Okay Girls, I'm having a hard day and need some advice. I'm on day 10 of stimming and not feeling so good. I woke up this morning naseous and then when i got up I was having a hard time breathing if I did anything. I wasn't afraid that I couldn't breathe but I just had to make an effort to breath like I was exercising or something. It was really scary as I've never had any side affects like this before.

When I went for my u/s & b/w this morning I talked to one of the nurses and they said I could be starting to hyperstimulate because my estrogen was still high yesterday but when they did the u/s, it said I wasn't hyperstimulating. They still told me not to go to work anymore and to stay home and try not to do to much. I am floored! I was expecting to have a hard time from ER to ET and then need some bedrest but to already be on rest 3-4 days before ER and to feel like this. I guess I just didn't expect to feel anything but bloated and emotional until ER. I tried to go grocery shopping this morning with DH even though they told me to go home and rest and I had a hard time walking around the store and keeping up with DH. I was out of breathe! I'm really nervous that I'm already feeling like this and still have 3-4 days to ER. It is only going to get worse right? Oh, yeah, and they told me to go straight to the emergency room if my breathing gets worse. How's that for scaring you? I'm only 30 and never had any health issues, I guess I just never thought my body would have a hard time with all this.

My last problem is that I started a new job in March and no one knows that I'm going through this. I'm self-employed/contracted so I figured I could get away with not showing up for a few days around my ER/ET but now my RE doesnt' want me to go to work at all which will mean I'm out 1.5-2 weeks? Any thoughts on what I can tell my manager without telling her about IF? Of course I'm stressed about this now too. Any thoughts?

Sorry for the super long message. Thanks for putting up with me and reading it. :) You are the best support system ever and I don't know what I'd do without you!

Lori

Oh Lori, I am so sorry you are feeling bad today. :( You are pumping a big amount of some crazy hormones in your body and it's understandable how you could be feeling so exhausted. As for work, is there anyone that you would be comfortable telling? Whenever possible, I think it's always easiest to let someone know exactly what is going on. For me, that was kind of a weight off my shoulders in and of itself. Luckily my boss was understanding when I had to take off for appointments and stuff. The treatments we are enduring are tough enough... I really hope your work understands because I don't want to see you get stressed from that too. Your poor body, not to mention your emotional state, needs all the help it can get. Hang in there, take it easy, and let us know how you do over the next could days. (((hugs))) to you.

Hey Lori!

I am sorry to hear how crazy things are for you. Let me tell you what happened to me once. It was the first time i ever did injectables and i was away for a weekend vacation and i woke up one morning and all of a sudden i had symptoms like you described. difficulty breathing and all. in addition my abdomen felt a little swollen. after a while i could breathe better but it kept happening throughout the course of a few days. looking back now i know i was hyperstimulating but at the time i didn't really understand it. it was scary. i immediately went home and straight to bed for rest which helped. but the time the holiday weekend was over and i saw RE there were no more symptoms so of course i seemed crazy. but that's what i think it was.

i am not sure what to do for work - are you looking to make something up? if so, and you don't want to say your health problem is IF related, the best excuse for being out that long is a back problem because usually that requires a long period of rest. i know because i get pinched nerves sometimes (once just from cleaning under my bed) and it is awful and sometimes i can barely get out of bed and stand up straight. i know it is hard to lie, but short of telling the truth you have to have some explanation.

Let me know how you are feeling and what you decide to do.

Lori, I'm so sorry you are feeling so crappy. I really hope the rest helps. Did the nurse say anything about drinking lots of water? I think I heard on here that water is supposed to help. Maybe you should double check with them though, don't take my word for it. I would hate to have it back fire and make you feel even worse.

As for work, I agree with Kari & think it's better to be honest if there is somebody you can trust. If not though, CBB had a good idea about the back excuse. The could definitely have you out for a week or two.

I really hope you start feeling better soon. I can imagine how scared you must've been when breathing became difficult. Did they adjust your dosage of meds? I'm wondering if maybe a slight decrease would relieve your symptoms? Take it easy & be sure to let us know how you are doing.

Holly

Lori - so sorry you are feeling like this. If it helps one of my friends at work hyperstimulated (they told her she was a mild case) and her symptoms were similar to yours and she had to totally slow it down and take it easy. She did get a BFP though!! I hope you are feeling better soon.

As far as work that is a tough call, but do you even have to tell them anything. Can't you just say you need some time for medical reasons and leave it at that.

Good luck. Jody

Lori so sorry u arent feeling well sweetie.Honestly I just think u should worry about u and getting that BFP and not about work now.If they fire u for being sick then the job isent worth it anyway.I am just like that I couldent care less about losing my job if it meant interfering with IF treatment.Right now the only thing in my life that matters is getting a BFP.Everything else I just dont worry about.I just say whatever happens happens.God always has plans for us.Right now just worry about getting better and dont worry about anything else I Know its hard not to worry but we just have to try and not worry about things we can fix.Cause if they arent understanding and the fire u, I feel its something fixable like u can always find another job.IF is something we cant help and we cant fix so we have to consentrate on that.I will be praying u feel better real soon and all goes well.In the mean time keep ur head up and just think about getting ur BFP.Take care sweetie.

Mapia

Thanks for so many quick responses. Just knowing there are people out there that understand puts a smile on my face. :)

Jody, Thanks for the inspiration. I was afraid if it did move onto hyperstimulation I was going to be out and never get a BFP but that definately lifts my spirits that your friend still got her BFP.

Holly, The did tell me to drink Gatorade and eat a protien bar ever day (one with 25-30g protien). So for all those just starting to stim soon like you I would totally recommend after being on stims a few days to drink Gatorade and eat high protien bars. I knew about the Gatorade after ER but didn't realize it would help me before and never heard of the protein thing before. I'm still waiting to get my call back about my b/w and find out if they will adjust meds. Maybe they will and that will help because the breathing thing is what is really scaring me.

Kari, Thanks so much for your advice. If this was my old job I would tell them in a hearbeat because I'd been there for 8 years. But this new job I've only been there a month and don't really know anyone that well yet. That is my delemia :rolleyes:

CBB- I'm certainly not glad you had these symptoms but I am glad to know you had them and they disapearred (know what I mean???). Maybe this will all calm down and I'll feel fine before ER. That would be great!

So I am going to go rest some now, I do definately feel better when I'm laying down than when I'm up trying to do something but how long can a girl lay around the house? ;) Well, I will do anything for that elusive BFP so I am doing it. I'm fine with work today so I guess I'll decide tomorrow when I see how I feel. I will probably go with the medical thing and just not get into details. I don't want to lie but I really don't want to get into the whole IF thing when I've only been there a month and most of that time I've been out of the office in training so no one knows me too well.

Thanks again for making me feel better girls. You are the best! :angel:

Lori

Mapia, We must have posted at the same time. Thanks for being so straightforward about it all. You always have the right perspective :) This is WAY more important than work. I guess I just always have a hard time when I made a commitment to someone and now feel like I won't be able to keep it. I feel bad about it but not bad enough to let the stress ruin my cycle! I am going to rest now like the RE said. Doctor's orders :D I'll check in with you all later.

Lori

Ok girlie u go to bed.I just like to be straight forward I feel its the only way to be and not lie to people.Thats my girl dont let this work stress u out I know what u mean about committing and not following through but hey what can u do.Well hope u get some good rest.

Mapia

Hi Lori,

I am so sorry to hear this...how terrible to feel so weak and out of breath. It sounds like the rest will do you good. Your health has to come before anything else so take good care of yourself. I never imagined these symptoms either so I am sure you were kind of thrown back about being put on bed rest before e/r I am just as shocked reading your post about it. It is amazing how much we have to work at this. I know it is all going to be worth it for you though!! You had some great follies I am sure the rest will help them be nice and healthy for e/r.

As for the job I agree with the rest of the girls. It is so much more work to make up something than it is to tell the truth. Especially in this case b/c this is an ongoing thing for you. I know you are a consciensious person and care about your job but your health and welfare always have to come first. I am sure they will understand.

Hang in there sweetie. I hope you feel better soon. Wish we can keep you company to help you past the time,get you some great gossipy magazines about the stars, bring you ice cream and catch up on some girley movie rentals, but we will cyberly :). DH has to spoil you now!!!

I really do have a good feeling everything is going to work out in the end for a nice healthy BFP!!! :)

kathy

Hi Lori~

I don't have any great words of wisdom, but I did want to chime in.

Truthfully, your health is what matters here, and work will just have to deal. I know as a teacher in my school district, if you just say "health reasons" they won't ask any questions.

I hope you are feeling better soon. Just take it easy and relax...concentrate on that BFP! :D

Laurie

Lori, I'd be honest with your employer if possible. Both times I went through IVF, I told them upfront about it and they were exceptionally understanding (both of them were men too).

I hope you are feeling better, get some rest! :angel:

Lori-I'm sorry you are so uncomfortable! Did your RE lower the dose of your meds? Is it possible that you are panicking yourself and making the breathing issues worse? I only ask because that is totally something that I would do. I would panic and suddenly start hyperventilating or something crazy like that. Just focus on the end result!!! Hopefully there will be a bouncing baby at the end of this crazy road!:dizzy: Keep us posted on your condition.

Oh, and remember to keep yourself hydrated.

Carisa

Thanks for all your wonderful messages ladies! :)

When the nurse called me back with my results yesterday I talked to her for a while and she made me feel better. I guess I am hyperstimulating but it is still mild and she said nothing to worry about yet and they just need to watch me. By resting, drinking lots of water & gatorade, and eating protien bars she said I should be able to keep it like this and not get worse. So that's what I'm doing from now until ER! My estrogen is high and I guess my right ovary is enlarged and it can push on your diaphram which is causing my shortness of breath. They didn't want to lower my meds because I only had one good size follie and I really need the others to catch up so I stayed on the same meds but I feel the same this morning not worse so that is good.

I'm off for bloodwork right now and then I'll find out if ER is Thursday or Friday, depending on my estrogen number. They want to hold me off until Friday so I can get the extra follie growing time but if my estrogen is too high I'll just have to go a day early so my hyperstimulation won't get too bad. I should still have at least 6 follies if I go early and maybe 10 if I go on Friday so either way it looks good that I'll make it to ET, but I'm hoping for some frosties too!

Thanks for all your prayers!

Lori

Good luck at b/w Lori. I hope it all goes well and Friday will be your big day. try to remember everything that is happening because in a few weeks i'll probably be asking you lots of questions :eek:

Hey Lori! Glad to hear you're not feeling any worse today. Although, I wish I could say glad to hear you're feeling better...Guess we gotta take what we can get, right? Good luck on Friday. I hope everything only gets better from here. :D

BTW - I took your advice and asked my BF to pick me up some Gatorade today. I told him I'm gonna need it for Thursday. Personally, I hate the stuff, but I will do whatever it takes. If it will help keep me healthy, it will be worth it.

Take care of yourself!

Holly

Hi Lori!!!

How are you my friend?? I am glad to hear you at least don't feel any worse than yesterday. I can't believe e/r is this Thurs or Friday already!!! :blob_fire
OMG!!!!!:D I am so psyched for ya!!!! I hope all goes well with your b/w today and that whatever happens 6 follies or 10 follies you get a nice healthy BFP!!! :angel: :angel:

kathy

Hi Lori well sounds like u are on ur way girl.I really pray everything goes smoothly from here on.Good luck with ur appt today.Keep us posted.

Mapia

My estrogen only went up a little so my ER is on Friday!!!!!:blob_fire

Then I'll have my 3 day transfer on Monday. I can't believe it is finally here.

CBB- I promise I will be here to answer all your questions. It's definately a bit scary but I am a HUGE baby so if I can do it, really anyone can. My worst problem today is that I feel fat so I can deal with that.

Holly - Here's my advice on the Gatorade. I hate the stuff too so I've been mixing one half Gatorade with one half water. It cuts the sicky sweet taste way down and is much easier to drink. The nurse said that was fine as I need to drink water too. The nurse said that high protien will also help so she recommended I eat 1 high protein bar a day (25-30g protien). Only the huge caloried filled protien bars have that much protien so I've just been trying to eat them for lunch so I don't go way over my usual calories while not exercising :rolleyes: Good luck. I can't wait to here about your progress!

Mapia/Kathy, Thanks as always for your amazing support. You are like little board mothers, always there to make us feel better. Good practice for when you get your BFPs soon :D

Lori

WOW Lori!! That is SO exciting!!!!! :blob_fire :blob_fire I'm so glad you are able to proceed. :D

Thanks for the advice on the protein bars. I will have to pick up some of those too.

Make sure you keep us posted. We will be waiting to here how it all plays out.

Holly

Awhh Thanks Lori that was sweet of you to say. I will be a den mother for the boys scouts if I have a boy and if a girl I will be a girl scout leader. I love that kind of stuff. Made it all the way to caddettes in girl scouts!! Yeah I know I should not admitt that!! But I don't mind being dorky!!LOL!!

Yay, Lori!! That's great!! I know you must be so excited! Just curious, are there advantages to a 3 day transfer over a 5 day? My clinic mainly does 5 day and I've always wondered why...

I have actually joined you on the bed rest. I had more spotting this morning, thought my heart would stop. They took me right in to do another u/s and said I have a sub-chorionic bleed, or essentially a broken blood vessel in my uterus. Luckily it's not near the baby, but they said I'm apparently doing too much and need to take it easy. They said with a few days of rest it should heal itself. I'm so bad at sitting still, but I'm trying :)

Vik, my clinic mostly does 3 day so I never really had that discussion with my RE. I wasnt' given the choice. I'm not sure if one is better than another.

Sorry to hear you are on bedrest. That must be so scary but it sounds like your little bean will be just fine. I'll be thinking of you. Bedrest does stink but it is all worth it in the end. At least we can still type on our computers from the couch :D Keep us posted on how you are doing. When is your next u/s? I can't wait to hear more good news from you!

Lori

Hi guys,

My Re does 5 day transfer too. I think it just depends on the office and their particular success rates stats for either 3 day or 5 day. At least that is what I understand as why my RE is doing it that way.

Lori how much longer do you have to be on bed rest?? Did they say. i don't recall if you posted it?? I am having a senior moment over here.....

Vik- OOH what a scare. I am sure you were so nervous. I am so glad it will not effect the baby. Bed rest for you missy!! I am sure it will be fine!!

kathy

Kathy, no worries. I have senior moments all the time. I think it's all the meds we're on :dizzy: At least that's what i tell myself ;)

I don't have to lay flat in bed all day like after the transfer but the nurse said to not go to work and just rest at home until ER. She said try to lay down as much as possible but it's not strict, only getting up to go to the toilet, bedrest. I got so antsy this morning and emptied the dishwasher but I was out of breath by the end of it! :jester: So I've mostly just been laying around the couch, working and talking to you guys on the computer, reading, or watching movies. It's 80 degrees and beautiful here today and all I want to do is go for a walk but that isn't happening.

Lori

OMG Lori that actually sounds great!! Maybe I want to be on bed rest too!! LOL!! No but I really hope you are feeling better!! It is nice here to 80 degrees and the sky is w/o one cloud.