purplegirl1
05-14-2007, 11:40 PM
I Was With My 4 Year Old Nephew This Weekend. He Put A Sticker On One Of My Breasts (i Was Wearing My Clothes) He Was Being Silly Saying I Put That On Your Boob. So I Put It On My Other One And He And I Were Laughing... Then I Said Put Them On Yours... And We Were Laughing And Having Fun And Then All Of A Sudden, I Got The Thought That, Doing That Was Molesting Him...i Know That I Didn't And He Is 4 And We Were Being Silly....and I Am Very Silly... But I Kept Thinking That It Was Wrong And Horrible And Disgusting....meanwhile He Was Hysterically Laughing And Acting Silly.... Any Thoughts??
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seriousperson
05-15-2007, 10:54 PM
Perhaps on some level your mind lept to possible outcomes of such silly behavior that would result in molestation. But from what you've written, it was all just sillyness.
Still, perhaps if he does something like that again you might use the opportunity to explain to him that boobs are off limits for touching. But then again, maybe you should ask his mom before going there with those ideas in case she thinks that would make him uptight.
Still, perhaps if he does something like that again you might use the opportunity to explain to him that boobs are off limits for touching. But then again, maybe you should ask his mom before going there with those ideas in case she thinks that would make him uptight.
purplegirl1
05-15-2007, 11:03 PM
Thanks For The Response. I Know. I Was Telling One Of My Friends Today About It, She Knows Me For Years And Knows All About My Ocd. She Said That It Was Probably Good For Him The Way I Reacted B/c I Didn't Make A Huge Deal And That May Have Helped To Not Make It Such A Big Deal As If , "don't Do That" Etc... That By Making It Silly, It Actually May Have Helped To Make It "just A Body Part".... But Of Course B/c Of My Ocd I Think It Was Molesting... My Friend Laughed And Said, No Way!!!! I Know It Isn't And Love My Nephew As If He Is My Own Child And I Would Never Ever Ever Want To Hurt Him In Any Way.. I Think That Is My Fear That Somehow I May Have Hurt Him... That Is My Fear That I Will Make Someone Feel Sad Or Bad Or Hurt Someone, Especially A Child... B/c I Love Children!!!
divalou
05-16-2007, 04:00 PM
hey there purplegirl;
i have similar fears/obsessions. for some reason when i was younger i started having panic attacks thinking i was a peadophile. i know im not and ive never done or thought about anything like that and never would but for som reason my brain made me worry that i was a peadophile!! i seemed to get over this until recently its came back, now i worry if theres kids around me incase they touch me, im really carefull if i pick my nephew up just incase, like in yourcase, he touches me somewhere by accident. i suppose ive developed a bot of a fear of kids! sounds stupid i knw but im worried i'll neve be able to change a nappy, babysit or even have kids! im hoping just ignoring the thoughts and "acting" liek everythings fine will make it go away.
but please belive me we're both in the same boat and neither of us would do anything our ocd tells us we will
lou
i have similar fears/obsessions. for some reason when i was younger i started having panic attacks thinking i was a peadophile. i know im not and ive never done or thought about anything like that and never would but for som reason my brain made me worry that i was a peadophile!! i seemed to get over this until recently its came back, now i worry if theres kids around me incase they touch me, im really carefull if i pick my nephew up just incase, like in yourcase, he touches me somewhere by accident. i suppose ive developed a bot of a fear of kids! sounds stupid i knw but im worried i'll neve be able to change a nappy, babysit or even have kids! im hoping just ignoring the thoughts and "acting" liek everythings fine will make it go away.
but please belive me we're both in the same boat and neither of us would do anything our ocd tells us we will
lou
purplegirl1
05-16-2007, 08:29 PM
Thanks for the advice, I know you are right.. it is sooo hard...
some83
08-15-2007, 12:19 AM
i dont really have that anymore but when i was a kid(im talking 9 or 10) i got that a lot. i was staying with my grandparents one day and my grandad was taking a nap on the bed and i just layed down to take a nap too and i think i had just watched a movie where people had just finished "having sex" and they were laying there with eachother,and just b/c i had thought about that movie i felt like i had to tell someone that i thought about something dirty with my grandfather. but i hadnt! the thought made me sick but i even told my grandmother b/c i felt so guilty like we had done something disgusting. ive never really heard anyone say they had ever felt that way before so i was really glad to read your post.i have no words of wisdom b/c as i got older it went away.(tho i got a million "issues" in place of it.) lol