I have had 3 negative tests in the past 3 years. I have only been with one person in the past 3 years. Why can't I belelive my results?

I don't know why, but you should. You have nothing to worry about. Especially if you've taken it 3 times in the last three years.

i'm with amber you are fine,put in behind you.

Trust me, the test isn't going to lie to you. They are VERY accurate. It's just the thought that scares you. It is a scary thing, but in your circumstance you have nothing to worry about.

I don't know why I stress out about it????

Like I said, it's the thought of having it that scares you and that's understandable. Just sit back, relax and believe your test results.

I guess I should stop obsessing over it!!!! For some reason my mond won't let me belive the results

I promise they won't lie to you! Relax a bit! :)

I also didnt believe my test results...heck i still dont.. deep down inside i have this "what if" feeling over the past year I have had 5 test because of my paranoia, now i'm just focusing on something else....try to take ur mind off of it...slowly day by day you will not even notice..I hope this helps you cuz it helped me a bit.

Did you go for counseling to find out why you don't believe the results? I am thinking that I need some professional help because of my obessive thoughts. Why do we have these "what if" thoughts?????

Did you go for counseling to find out why you don't believe the results? I am thinking that I need some professional help because of my obessive thoughts. Why do we have these "what if" thoughts?????

it could be fear of the unknown or guilt of a wrongdoing and a way to punish yourself for something you didn't like that you did. it would be hard to pinpoint,unless you knew all the facts. you are neg and ok,the tests say that!
good luck with the doubt,you really shouldn't have any from what you have said.

Yeah I do feel quilty about a loser I was with 8 years ago,,,, now I have a great husband.... and I just obsess about my mistake a long time ago. I guess i need to let it go and believe my results.

Yeah I do feel quilty about a loser I was with 8 years ago,,,, now I have a great husband.... and I just obsess about my mistake a long time ago. I guess i need to let it go and believe my results.

Yes ma'am you do. :)

Yeah I do feel quilty about a loser I was with 8 years ago,,,, now I have a great husband.... and I just obsess about my mistake a long time ago. I guess i need to let it go and believe my results.


stop beating yourself up over the past and looking in the rearview mirror, trust me the tests do not lie.
look ahead with the person who is making you happy and think about what you have and the future,everyone makes mistakes in the past,don't let them rule your life. good luck!

i slept with my X for 3 years and then his eye was cross sided so i took him to the hospital and they did all kinds of test. everything normal. then i asked him if they took a HIV test and he said YES. well he has it!!! i was tested about 4 times and im still NEG but its always gonna be in the back of my mind and its scary!

but what im saying to you is that i was with him for a while without a condom ((STUPID))) and i never caught it and i thank god for that.

Well my ex was never tested when we were together. I haven't been with him in 7 years, I have been tested 3 times, and all negative. Everyone is telling me that I am fine, will be fine.... but my guilt is my problem. I do have an appointment to talk to a doctor about why I can't let go of the past.....

i wish you the best :wave:
keeping busy and getting involved in things i really like helps a real lot for me to keeping my mind from where it beats me up. the busier i get, the less time i have to dwell on the negative and i have plenty of things to drag me down good luck:cool:

Yes you are right.. I need to get on with my life, realizing that I am negative, and get inolved in things to take my mind off of things!!!

sorry about the late post but..I didnt go for counsiling...in fact I'm still worried. The "what if" thoughts well i get them probably because I love life and I have soooooooooo many things I want to do with it! You prob have the same outlook>? let me know how you doing ok..

Well I went to the Dr. and he says I have obsessive thoughts... that I need to deal with my guilt... he says that everyone makes mistakes... I am now on medication and need to go to counseling... I hope this will help me get on with my HIV negative life.....