magenta1974
04-10-2007, 11:32 AM
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I'm 32 and have no children. I've been off the pill for 18 months and still not pregnant. My doctor will not refer me and says its normal to be waiting this long. I'm so frustrated . I work out my ovulation time and do all the things i'm supposed to do. I'm , i think healthy. Not obese and have normal regular periods. Has anyone any advice? I'm starting to get really worried.
I'm 32 and have no children. I've been off the pill for 18 months and still not pregnant. My doctor will not refer me and says its normal to be waiting this long. I'm so frustrated . I work out my ovulation time and do all the things i'm supposed to do. I'm , i think healthy. Not obese and have normal regular periods. Has anyone any advice? I'm starting to get really worried.
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lfrsdcv
04-10-2007, 12:21 PM
Hi Magenta
I'm 36 and have been trying for 18 mnths with no luck. Have been to GP and she is going to do some basis tests, eg, bloods for hormone levels and exams to make sure everything is where it should be and fells having count done but she did say that normally no one will really take much interest until you have been trying for at least two years!
The only thing I can say to you from my own experience is that it isn't easy and can be be damn frustrating at times but try not to let it eat away at you or before you know it has taken over your life and you can lose sight of everything else.
Doc recommended sex at least three times a week and relax about it as much as possible (easier said than done I know).
Be positive, our time will come.
Wishing you loads of luck, let me know how you are getting on
Claire xx :wave:
I'm 36 and have been trying for 18 mnths with no luck. Have been to GP and she is going to do some basis tests, eg, bloods for hormone levels and exams to make sure everything is where it should be and fells having count done but she did say that normally no one will really take much interest until you have been trying for at least two years!
The only thing I can say to you from my own experience is that it isn't easy and can be be damn frustrating at times but try not to let it eat away at you or before you know it has taken over your life and you can lose sight of everything else.
Doc recommended sex at least three times a week and relax about it as much as possible (easier said than done I know).
Be positive, our time will come.
Wishing you loads of luck, let me know how you are getting on
Claire xx :wave:
magster04
04-10-2007, 12:47 PM
Hi All,
When I went to see my doctor about why I wasn't getting pg. I took along my charts (I'd been tracking bbt and periods for almost a year) He could see I was serious, knew my body, wanted to know what could help. I was 27 at the time and had never been regular so by tracking I knew my body wasn't working right. The first thing he did was schedule a hsg for me which came out clear as well as checked my hormones. Everyone says just relax, it'll happen. I agree with Claire when she said it's frustrating at times! Keep us posted and good luck!!
When I went to see my doctor about why I wasn't getting pg. I took along my charts (I'd been tracking bbt and periods for almost a year) He could see I was serious, knew my body, wanted to know what could help. I was 27 at the time and had never been regular so by tracking I knew my body wasn't working right. The first thing he did was schedule a hsg for me which came out clear as well as checked my hormones. Everyone says just relax, it'll happen. I agree with Claire when she said it's frustrating at times! Keep us posted and good luck!!
hopefullone
04-10-2007, 01:47 PM
Hi ya'll!! I have always heard that if you are under age 35 not pregnant within a year then a doctor should refer you for further help. (Over age 35 then 6 months) I'd switch doctors and see if a new doctor will refer you. Also if you're charting, bring the charts along so like magster04 said, they can see you are serious. If you're not charting, I'd suggest starting.
Good luck! :wave:
Good luck! :wave:
magenta1974
04-11-2007, 09:27 PM
thanks to everyone who took the time to reply. I really appreciate it. It seems the only one worried about it is me in my life. My partner just says oh don't worry it will happen when you least expect it. Basically so does everyone else. I went back to my docs today and told him i really wanted to see someone. I feel as though i am wasting time trying if maybe there is a problem. I told him my periods were normal. Every 28 days spot on the date if not a day late. He said that if i have no look in another 6 months he will refer me. Told me to relax etc. He didn't give me any advice on charting or anything. Then gave me the story of how he met his wife and she had trouble. Then one day it just ' happened'. She was 37 and they had been trying for over 2 years.
I'm just so worried and he didn't seem empathic at all.
can I just ask a question and forgive me if its a naive one. How do I chart? I obviously keep track of my periods and I also go to websites to find my fertile days. You know the ones where you put in your last period, length of cycle and it predicts your ovulation time. I have tried having sex only in missionary and remaining lying down afterwards.
Has anyone got any tips on what i can do? I take agnus cactus every morning.
Also something worrying me a bit. I was on the pill ' dianette' for a number of years prior to TTC and I've heard bad reports. Of course doc says nothing to worry about.
I'm getting so down about it and I really don't know what to do. 6 months of waiting is a long time. My doc says I have to have been TTC for 2 years without success for referral:confused:
once again thank you to everyone for any input in advance even if you have a success story after a while of trying as i am would be greatly appreciated
I'm just so worried and he didn't seem empathic at all.
can I just ask a question and forgive me if its a naive one. How do I chart? I obviously keep track of my periods and I also go to websites to find my fertile days. You know the ones where you put in your last period, length of cycle and it predicts your ovulation time. I have tried having sex only in missionary and remaining lying down afterwards.
Has anyone got any tips on what i can do? I take agnus cactus every morning.
Also something worrying me a bit. I was on the pill ' dianette' for a number of years prior to TTC and I've heard bad reports. Of course doc says nothing to worry about.
I'm getting so down about it and I really don't know what to do. 6 months of waiting is a long time. My doc says I have to have been TTC for 2 years without success for referral:confused:
once again thank you to everyone for any input in advance even if you have a success story after a while of trying as i am would be greatly appreciated
LittleMissA
04-12-2007, 01:33 PM
Go to another doctor!! I have always heard that doctors will refer after 1 year if you are under 35. I went in for my annual exam, told my doctor we were just starting to try and showed him my charts. He made me a follow up appointment for six months down the road and told me he would be very proactive in helping me get pregnant if I was not pregnant by then. Find a new doctor. My friend spent two years with doctors who would not do anything and she finally went to another doctor, got a referral and a few months later she had in vitro and got pg. Life is too short! Good luck!!!:p
lfrsdcv
04-12-2007, 02:20 PM
Hi Magenta
I know just how frustrated you are feeling. As I said in my earlier post I was also told 2 Yrs trying before referal and I'm 36. Unfortunatley I think the docs in England work to a very diffrent system. Try a new doc and see if it is any different. Don't lose hope.
Claire xx
I know just how frustrated you are feeling. As I said in my earlier post I was also told 2 Yrs trying before referal and I'm 36. Unfortunatley I think the docs in England work to a very diffrent system. Try a new doc and see if it is any different. Don't lose hope.
Claire xx
magenta1974
04-13-2007, 08:25 PM
started my period today sorry don't know how to abbreviate that. I just feel so down and being hormonal isn't helping either. I will try and see another doctor but i just feel like they see me as some whiner. Moaning all the time. I'm so down its untrue and all around me seems to be babies:(
My boyfriend had an operation when he was younger on his testicles. Apparently they didn't drop and he had to have an operation. I told him he should go to the doctors too as this could be a problem. He refused saying his dad had the same thing and that he reproduced just fine. I'm getting no support of him, he feels its all down to fate and won't go to the doctors. I don't know I'm just mentally tired now.
thanks for all your help and advice.
My boyfriend had an operation when he was younger on his testicles. Apparently they didn't drop and he had to have an operation. I told him he should go to the doctors too as this could be a problem. He refused saying his dad had the same thing and that he reproduced just fine. I'm getting no support of him, he feels its all down to fate and won't go to the doctors. I don't know I'm just mentally tired now.
thanks for all your help and advice.
JinL
04-14-2007, 09:36 AM
Ask your doc about you & your husband doing HCG injections for a month.
It causes a male to increase testosterone & sperm production.
It helps women get ready for getting pregnant by making ovulation occur.
It causes a male to increase testosterone & sperm production.
It helps women get ready for getting pregnant by making ovulation occur.
lfrsdcv
04-15-2007, 06:21 AM
Hi Magenta
I'm so sorry you're not getting the support you would like to from either your doc or your boyfriend. I can only guess that with your boyfriend it is typical male pride stopping him from going to the doctors. Would he be willing to have a sperm count done? He dosen't have to do it in front of anyone, they give him a container and send him home, he just has to get it to the hosp in one hour after doing the do to get a good count, he can then ring for results if he dosen't want to face anyone. At least that way you'd have a starting point to see if he was producing ok.
Nobody enjoys the prodding or poking parts of what we are all trying to achieve but if you want the end result we don't have much choice.
Stay strong
Claire xx
I'm so sorry you're not getting the support you would like to from either your doc or your boyfriend. I can only guess that with your boyfriend it is typical male pride stopping him from going to the doctors. Would he be willing to have a sperm count done? He dosen't have to do it in front of anyone, they give him a container and send him home, he just has to get it to the hosp in one hour after doing the do to get a good count, he can then ring for results if he dosen't want to face anyone. At least that way you'd have a starting point to see if he was producing ok.
Nobody enjoys the prodding or poking parts of what we are all trying to achieve but if you want the end result we don't have much choice.
Stay strong
Claire xx
Amy 333
04-15-2007, 11:23 AM
Hi
I am sorry you are going through this. . . i know its not easy.
Here s what i think..
- find a new dr or at least get routine blood work done such as hormone profile , thyroid etc.You might have some minor problem that may be adjusted with drugs. I myself had been TTc for less than 5 months after a m/c in August . Routine bloods indicated i have athyoid prob. this prob might have been the reason of my m/c and a cause why i could not get prego again.
- try to convince your dh to get checked. Such problems may be a cause of low sperm count . try to show him that this problem is making you upset.
Re charting .. i would recommend BBT. So take your temp every day in the morning before getting out of bed at the same time after 4 hrs sleep. Record your temp. . . . 3 day consecutive increase in temp indicates ovulation. Do some research on the net you ll find more info and charts were to log your temp too.
Its also important to note your cm which starts from dry after your period to sticky, then watery than egg white cm being the most fertile.
You can also read the book taking charge of your fertility. . . it gives an excellent insight of a woman s fertility.
I really hope that you get prego asap but if it will take some time you will see this as time lost. There s no harm in getting some tests done and continuing to TTC at the same time. At least that s the way i see it.
Wishing you all the best
AMy
I am sorry you are going through this. . . i know its not easy.
Here s what i think..
- find a new dr or at least get routine blood work done such as hormone profile , thyroid etc.You might have some minor problem that may be adjusted with drugs. I myself had been TTc for less than 5 months after a m/c in August . Routine bloods indicated i have athyoid prob. this prob might have been the reason of my m/c and a cause why i could not get prego again.
- try to convince your dh to get checked. Such problems may be a cause of low sperm count . try to show him that this problem is making you upset.
Re charting .. i would recommend BBT. So take your temp every day in the morning before getting out of bed at the same time after 4 hrs sleep. Record your temp. . . . 3 day consecutive increase in temp indicates ovulation. Do some research on the net you ll find more info and charts were to log your temp too.
Its also important to note your cm which starts from dry after your period to sticky, then watery than egg white cm being the most fertile.
You can also read the book taking charge of your fertility. . . it gives an excellent insight of a woman s fertility.
I really hope that you get prego asap but if it will take some time you will see this as time lost. There s no harm in getting some tests done and continuing to TTC at the same time. At least that s the way i see it.
Wishing you all the best
AMy