me and my girlfriend are planning to have sex for the first time. we kinda both want it to be unprotected. she is planning to go on birth control pills but we dont know anything about them. here are some questions.
does she have to take them months before, days , or weeks before having sex?
do they have to be prescribed or can they be found in any pharmacy?
what are the negative effects.?
(is there a lubricant or jelly that kills sperm?)
thanks

i'd say at least a few cycles for it to even out and be confident that it's working. (a few months). they need to be obtained through a perscription.

call me old fashioned, but these are pretty basic questions and if you and your girlfriend don't know some of these things it makes me wonder about your age a little bit. but i guess it's good that you're trying to be careful.

stay safe!

i'd say at least a few cycles for it to even out and be confident that it's working. (a few months). they need to be obtained through a perscription.

call me old fashioned, but these are pretty basic questions and if you and your girlfriend don't know some of these things it makes me wonder about your age a little bit. but i guess it's good that you're trying to be careful.

stay safe!
well im 18. we are trying to be very careful because we are not ready for a kid. but if it happens we will be responsible. anyways, are there any side effects to the pill?

well im 18. we are trying to be very careful because we are not ready for a kid. but if it happens we will be responsible. anyways, are there any side effects to the pill?

You answered your question right there, if you are not ready to be a parent you are not ready to have sex. Even if she is on the pill it is not 100%. And you both want to be UNPROTECTED? Meaning no condom? Were both of you tested for AIDS or other STD's before? The pill DOES NOT protect against STD's.

we are both virgins and feel ready to make love. we are aware of the consequenses, thats why she wants to go on birth control. but we are thiniking about it and feel like its better to use a condom. the thing is that we dont want to use a condom because we want to lose our virginities natually, you get me? feel all the pleasure , i dont know its a thing that we both have.

Well, obviously if you've never had sex you don't have STDs.
I don't think you need to get tested for something like that. And if you would rather do it without a condom, than go for it.
Just because you're not ready to be a parent doesn't mean that you're not ready to have sex. That's what birth control is for.
Before I ever started taking the pill I had no clue what it was or how it worked until I did a lot of research. So I think it's unfair for anyone to tell you what you should(n't) do and whether or not you're ready. It's your life.

But anyway... back to your questions.
I recommend that you and your girlfriend do some online research first. Read as much info as you can on the pill and all it's benefits and side-effects. There are a lot of potential issues that can raise with the use of the pill. Make sure you know about all of them.
And no, you cannot buy the pill at a drugstore, it has to be prescribed by a doctor. If your gf doesn't want to go to her doctor for this, she can always go to a Planned Parenthood clinic and discuss this with them. They will definitely help her out.
Your girlfriend will have to get a small blood test done, a plevic exam, breast exam, and possibly a pap test (but probably not since she hasn't been sexually active).
They will prescribe a pill they think is best for her and she's going to have to read all the instructions and take the pill correctly on a daily basis for at least a week prior to having unprotected sex.
Although pills are 99.5% effective, you have to be careful anyway. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex every time while I was on the pill (I didn't get pregnant), but that's because I took the pill correctly at the same time every single day.
So if she decides to do this make sure she knows that taking it correctly is essential for effectiveness of the pill.

As far as the side-effects are concerned, it really depends on her body and the type of pill she's taking. Different pills work differently for everyone.
For example, some short term side-effects are nausea, vomiting, breast tenderness, weight gain, excessive bleeding, irregular periods, head aches, mood swings, blood clots... and of course, there is a risk of stroke and heart attack (especially for smokers). So if she smokes make sure she knows this.

There are also a lot of benefits to taking the pill and some of those are (the most obvious) prevents pregnancy, reduces menstrual cramps, may prevent ovarian cysts and cancer, and it also makes periods more regular.

So, as you can see, there is a lot that she should know before taking the pill. From my personal experience, I wouldn't take it again. The pill I was taking worked great as far as preventing pregnancy, but the long-term side-effects such as lack of sex drive, no natural lubrication, mood swings, weight gain, etc were just too much to deal with. It was really effecting my life negatively so I recently quit taking it.

Good luck with this. It's a very important decision. Make sure you guys don't rush into anything and be safe.

The PP said it well.

I wanted to add almost all women who take hormonal birth control experience a NEGATIVE effect to their sex drive. It may come on within a few months, or it may take a year or 2, but the pill decreases sex drive tremendously. I didn't care if I ever had sex again while on the pill. It decreased my ability to orgasm, and I stopped having natural arousal fluid while on it (meaning lube was always necessary for sex).

Well, obviously if you've never had sex you don't have STDs.
I don't think you need to get tested for something like that. And if you would rather do it without a condom, than go for it.
Just because you're not ready to be a parent doesn't mean that you're not ready to have sex. That's what birth control is for.
Before I ever started taking the pill I had no clue what it was or how it worked until I did a lot of research. So I think it's unfair for anyone to tell you what you should(n't) do and whether or not you're ready. It's your life.

But anyway... back to your questions.
I recommend that you and your girlfriend do some online research first. Read as much info as you can on the pill and all it's benefits and side-effects. There are a lot of potential issues that can raise with the use of the pill. Make sure you know about all of them.
And no, you cannot buy the pill at a drugstore, it has to be prescribed by a doctor. If your gf doesn't want to go to her doctor for this, she can always go to a Planned Parenthood clinic and discuss this with them. They will definitely help her out.
Your girlfriend will have to get a small blood test done, a plevic exam, breast exam, and possibly a pap test (but probably not since she hasn't been sexually active).
They will prescribe a pill they think is best for her and she's going to have to read all the instructions and take the pill correctly on a daily basis for at least a week prior to having unprotected sex.
Although pills are 99.5% effective, you have to be careful anyway. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex every time while I was on the pill (I didn't get pregnant), but that's because I took the pill correctly at the same time every single day.
So if she decides to do this make sure she knows that taking it correctly is essential for effectiveness of the pill.

As far as the side-effects are concerned, it really depends on her body and the type of pill she's taking. Different pills work differently for everyone.
For example, some short term side-effects are nausea, vomiting, breast tenderness, weight gain, excessive bleeding, irregular periods, head aches, mood swings, blood clots... and of course, there is a risk of stroke and heart attack (especially for smokers). So if she smokes make sure she knows this.

There are also a lot of benefits to taking the pill and some of those are (the most obvious) prevents pregnancy, reduces menstrual cramps, may prevent ovarian cysts and cancer, and it also makes periods more regular.

So, as you can see, there is a lot that she should know before taking the pill. From my personal experience, I wouldn't take it again. The pill I was taking worked great as far as preventing pregnancy, but the long-term side-effects such as lack of sex drive, no natural lubrication, mood swings, weight gain, etc were just too much to deal with. It was really effecting my life negatively so I recently quit taking it.

Good luck with this. It's a very important decision. Make sure you guys don't rush into anything and be safe.


thanks alot moonlight, you really helped with the info. and yeah you are right we shouldnt rush anything, we are planning to start having sex like in a year so we have enough time to talk about it . k thank you again. bye