Yesterday a baby was found in a used shoe box in an alley. The baby boy was full of blood ....the mother must have placed him there as soon as she gave birth. Luckily he was found right in time and taken to hospital and is now doing fine.
I have been in shock as soon as i heard the news. I work at this same hospital and i spent hours thinking whether i should go and see him. But DH didn t agree he knows i am too vunerable now. so i didn t however I asked if the baby will be up for adoption and i was told its too early to tell.
I don t know if this is something which happens in your countries but i don t think it ever happened here. .. . I can t express what i feel. I feel so sorry for the little one. I feel sorry and angry at the same time for the mother. ANd all this made me sad all day. . . . actually i just couldn t stop crying. Here i am so upset that my angel baby s EDD is coming up .. . . here are we all of us doing all that we possibly can(and more than we can or afford) .. . isn t it so ironic.
I am sorry maybe i shouldn t be posting this . . . but i really needed to get it all out and see what you ladies think.

AMy

OMG Amy that is horrible I cant believe a mother could do that.I have heard of stories like this women leaving their baby in the trash etc.I dont know why babies are given to people who dont want them and then people like us who would do and give anything in the world to have a baby cant have one.Life is so unfair and this poor sweetie hasent even barely been born and has to go through this.Just believe god will punish the mother for doing that.I think I would have gone to see the baby I dont know if I could have held back.Well keep us informed on how this poor baby is doing.

Mapia

I was so afraid that if i went to see the baby i would have wanted to cradle him and wouldn t have wanted to let him go. .. . .


Amy

Wow that is so sad. I Can understand your heavy heart. I have heard of many women doing that here and it makes me sick to my stomach to think someone could do that, but there are some real sick ppl out there. This has happend to that baby for a reason though and maybe it will be better off now.

Amy, that is so horrible and it makes me sick to my stomach to know that someone could do such a thing. Sadly it does happen here and the worst part is that there are so many safe havens where a baby can be left at firestations or PD's with no questions asked. I understand how this could make you get so upset... it actually gets me worked up too. And with your angel's EDD coming up, I know that will only heighten your sensitivity right now. Well I hope you are feeling okay and I will be praying for that little baby and for you too.

Amy,


I understand what your saying it sounds soul destroying!and it makes me so angry:mad: that someone who can easily have kids dont allways appreciate
how lucky they are, i mean what are these people thinking of?:i suppose i dont know there circumstances.sometimes its sooo hard not to be bitter!
Nevermind we will all get our day im sure:D

Take care

x

Hi Amy

It is impossible for any of us to understand how someone could do something like this because we are just not like that mother. Who knows where her head was at the time. She must be seriously screwed up. It is so hard for us to encounter the devaluation of life when it is something we are striving so hard for. I pray that all of us never become bitter and discouraged when faced with situations like this.

Amy, please know I am keeping you in my prayers and thoughts as angel's DD draws near. No doubt this will be a hard time for you but we are here to help you get through it.

Ruby

This breaks my heart that a mother could do this. If I worked at the hospital I personally would see the baby, thats just me though. Have they found the mother?

Amy I am thinking about you as your angel's EDD arrives. I have been there before and know how hard it is. Big hugs to you,

Amy sweetie thinking of u as ur angels EDD comes near.I hope u can be strong.In any case we are here for u sweetie.You are both in my prayers.Take care.

(((HUGS)))

Mapia

Hi Amy,

I'm thinking about you and your Angel's due date, my prayers are with you. Have you thought about trying to adopt the baby? Here in the states they would put the baby into foster care and then into some ones house. If there are no known realatives then the baby can be adopted. Its so sad how some women are willing to throw life away....Makes me wonder what kind of person it takes to do that.

Well The mother has been found and she revealed who the father is. But both don t want the little one. The baby will be kept at hospital for now than put into foster care. It s still early days for me to think about adoption. However in this case i though that its the baby who needs me and it would be selfish not to think about adoption because i am still in early days of TTC. So i went to check how i got go about adopting the little one. However i was told that the child will be in foster care for a few years during which the mother, father or any close relatives would have the right to take him back. An you imagine that caring for a child for months than losing him again. couldn t go through that ordeal. I was so upset these past few days i drove DH mad. So yesterday we went to an abondened dogs place and got a puppy who s adorable.


KAri thank you for your thoughts and prayers . .. you ve been through it too so you know how i feel .. . it really helps knowing i am not alone.
I will be praying for you next monday.

Ruby thank you. . .your kind words mean so much to me i don t know how i would have faced these months without your help.
So glad to see your positive attitude in your other post. I am sure that you ll manage to be a mommy again soon.Just be persistant and don t give up.


MApia thank you for your thoughts. I am so glad that things are going great with your aunt and praying for you that you ll get your BFP in this 2ww.

Bonitagirl i think i ve answered your question above.Moreover adoption is so complicated locally that most couples tend to adopt internationally. Thank you for your thoughts i know you ve been through it too.however i hope that you ll manage to solve your prob and get prego again.

Susan thank your for your thoughts and congrats once again. If there were more peolpe as altruistic as you i am sure the world would be such as better place.

Jam wishing you all the best for your 2ww.

Chantelle. . all the best for your new cycle.

AMy

Amy thank u sweetie for ur kind words.I pray we all get our BFP's soon.I cant beleive they would keep that child in foster care all those years only for his parents not to claim him.Then his life is ruined.But if they let someone adopt him his life will turn out so much better.Those parents dont deserve another chance at claiming the baby.First of all they should be thrown in jail.Especially the mother I just cant understand how a mother can carry her child for 9 months then give birth and hurt giving this child life and then throws him away.People like that just have mental problems and should not be allowed to walk the streets.So she can get pregnant again and throw away the child again.What kind of sick world do we live in.What makes me even more mad is that she wasent put in jail to pay for what she did.It makes me so sick.Anyway so u got a puppy what a good idea that is so sweet.At least u gave a puppy a nice home.

Mapia

Hi Amy,

Sorry I am a bit late to post. I feel terrible for all you are going through. I know adoption is such a huge decision and I understand how you have mixed feelings on what to do. Especially about fostering, I too would have done that already if the pain of loosing the child would not be so great. We already are going through so much and that is just too painful... for me at least. We just have to believe in god's plan and see what gifts he will have instore for you. Either way you will be a mother. In fact you already are...to a cute little puppy :).

Hi Amy

Thanks for your lovely words. I am still sad and sickened about what happened but I guess we live in a cruel world.

Congratulations on your puppy! Dogs are wonderful pets, I get a lot of joy and comfort from my own little dog. They are heaps of work too, so the distraction will be good for you.

Take care honey.

Ruby