Hi. I was diagnosed with hep b 3 months ago. Now I am terrified to tell my bf. I worry constantly that he has it. My dna and antigen test all came back clear but my dr diagnosed me with chronic hepatitis. I'm terrified that my bf has it and that he will hate me. I dont know how to tell him. So far he has no symptoms. Any suggestions on how to break the news? I am so scared and depressed.

Get as much info on it from the Dr that diagnosed you as you can. Just sit him down with the info and show him exactly how you can get it and what to do to treat it. You could also bring him to your Dr and you could info on it that way and he could get tested at the same time. Make sure you tell him soon because you don't need to keep stuff like that from someone. If he has it he needs to be treated as well.

I'm going to tell him. We haven't had sex since I found out. What are the chances of him having it if my dna and antigen tests came back with no trace of the virus (we only had sex about 10 times before I found out)? I'm going to call my dr on Monday and ask these same questions but right now my worry is thru the roof.

Thanks amber. I'm going to call my dr today and ask him about the test results and I'm going to sit my bf down tonight and tell him.It will be the hardest thing I've ever done in my life but is has to be done. Hopefully it will be ok.

Hi. I was diagnosed with hep b 3 months ago. Now I am terrified to tell my bf. I worry constantly that he has it. My dna and antigen test all came back clear but my dr diagnosed me with chronic hepatitis. I'm terrified that my bf has it and that he will hate me. I dont know how to tell him. So far he has no symptoms. Any suggestions on how to break the news? I am so scared and depressed.

I told my girl with complete honesty when I found out. Give her a week to decide if she want to be with me and she did.

I had sex with her but used condom so she was safe and had vaccine then.

Even if your boyfriend accidentally get it he has 90+% chance of developing antibody. For now it can take up to 25 to 30 years before symtom develop, by then whole of new treatment. His life is very bright with you.

Thanks noform. I called my dr today but he hasnt called back yet. My bf will come over later. My dna test came back "less than detectable" and my antigen came back with "no trace of hep b." I'm hoping that this means he hasn't been infected. What bugs me is that I'm not high risk: no drug usage, 4sex partners in 17 years, no risky behavior. Really shows you that you have to be careful. What really has thrown me is that only 6% of people develop chronic and i'm in that percentage. Wish me luck.

Thanks noform. I called my dr today but he hasnt called back yet. My bf will come over later. My dna test came back "less than detectable" and my antigen came back with "no trace of hep b." I'm hoping that this means he hasn't been infected. What bugs me is that I'm not high risk: no drug usage, 4sex partners in 17 years, no risky behavior. Really shows you that you have to be careful. What really has thrown me is that only 6% of people develop chronic and i'm in that percentage. Wish me luck.


You are the lucky 6, so am I.

If you have such low level, it is great sign. I never gave it to my girl f through saliva for years. It's harder for him to get it due to male anatomy.

good luck!

We are the lucky ones aren't we? My bf didn't come over last nite, but I called him and told him that we really need to talk. I feel somewhat better about his chances but I am prone to anxiety attacks so this has been tough. I'm glad to hear that your gf is ok. It gives me hope. I also heard about males not being so easily infected by females (another good thing). And even if my bf never wants to see me again, I'll be able to live with myself knowing that I told him the truth.

I had the same problem with telling my Boyfriend but I knew if I was ever going to see him again he would want to be intimate with me and I had to tell him. I took a chance and out with it. It took me 4 days to figure out how to tell him. So like I said I just out with. I simply told him that I had Hep B and there was nothing I could do. I told him i had acute and if he didnt want to see me anymore that I completely understand and I also told him that I didnt expect him to put his life on hold for me. Which I thought he would leave however I was wrong he actually told me why cant I put my life on hold for you. Just be upfront and honest.

feel somewhat better about his chances but I am prone to anxiety attacks so this has been tough. I'm glad to hear that your gf is ok. It gives me hope. I also heard about males not being so easily infected by females (another good thing). And even if my bf never wants to see me again, I'll be able to live with myself knowing that I told him the truth.

good for you!! ^_^ and learn all you can about it. if for some strange reason he doens't want to be with you, (but what if you got it from him) thats his choice, Let him know that his future girl friends still need to be vaccinated against hepatitis before sexual intercourse. No girl would have a problem with that. Even if he doesn’t have it, it’s better to be safe than sorry, it would be very irresponsible of him to just think because he has no symptoms that he doesn’t have it. Sometimes, people with hepatitis B do not feel sick at all. But they can still pass the disease on to other people. They are called carriers. And because it attacks the liver, it can take years before you actually suffer. And someone who never drinks and has a strong body, may never know that they are carriers. I know something about guys, they mostly carry and never show symptoms while girls tend to have compromised immune systems, and the virus affects them right away. How lucky guys are eh.

And same with you, any future boyfriends, all they need to get is the 3 shots, (6 months) and they are good for life. And most people have the shots today, with so many people traveling and keeping all their vaccinations up to date. So you may be lucky and able to have sex, without waiting 6 months.

i told my gf on our 1st date that i am a hep b carrier, till this day i still think she's the bravest woman that i have ever met, 3 years later i married her, but unlike the most of you, we did not engage any sexual activity other than hold hands and kisses due to my condition, this is because i was afraid to pass it on to her...now i have another concern which i post it in another thread.

honesty is the key of a healthy relationship

this is a great forum, just found it yesterday