you guys can find comfort here~ We all care about you!
Stay in touch, ok? Im sorry I dont have any concrete answers for you, but you have my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there!
xoxoxoxoxo,
IZZYSMOM:angel: :angel:

Read as much as you can...the answers are here on this site. Have immodium and take until you stop having to run...sorry for the word...to the bathroom. Any chance you can get someone to watch your kids over the weekend. This will allow you both to veg out. The first three-five days are the worst physically. Once you start feeling better physically, the mental anguish begins. Get some OTC vitamins...5HTP, L-Tyrosine, B-complex. Now, are you in pain? If so, ibuprofen, aleve may help. Also, you may get headaches around day 3 and 4...this is a rebound headache from all of the tylennol.

Drink lots of water and force yourselves to do things everyday. I know the weather isn't terrific but get out and walk. Fresh air, activitiy and water is the best medicine.

Talk to each other when you are ready. Keep us posted on how you are doing...we are all hoping you both turn the corner and feel better sooner vs. later.

thank you for the encouragement,i have really felt alone.Nobody knows but my husband.Don't wanna tell my mom.She is goin through alot of stress and told me she can't handle anymore.That right there told me she isn't ready to know.I will stay in touch.Good to know I'm not alone.

Mrs.Owens

Are all of those vitamins and stuff expensive?I am unemployed and for about 2 weeks ago my husand lost his too.The bad part is I just had a major knee surgery,reconstructive and I really am in pain.I know its gotten out of control though.The thing with havin someone watchin my kids is my mom kept my kids while I was recovering from this knee surgery.My sister,her husband,and her two kids live with her also.So she pretty much has kids all the time.I don't think she can physically or mentally take much more.We will probably just have to do it seperately.That way someone will always be here to watch the kids.I don't trust anyone else with my kids except my husband and my mom.Thanks for all the advice.I wish I could get my levels down so I could take medicine like i am supposed to.I really have alot of pain.I am glad I have your guys support.I have been feelin alone and like a loser.

Mrs.Owens

Hey there~
Just wanted to see how you are doing~ Hope you are feeling better, I know how it goes when parents tell you they are overloaded. It sucks, becuase you stilll need and want their support. Dont worry, you have us here, so keep on posting and let us know how things are ok? Stay in touch! i hurt like hell today and feel crappy, and my lil boy wants me to go jump on the trampoline with him. hes waited ALL day for me. Im going to get up and get outside and get some fresh air. hope you can too.
xoxoxoxoxox,
IZZY'SMOM

I am so glad to find someone who can relate with me.I totally understand with the kid thing.I sometimes literally have to make myself do physical things with my kids.I will do anything for them though.Fresh air sounds like a good idea.Let me know if it helps.Care if I ask your story?I will continue to stay in touch with you.Its good to have someone to talk to.Thanks for the support.Keep in touch.

Mrs.Owens

I can totally relate to what you are going through. My husband and I were addicted to Lortabs, Percocet..anything we could get for over 5 years. We then ended up finding someone who would sell us morphine and got addicted to that. When we ran out we would always call it the Lortab "hangover" and it sucks! 2 kids, have to get up and go to work...just to function was horrible! We lost jobs during all of this, my husband went to jail for forging a prescription, doctor hopping and on and on and on....
We finally decided to go to a doctor and try to get some help. As we were taking morphine by then he prescribed us Methadone. My husband took way too many (just to feel better) and ended up aspirating in his sleep and was in the hospital for 2 weeks on a breathing tube with pnuemonia. He woke up in the hospital and had no idea where he was or what happened and on this particular day the nurse didn't restrain his arms tight enough and he pulled the tube out of his throat. He ended up leaving the hospital 4 days later and went back to the same doctor and got more Methadone. This time he didn't abuse them but the damage from his previous overdose to his lungs was too much and he died 10 days after leaving the hospital. His cause of death was acute methadone toxicity. It will be 2 years this Thursday since he died and I have been on Methadone the entire time up until 9 days ago. I am sick and miserable and now going through it alone. The only thing that keeps me going is my childen and fortunately my daughter is 13 so she is a big help with my 6 year old son. I have delt with this addiction for 7 years now and am still dealing with it today. I wish you the best of luck and I am thinking of you...

Angie, I am thinking of you. You are so brave to post and I hope that you are able to see the other side of addiction. Please post to let us know how you are doing.

Mr and Mrs Owens: I hope you are both okay. Please post when you get a chance.