scoobylou22
04-06-2007, 02:50 PM
One of my work collegues told me she was pregnant this morning, i acted all happy for her (which i genuinly am) but i feel so depressed she only tried for one month!!! its not fair!!
She dosn't know we are ttc and she was making jokes about how i should get pregnant, i just wanted to cry :(
Sorry for the moan im having a bad day, still havnt ovulated yet and its cd35 (i can't even remember how many days now, it could be more)
Anyway hope your all ok xxx
She dosn't know we are ttc and she was making jokes about how i should get pregnant, i just wanted to cry :(
Sorry for the moan im having a bad day, still havnt ovulated yet and its cd35 (i can't even remember how many days now, it could be more)
Anyway hope your all ok xxx
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duzford
04-06-2007, 03:17 PM
Yes it is normal. I had the same thing today. I am not only infertile but have been diagnosed with a condition that can make having a baby difficult/fatal for me. Anyway we were talking about school taxes and I said why should I pay so much on taxes for schools I am not using. He kept saying over and over --- yet as if there is a guarantee I will use them. I wanted to just smack him. He is always complaining about how difficult life as a parent is and I would gladly trade that difficulty for a chance to have one.
Good luck, hang in there but don't hit your co-worker --- it will only screw up your chances of corporate advancement.;)
Good luck, hang in there but don't hit your co-worker --- it will only screw up your chances of corporate advancement.;)
G8r4evr
04-06-2007, 11:29 PM
Ive been having resentful feelings for about a year now. 2 of my closest friends and countless other coworkers have had babies in the last year and I am embarassed to say that I am jealous. Although my hubby and I have only been trying for a few months, I worried that I would have difficulties long before then due to my irregular periods and now its like my deepest fears ar coming true....Like another poster said earlier, it seems to be "raining pregnant women" and I seem to be a walking ball of resentment.
Amy 333
04-07-2007, 09:54 AM
I am the one who said its raining pregnant women . .. and the more i think about it i realise that i did not used to see pregnant women before now i do.
I understand what you guys mean but its only natural to feel that way.
Luckily most of my friends don t have kids yet. I feel most uncomfortable with my family lately. My sis just had her 3rd opps baby. I actually had to baby sit her other 2 kids for a few days until she got used to the idea.She then had her tubes tied after giving birth. Now she only calls me to moan about the costs of bringing up 3 kids, to tell me how disobedient they are(i think they are 3 angels) or to tell me how busy she is.I love her dearly. . .. but it hurts so much when she moans that i try to avoid her as much as possible. After her last moaning session i told her have you ever thanked God that they are all healthy and she just stared at me.. ....
I ended up venting here.
Latey i am trying to do my best to appreciate what i have more. . like Dh, my friends etc. . .. . until hopefully I (and all of us) will be blessed with our bundle of joy.
Amy
I understand what you guys mean but its only natural to feel that way.
Luckily most of my friends don t have kids yet. I feel most uncomfortable with my family lately. My sis just had her 3rd opps baby. I actually had to baby sit her other 2 kids for a few days until she got used to the idea.She then had her tubes tied after giving birth. Now she only calls me to moan about the costs of bringing up 3 kids, to tell me how disobedient they are(i think they are 3 angels) or to tell me how busy she is.I love her dearly. . .. but it hurts so much when she moans that i try to avoid her as much as possible. After her last moaning session i told her have you ever thanked God that they are all healthy and she just stared at me.. ....
I ended up venting here.
Latey i am trying to do my best to appreciate what i have more. . like Dh, my friends etc. . .. . until hopefully I (and all of us) will be blessed with our bundle of joy.
Amy
G8r4evr
04-07-2007, 11:00 AM
Whats been hardest on me is my brother in law and his wife are expecting their oops baby (they are 18 and 22) and not what you would consider financially stable. My hubby and I are both 27 and have both been saving up until we were ready and are now trying and its just hard....especially at family get togethers like tomorrow.
Amy 333
04-07-2007, 11:24 AM
Hey I am with you. . . . . i used to love special occasions but now i kind of think twice about each occasion.
I am 27 too. I was studying until i was 26 got married immediately and started trying a couple of months later. Sometimes i think of my degree and post grad as the biggest mistakes of my life . . . i feel that if i had n t continued my studies my family would have been complete . ..well if....if..if we can never actually tell can we.
Try not to be upset about tomorrow . .. .i am sure that we ll pull through
Amy
I am 27 too. I was studying until i was 26 got married immediately and started trying a couple of months later. Sometimes i think of my degree and post grad as the biggest mistakes of my life . . . i feel that if i had n t continued my studies my family would have been complete . ..well if....if..if we can never actually tell can we.
Try not to be upset about tomorrow . .. .i am sure that we ll pull through
Amy
G8r4evr
04-07-2007, 11:28 AM
Hey I am with you. . . . . i used to love special occasions but now i kind of think twice about each occasion.
I am 27 too. I was studying until i was 26 got married immediately and started trying a couple of months later. Sometimes i think of my degree and post grad as the biggest mistakes of my life . . . i feel that if i had n t continued my studies my family would have been complete . ..well if....if..if we can never actually tell can we.
Try not to be upset about tomorrow . .. .i am sure that we ll pull through
Amy
I know exactly what you mean...I studied until I was 22 and then focused on my career until 25. Then I met my hubby and we got married at 26...saved up for about year and just recently started trying. I was thinking just the other day, had I allowed myself to get pregnant at 20 (like the rest of my friends), I may not be in this difficult situation now.
I am 27 too. I was studying until i was 26 got married immediately and started trying a couple of months later. Sometimes i think of my degree and post grad as the biggest mistakes of my life . . . i feel that if i had n t continued my studies my family would have been complete . ..well if....if..if we can never actually tell can we.
Try not to be upset about tomorrow . .. .i am sure that we ll pull through
Amy
I know exactly what you mean...I studied until I was 22 and then focused on my career until 25. Then I met my hubby and we got married at 26...saved up for about year and just recently started trying. I was thinking just the other day, had I allowed myself to get pregnant at 20 (like the rest of my friends), I may not be in this difficult situation now.
Amy 333
04-07-2007, 11:34 AM
I just hope that the age issue will never be the reason why i wont get pregnant. When i spoke to my dr re my concerns he just laughed and said i am still very young. .. .i just hope he s right.
How long have you been TTC? Do you have any IF issues?
I am sitting pretty for the 2nd cycle coz i was diagnosed with hypothyroid a3 weeks ago. . . now waiting for the meds to do their job.
It s just terrible knowing that you re o and cannot bd. . . .it s actually worse than the 2ww.
AMy
How long have you been TTC? Do you have any IF issues?
I am sitting pretty for the 2nd cycle coz i was diagnosed with hypothyroid a3 weeks ago. . . now waiting for the meds to do their job.
It s just terrible knowing that you re o and cannot bd. . . .it s actually worse than the 2ww.
AMy
lfrsdcv
04-07-2007, 02:32 PM
Hi guys
I'm 36 and still trying for baby no 1. I try to stay positive when I read about women in their 40's starting families but I agree when you say it seems to be everyone else around you and not you. I'm so sick of hearing about oops babies. I even know someone who has just found out about her oops baby and she has to be the unhealthiest person I know, I'm talking drinking, smoking, drugs!! That makes it all seem so unfair. I even know someone who was talking about getting rid of the baby she was carrying when she found out it was a boy because she'd already got one boy and wanted a girl this time. I could just sit and cry. Why can't I have what they don't want?
Claire xx
I'm 36 and still trying for baby no 1. I try to stay positive when I read about women in their 40's starting families but I agree when you say it seems to be everyone else around you and not you. I'm so sick of hearing about oops babies. I even know someone who has just found out about her oops baby and she has to be the unhealthiest person I know, I'm talking drinking, smoking, drugs!! That makes it all seem so unfair. I even know someone who was talking about getting rid of the baby she was carrying when she found out it was a boy because she'd already got one boy and wanted a girl this time. I could just sit and cry. Why can't I have what they don't want?
Claire xx
G8r4evr
04-07-2007, 03:37 PM
I just hope that the age issue will never be the reason why i wont get pregnant. When i spoke to my dr re my concerns he just laughed and said i am still very young. .. .i just hope he s right.
How long have you been TTC? Do you have any IF issues?
I am sitting pretty for the 2nd cycle coz i was diagnosed with hypothyroid a3 weeks ago. . . now waiting for the meds to do their job.
It s just terrible knowing that you re o and cannot bd. . . .it s actually worse than the 2ww.
AMy
We have only being trying for a month (our 2nd TTC cycle just started), but Im very worried because I have been having 55-60 day cycles for at least a year. I have this really bad feeling that Im not ovulating at all. I started metformin on Monday and I have an ultrasound scheduled for next week...I know I shouldnt be down after only trying for a month, but my crazy cycles cant be good for my chances =(
How long have you been TTC? Do you have any IF issues?
I am sitting pretty for the 2nd cycle coz i was diagnosed with hypothyroid a3 weeks ago. . . now waiting for the meds to do their job.
It s just terrible knowing that you re o and cannot bd. . . .it s actually worse than the 2ww.
AMy
We have only being trying for a month (our 2nd TTC cycle just started), but Im very worried because I have been having 55-60 day cycles for at least a year. I have this really bad feeling that Im not ovulating at all. I started metformin on Monday and I have an ultrasound scheduled for next week...I know I shouldnt be down after only trying for a month, but my crazy cycles cant be good for my chances =(
scoobylou22
04-08-2007, 05:12 AM
Wow didn't expect that much of a reaction from you all :eek: i thought it was just me with the resentful feelings! I can't help it everytime i see a 13yr old, troubled kid walking down the street with a pushchair i think its not fair! what kind of a life will that poor child have?
But then i think back to when i was a teenager and my mother lecturing me on using condoms "it only takes one time" she used to say! how come im not pregnant then mum????? :mad:
In all fairness i have only been trying 5-6 months although im only on my 3rd cycle! My periods are so irregular i don't know where i am with them! the docter isn't concerned. I am 100% sure that i have some kind of problem i think it maybe pcos! ive gained about 18pounds in the past year, i havn't changed my diet, my cycles have been long since Aug last year. All i want to know is if i have a problem so i can sort it out! if i had a diagnosis of some kind at least it is a step in the right direction, i don't care if i have a baby this year or in 10 years i just want to be sure that i will defonatly be able to have one!
Anyway thanks girls sooooo much for your kind support, we are all in this together! some of us may get pregnant soon for others its gonna take longer but i believe that if you wish for something with all your heart then your dreams will come true eventually :) :) :) :)
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But then i think back to when i was a teenager and my mother lecturing me on using condoms "it only takes one time" she used to say! how come im not pregnant then mum????? :mad:
In all fairness i have only been trying 5-6 months although im only on my 3rd cycle! My periods are so irregular i don't know where i am with them! the docter isn't concerned. I am 100% sure that i have some kind of problem i think it maybe pcos! ive gained about 18pounds in the past year, i havn't changed my diet, my cycles have been long since Aug last year. All i want to know is if i have a problem so i can sort it out! if i had a diagnosis of some kind at least it is a step in the right direction, i don't care if i have a baby this year or in 10 years i just want to be sure that i will defonatly be able to have one!
Anyway thanks girls sooooo much for your kind support, we are all in this together! some of us may get pregnant soon for others its gonna take longer but i believe that if you wish for something with all your heart then your dreams will come true eventually :) :) :) :)
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scoobylou22
04-08-2007, 05:28 AM
We have only being trying for a month (our 2nd TTC cycle just started), but Im very worried because I have been having 55-60 day cycles for at least a year. I have this really bad feeling that Im not ovulating at all. I started metformin on Monday and I have an ultrasound scheduled for next week...I know I shouldnt be down after only trying for a month, but my crazy cycles cant be good for my chances =(
Hi G8r4evr,
Let me know how you do with a Metformin! i think im going to suggest it to my docter. I have been having 50-70 day cycles, last time i went to the docs they said they couldn't give me anything, looks like they were trying to feed me a load of rubbish just to get rid of me!!! hope everything goes well
baby dust
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Hi G8r4evr,
Let me know how you do with a Metformin! i think im going to suggest it to my docter. I have been having 50-70 day cycles, last time i went to the docs they said they couldn't give me anything, looks like they were trying to feed me a load of rubbish just to get rid of me!!! hope everything goes well
baby dust
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hopefull2007
04-09-2007, 02:55 PM
I know exactly how you all feel. It does seem so unfair. When I got pregnant last year that unfortunately ended due to a m/c, I found out that my cousin's wife was pregnant, my best friend found out she was pregnant with an oops, my dh ex wife was pregnant, my best friends sil was pregnant, my cousin's wife's sister was pregnant, a guy my dh works with gf was pregnant and a friend of mine was pregnant. We had to wait for 9 months to start ttc again and it's happening all over again. We started ttc in February and I found out that dh ex is pregnant again, dh ex's husband's ex is pregnant, 2 guys my dh works with, their wifes are pregnant, an old friend of mine from CO wife is pregnant, and 2 guys that I work with, their wife's are pregnant. Have any of you ever heard that saying "Always the bridesmaid, never the bride", I feel like that with having a baby! Hopefully we'll all get our BFP this month. I am on my 3rd cycle this month.
Jenny
Jenny
hopefull2007
04-09-2007, 03:06 PM
Speaking of people who are lucky enough to get pregnant but don't want their kids, I read an article today that was very sad. Some lady gave birth to her baby at home, then put it in a bag and put it on her front porch. She then went to the hospital, and the doctor thought she might have just delivered a baby and called the police. They have determined that the baby was born alive but died to asphyxiation and hypothermia. I just don't understand how some people can be so cruel. People like that don't even deserve to get pregnant. That story just made me really sad. 2 of her sisters are also being charged. I hope they get the maximum prison term!
Jenny
Jenny
carterscutie85
04-10-2007, 11:46 AM
I know how u feel. The other day one of my co-workers brought her little grandbaby in who was only 2 days old and I got to hold him. Then she asked me when I was gonna have one. It seems as though everyone is wanting me to have kids and they don't realize it's not that easy for some people. Even my mom drops hints like me and her love going to garage sales and she always sees baby things and suggests I buy them for *my baby* even though I don't have one yet..Just hang in there kiddo, I know it's tough but that's what u gotta do...
carterscutie85
04-10-2007, 11:51 AM
Speaking of people who are lucky enough to get pregnant but don't want their kids, I read an article today that was very sad. Some lady gave birth to her baby at home, then put it in a bag and put it on her front porch. She then went to the hospital, and the doctor thought she might have just delivered a baby and called the police. They have determined that the baby was born alive but died to asphyxiation and hypothermia. I just don't understand how some people can be so cruel. People like that don't even deserve to get pregnant. That story just made me really sad. 2 of her sisters are also being charged. I hope they get the maximum prison term!
Jenny
I hate people like that. They deserve to be the infertile ones, not people who actually want kids. The other day some little kid lost his mom in my store (I'm a manager at a retail store) so I called over the intercom for his mom to come up and get him. Well I called a couple of times and the mom still didn't come get him, so I helped him locate his mom and she's was like *I wasn't about to come look for you. You know better than to walk away from me* all mean/pissy like. That made me so angry because I know I don't have kids, but if that was my kid missing I'd have been flipping out. I remember one time a few years ago I had my little neice with me and I took my eyes off her for 1 second and she dissapeared and I will never forget that feeling I had for those couple of seconds I couldn't find her. I don't understand people sometimes...
Jenny
I hate people like that. They deserve to be the infertile ones, not people who actually want kids. The other day some little kid lost his mom in my store (I'm a manager at a retail store) so I called over the intercom for his mom to come up and get him. Well I called a couple of times and the mom still didn't come get him, so I helped him locate his mom and she's was like *I wasn't about to come look for you. You know better than to walk away from me* all mean/pissy like. That made me so angry because I know I don't have kids, but if that was my kid missing I'd have been flipping out. I remember one time a few years ago I had my little neice with me and I took my eyes off her for 1 second and she dissapeared and I will never forget that feeling I had for those couple of seconds I couldn't find her. I don't understand people sometimes...
scoobylou22
04-10-2007, 02:54 PM
yeah and then you get the people who don't even care about their kids they just see them as a free house and benifits off the state (not that there is anything wrong with claiming benifits if you need too not everyones rich) its just some people only have kids for that one reason so they can spend all the free money (thats ment for the children) on drink and drugs, the kids end up in care and our hard erned tax money gets spent on them going to court when they get in trouble! at least thats the way it is in the UK! All the kids turn out to be little hooligans! I can safley say no matter how poor or rich i am i will not bring my children up to be brats! if i ever get to have them i will dedicate my life to make sure they get a good upbringing and a loving home:)
duzford
04-10-2007, 04:28 PM
My co-worker just said "anyone can have kids if they try".
WHAT????? I wanted to throw him out the 19th floor window!
WHAT????? I wanted to throw him out the 19th floor window!
Lyndsay85
04-13-2007, 04:36 AM
Hey there, my name is Lyndsay im new to ttc forum and have been trying to understand the lingo, im getting there but its taking time. just one question, what does "2ww" mean?
In regards to feeling a bit jealous at times i have to admit that the green eyed monster has made an appearance a few time at the news that my best friend is accidently pregnant, just as dh and i had been trying for a few months. 2 to be exact. i know that this is not along time to judge fertility on, but i thought i would be pregnant straight away. i am happy for her but i am so worried that i will be the one who will not be able to concieve easily. i already have my mother in law of 4months giving me the grandchild guilts. my husband is such a fantastic man and i so want to be able to give him a child. im 22 and i know that this puts me in a fairly good position for fertility but there is always that fear in the back of my mind that i will be the one who cant and the one who wants it most.
thanks for listening any comments would be welcomed.:blob_fire
In regards to feeling a bit jealous at times i have to admit that the green eyed monster has made an appearance a few time at the news that my best friend is accidently pregnant, just as dh and i had been trying for a few months. 2 to be exact. i know that this is not along time to judge fertility on, but i thought i would be pregnant straight away. i am happy for her but i am so worried that i will be the one who will not be able to concieve easily. i already have my mother in law of 4months giving me the grandchild guilts. my husband is such a fantastic man and i so want to be able to give him a child. im 22 and i know that this puts me in a fairly good position for fertility but there is always that fear in the back of my mind that i will be the one who cant and the one who wants it most.
thanks for listening any comments would be welcomed.:blob_fire
marinewife12
04-14-2007, 03:19 AM
Lyndsay:
2ww means 2 week wait. In other words, the two weeks between possible conception and when AF (Aunt Flo...aka your period) would show up.
So those on the 2ww are waiting until they can either take a hpt or until AF shows up.
By the way, your story sounds a lot like mine. I'm only 23, but DH and I (married one year) have been trying for about 4 months. Not a big deal, except that AF is extremely irregular, which makes some problems pretty obvious. The doctors say I'm still just recovering from being off of brith control pills (Seasonal to be exact...it SHOULD be renamed *****'s pill). But it worries me. So many people get pregnant just looking at each other at the most inopportune times to them. I always hear "We weren't expecting this, it just happened!" My least favorite thing.
Isn't it just a wonder, with everything it takes to make a child...the timing and everything working properly...that people still manage to have babies accidentally? And yet those who try can take years. It just amazes me.
2ww means 2 week wait. In other words, the two weeks between possible conception and when AF (Aunt Flo...aka your period) would show up.
So those on the 2ww are waiting until they can either take a hpt or until AF shows up.
By the way, your story sounds a lot like mine. I'm only 23, but DH and I (married one year) have been trying for about 4 months. Not a big deal, except that AF is extremely irregular, which makes some problems pretty obvious. The doctors say I'm still just recovering from being off of brith control pills (Seasonal to be exact...it SHOULD be renamed *****'s pill). But it worries me. So many people get pregnant just looking at each other at the most inopportune times to them. I always hear "We weren't expecting this, it just happened!" My least favorite thing.
Isn't it just a wonder, with everything it takes to make a child...the timing and everything working properly...that people still manage to have babies accidentally? And yet those who try can take years. It just amazes me.
bellalilly
04-14-2007, 08:40 AM
Hi Gals, In response to feeling envious with other women's preganancies.... I can relate. We've spoken about this alot on the infertility board.
I am 40. Been married 10 years. My DH is 42. We are passionate about animals and children. I have worked with children for over 16 years and up until my late 30's we didn't really try very hard to have children. We played ALOT. Anyway... now we want them and have been trying off and on for several years. As I have approached the big 40 it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am so ready. Now, of course, my AF are irregular and it has been hard. WE've begun IF with a little help. WE are just in the beginning and are hopeful.
I know how you all feel b/c I experienced with my own little sister that I adore. She recently married 38, DH 50!
Just married a year. She announced it at a surprise formal dinner and I could barely contain myself from a meltdown. We had been trying so hard the last year and at the time I was very sick with TMJ. It had taken everything I had out of me. I was too thin, on Valium for the pain and very discouraged as I had been hurting for several months. Anyway... my point is that it does hurt. It is normal. I felt terrible for the way I felt. I excused myself, went to the bathroom, rufused to cry(worked too hard on thta eye makeup)and gave myself a good talking to.
I mustered up the strength to "seem geniune in my congrat" and gave my sister a hug. I felt terrible inside. T It was hard and it still is. I'm trying to still deal with it. I don't want it to cause distance between us. WE live 500 miles apart anyway...
Well sorry to go on and on. It has just been so hard for me. I've never been very envious of anyone for anything and above all people I don't want it to be my own blood. I sympathize with you all and may we all remember that we are already blessed in so many ways and that things could be far worse. Our babies are so wanted and will be so loved. For, hopefully one day we will all be able to tell them how hare we worked to have them in our lives. (sorry, I talk alot!) lizzie:p
I am 40. Been married 10 years. My DH is 42. We are passionate about animals and children. I have worked with children for over 16 years and up until my late 30's we didn't really try very hard to have children. We played ALOT. Anyway... now we want them and have been trying off and on for several years. As I have approached the big 40 it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am so ready. Now, of course, my AF are irregular and it has been hard. WE've begun IF with a little help. WE are just in the beginning and are hopeful.
I know how you all feel b/c I experienced with my own little sister that I adore. She recently married 38, DH 50!
Just married a year. She announced it at a surprise formal dinner and I could barely contain myself from a meltdown. We had been trying so hard the last year and at the time I was very sick with TMJ. It had taken everything I had out of me. I was too thin, on Valium for the pain and very discouraged as I had been hurting for several months. Anyway... my point is that it does hurt. It is normal. I felt terrible for the way I felt. I excused myself, went to the bathroom, rufused to cry(worked too hard on thta eye makeup)and gave myself a good talking to.
I mustered up the strength to "seem geniune in my congrat" and gave my sister a hug. I felt terrible inside. T It was hard and it still is. I'm trying to still deal with it. I don't want it to cause distance between us. WE live 500 miles apart anyway...
Well sorry to go on and on. It has just been so hard for me. I've never been very envious of anyone for anything and above all people I don't want it to be my own blood. I sympathize with you all and may we all remember that we are already blessed in so many ways and that things could be far worse. Our babies are so wanted and will be so loved. For, hopefully one day we will all be able to tell them how hare we worked to have them in our lives. (sorry, I talk alot!) lizzie:p
Lyndsay85
04-15-2007, 11:24 PM
hey marinewife, :D yeah sounds like are stories are a lot alike. i have usually 33day cycle but have never been on any birth control besides the withdrwal method. this is another reason why i have been a bit worried about cocieving, my sisters have both fallen pregnant accidently using the withdrawal method and i haven't. i have now been trying for 4months aswell. i would like to keep in touch with you and see what happens for both of us.
what cycle are you on, ie length, when is af due next, etc.
thanks for the help. :wave:
what cycle are you on, ie length, when is af due next, etc.
thanks for the help. :wave:
marinewife12
04-16-2007, 02:26 AM
Lyndsay:
You're a doll! haha I'd love to see how you're doing as well!
I'm on AF right now. Actually, I've been on AF for 5 weeks. Yes...5 weeks. It's sick. AF last showed up in November. This is my problem. I was taking Seasonal, and when I stopped taking it, my body didn't just automatically go back to normal. I guess it still thinks that I shoud only let AF show up every 3 or 4 months. But I'm meeting with a new doctor on Tuesday.
The doctors say nothing is wrong yet. They won't work with me yet for a few reasons. One being I haven't been off of bcp for a year, so they say that it's normal that my cycle wouldn't be regular yet. Secondly, because we haven't been trying for a full year. Next, because we haven't been charting. (But I'd love to know how we could chart when I go three months or more between periods, and then the periods last 5 weeks!) Lastly, because I'm young, they are saying that I have plenty of time and they'd rather my body figure itself out.
Basically...they don't want to do anything for me. So I'm praying they're right and things work out on their own...cause it seems like that's my only option until I age 10 years.
And please...call me Kate! :)
Kate
You're a doll! haha I'd love to see how you're doing as well!
I'm on AF right now. Actually, I've been on AF for 5 weeks. Yes...5 weeks. It's sick. AF last showed up in November. This is my problem. I was taking Seasonal, and when I stopped taking it, my body didn't just automatically go back to normal. I guess it still thinks that I shoud only let AF show up every 3 or 4 months. But I'm meeting with a new doctor on Tuesday.
The doctors say nothing is wrong yet. They won't work with me yet for a few reasons. One being I haven't been off of bcp for a year, so they say that it's normal that my cycle wouldn't be regular yet. Secondly, because we haven't been trying for a full year. Next, because we haven't been charting. (But I'd love to know how we could chart when I go three months or more between periods, and then the periods last 5 weeks!) Lastly, because I'm young, they are saying that I have plenty of time and they'd rather my body figure itself out.
Basically...they don't want to do anything for me. So I'm praying they're right and things work out on their own...cause it seems like that's my only option until I age 10 years.
And please...call me Kate! :)
Kate
Lyndsay85
04-17-2007, 01:04 AM
wow Kate:eek: 5 weeks. has that happened before since you've been off the BC?
I have to admit that i do feel a bit resentful towards some doctors. Even though we may be young does not mean we want children any less. it seems a bit silly that if we are actively TTC that we are not able to explore our bodies more throughly by doing some of the more basic fertility tests.
I don't think that they take in to consideration the emotional stress that all women go through when they are TTC and keep getting BFN. it should be an individuals decision wether or not they are ready to explore these fertility tests, not theirs.
Sorry, had to vent a little as my aunty got married later in life and was told to wait 6months before seeking medical intervention for her fertility and at the end of this time she went into early menopause and is now unable to have children ever. This is partly the reason why i am quite eager to concieve fairly early in my life. If she had done what she wanted to do by seeing a doctor about her fertility she may have at least been able to have a child but now she will never know.
i hope you find a great doctor that will support you through TTC. hope to hear from you soon and Good Luck:angel:
I have to admit that i do feel a bit resentful towards some doctors. Even though we may be young does not mean we want children any less. it seems a bit silly that if we are actively TTC that we are not able to explore our bodies more throughly by doing some of the more basic fertility tests.
I don't think that they take in to consideration the emotional stress that all women go through when they are TTC and keep getting BFN. it should be an individuals decision wether or not they are ready to explore these fertility tests, not theirs.
Sorry, had to vent a little as my aunty got married later in life and was told to wait 6months before seeking medical intervention for her fertility and at the end of this time she went into early menopause and is now unable to have children ever. This is partly the reason why i am quite eager to concieve fairly early in my life. If she had done what she wanted to do by seeing a doctor about her fertility she may have at least been able to have a child but now she will never know.
i hope you find a great doctor that will support you through TTC. hope to hear from you soon and Good Luck:angel:
marinewife12
04-17-2007, 02:44 AM
Nope, I've never had this before ever. It's a little freakish. At first, when I was going on 2 weeks, I thought "this is just carrying over from not having a period since November." then three weeks went by, and I brushed it off again. 4 weeks, and I started to think it was ironic. I complained when I didn't have AF, and now...When it rains, it pours! And now after a little over 5 weeks, I'm too drained to even see the irony in the situation.
I have a dr. apt. tomorrow afternoon...I'll report back after that.
You know what kills me? Marcia Cross (from Desperate Housewives) got married last year. She said in an interview that they immediately started IVF as soon as they got married. Hmm...she says "IVF" and the gynos jump. How great. Apparently all I need to do is star in a successful show and have millions of dollars and the doctors will actually do what I ask!
Kate
I have a dr. apt. tomorrow afternoon...I'll report back after that.
You know what kills me? Marcia Cross (from Desperate Housewives) got married last year. She said in an interview that they immediately started IVF as soon as they got married. Hmm...she says "IVF" and the gynos jump. How great. Apparently all I need to do is star in a successful show and have millions of dollars and the doctors will actually do what I ask!
Kate
Lyndsay85
04-17-2007, 05:10 AM
yes i know what you mean. it seems stardom can get you a lot of things, IVF, adoptions and if you have enough money can pay people to impregnate you. Funny hey. any way good luck with everything, let me know how it goes. Hope your Doc is a good one and your AF gets back to normal soon.
Good luck:angel:
Good luck:angel:
ne74
04-18-2007, 05:12 PM
I'm new to this message board too...My DH and I are TTC since November, we got married in Oct 2006. I was on the BCP since I was 16, now I am 33. Had I known it would be this emotionally stressful, I wouldn't have started the BCP. I was put on Provera and AF came March 17th, YIPPEE I thought. But then I had a blood test to see if I ovulated, and no, negative and AF has not been back this month...So, it's back on Provera again to induce AF and then it's another blood test to see if I've ovulated again. It's discouraging right now because my DH does not understand and it's "Don't worry, you'll get PG." And I know the more I stress about it, the least chance it's going to happen but I can't help but think there's something wrong with me. Everyone around me is getting PG. My SIL is, my step SIL just had a baby, other people at work are PG too. I do resent them because I'm just so jealous. Sometimes to the point of just not wanting to talk or see them. It's not them, it's me. I just don't feel like myself, it's like there's a part of me missing if I can't get PG. If anyone can offer any advice on how to overcome this feeling, I would appreciate it. Sorry for the long post.