I've heard that there are some people who have used, or know of people who have used self help instructions for anger issues; similar to Jekell and Hyde" type personalities.

If so, have you had success? What worked what didn't.

Understand what is making you angry and then take steps to deal with this - deal with the situation if it is recurring and be sure to express your anger in a healthy way.

I've heard that there are some people who have used, or know of people who have used self help instructions for anger issues; similar to Jekell and Hyde" type personalities.

If so, have you had success? What worked what didn't.

ive got 3 kids and i know i display what is known in "mental health fields" as EE or expressed emotion. sometimes i cant help myself. however..what works for me!! is talking to someone who will actually listen. :angel: good mental health :wave:

Hmm...do you mean like, techniques or just attitude-changing ways to help yourself and your problem?

I GUESS I may have had a bit of Jekyll & Hyde going on with my anger/tantrums...my partner says I even looked different during one of my "episodes", like my eyes would be all different and cold, and my voice would sound different...I didn't feel different (well, I felt TERRIBLE to be honest, being so overwhelmed with anger and negativity and knowing I was behaving in hurtful ways, but I still felt like I was ME even if I didn't look it), but it wasn't really me in all aspects either. I felt cold and numb inside.

I haven't felt like this or had a tantrum or anger episode in over a year (I think...don't quote me. It may be close to a year), which is excellent. I didn't even do anything specific to stop it or change anything, but I feel different inside...just more calm...

Some advice I've read on here is this...

Do you act badly to everyone or just certain people you're comfortable with and feel you can behave badly in front of/direct it at? Cause I was like this. I would only act this way to my poor partner. Nobody else. Would you scream and yell and be your Mr Hyde...(is he the bad one? LOL) in front of a teacher or your best friend's mother or a bus driver, and so on? If not, then you CAN control yourself. You're simply indulging yourself if you're letting your feelings come out like this.

You also have to figure out WHY you feel this way, what triggers you and so on. I found this difficult to work out. I'd tend to just feel tense and stressed and then something tiny would happen and I'd explode. And I mean, I still feel stressed and tense sometimes, but it just isn't the same TYPE of tension as before when I'd be pre-tantrum. I don't know why.

I think the main thing for me is that you ARE in control. I've noticed so many people on this anger section of the board say they're not in control but they ARE. Someone who yells abuse at her partner but then is sweet and nice and respectful to her neighbour is in control and is choosing to release her negativity at her partner. Someone who pushes his wife but would never lay a hand on his cousin is also indulging his anger and releasing it in a way he feels he's "allowed" to...

Meh. This has been a useless post. My brain's addled on alcohol. Sorry. LOL.