I had unprotected sex over 6 years ago with a girl I didnt know real well. It was a real brief encounter. About 9 months later I met a girl and we got married. She had several partners but said she had been tested and was ok. She had also had a child and hadnt had sex with anyone from the birth of her Baby till me. After about 8 or 9 months we were seperating, but before that happend I went with her to the doctor to have a Hepatitis test done because her mother had been diagnosed with it and the doctors said it would be wise to have her childern tested as well. Well while were we there we also had them do and HIV test and many many other test as well. I went back with her a couple weeks later for the results and they were all negative! Shortly after we were divorced. I never got tested myself.

Now I have been with someone else for over 4 years (married 3 years). My wife has just recently (yesterday?) started worring about if I may have HIV. I told her about my ex being negative and that I HAVE NOT been with anyone after being divorced, till her, when we got married. I have never had an HIV test but I have had many other test and had a surgery back in 05. Would any of those test have shown anything abnormal in relation to having HIV? I would think they would run pretty thorough blood test before surgery, I know they took alot of blood, but then again I really dont know. I have a Doctors appt. to have an HIV test in a couple weeks but I guess Im just trying to put mine and her mind at ease a little until I can have this test.
What are the chances of having this or passing it on with my last partner being neg? I have never been a sleep around type of guy, and have only had 4 partners, 2 being married too, 1 long time girlfriend: all of which were monogamous relationships and the other mistake! Any help would be appreciated!

i think your overreacting,if your partner tested neg then you will be the same.
as for your tests,when you get tested for hiv they will make you sign a release so you would know that you were tested for it and if you don't know then your wern't tested. that being said the odds are in your favor of being negative. go get tested so you and your new wife can have a piece of mind
good luck

About 2 weeks before the surgery when I had the blood work done at the hospital I did have to sign 2 different forms before the lady drew the blood. One was a release form I know that much, but I have no idea what the other was, and I cant remember if she said anything about an HIV test or not. I was nervous thinking about the surgery so I cant remember what she said. Those were in addition to all the other papers I had to fill out at the front desk so maybe? In any case I will still go get tested.
Are the Home Access test kits for HIV-1 any good?

let me say if you tested positive for hiv,they would definatly let you know,they wouldn't let you go without telling you. its not routine to do it unless they have a reason to. i don't know much about the home test so i can't speak about it.
they have a rapid oral test or a blood test, both are very reliable ways to get tested. the odds are in you favor of being negative and you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by getting tested no matter what the results are.
good luck

I appreciate your advice! I've checked and there is no where local that has the rapid test. And as soon as I could get a Doctors appt. was the middle of May. So I think IM going to use one of the Home Access test kits so I can know a little sooner.