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hello!

not knowing the whole story, i did want to say that when some people are ill, it is really hard to keep up friendships.

i don't think she would want to lose you as a friend. just that, like she said, she can't handle the pressure.

maybe give her some time and call her in the next week or two.

good luck!

I'm not even sure she's pick up the phone anyway...........

just don't give up. wait until she feels better at the least to find out how she truly feels. bipolar can make a person say hateful things when they are not well.

most likely she will be appreciative after she comes out of this bad time and realizes that she didn't blow it with her best friend. she will need you at this time.

you could always send her a card telling her that you will always be there no matter what and that she can call anytime she wants.

even if you do not get a response right away, give her some space and then maybe call her in 2 weeks? 3 weeks? it takes time so be patient.
if she doesn't answer, go to her house. but, only after giving her some space.

you know it is her illness speaking and not her.

have patience,
kathryn

I have a best friend of twenty years who I have hurt repeatedly because of my Bipolar. I was diagnosed 10 months ago. The reason he is still my best friend is because he understands that when I am like that it is not me. I do apologize but he says " I accept you for who you are and understand that when you are like that you really don't mean it." He is my biggest supporter through all this. And don't know how I would have made it through a lot of things without him.

Best friends are hard enough to come by and harder to keep when you are Bipolar. It's times when a person is down when they realize who the true friends are and you sound like a true friend or else you wouldn't be asking for help with this. Be patient, give her some time and let her know you are there for her when she needs you. It could make all the difference in the world.

Hang in there

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don't look at it as being needy or desperate for a friendship, look at it as being supportive of her illness and wanting to help her when she needs it. When she is like this you have to remember not to take it personally because it's a result of the illness. which I know is easier said then done. when she comes out of her bad time ask her if she wants your friendship or not, but don't ask while she is down. If you were friends before her diagnosis and you can accept her illness and all that comes with it, then please don't turn your back on her.
Like Kathryn said just send her a note and let her know you're there for her. When she's ready she'll contact you.

I hope this helps.

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do you realize how hard enough it is just to brush our teeth sometimes?

let alone, keeping up with phones calls, text messaging, going out.

if she is at the beginning, she may be having a hard time. things will even out.

do you really want to drop your BEST friend because she is ill? even when she says leave me alone that is because of the difficulties. maybe she means it, but i don't think so.

yes, she is telling you what she wants and you should listen. but realize, it is probably hard for her to make any decisions.

you need to be the bigger person here. let her know you will be there for her and then leave her alone for awhile. but don't give up!

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I have said some really terrible things to my best friend, but I apologized, and it meant a lot. She said that she understood that I was on the edge.

I don't know much about your specific problems, but keep in mind what's good for you. If this friendship is all pain, then it's probably not for the best. You matter here, too.

Good luck.

I think I would just email her (since "online" seems to be less pressure for her) and say I will always be your friend but I see you need some space contact me if you ever feel like it. Luvya, Your friend always and be done with it. Then you can have peace in your heart and the ball is in her court.


Now go have some fun and enjoy YOUR life :)

Tiger,

I am sure I missed something in the mix but it sounds like the hurt you have been dealt hasn't really been healed. Best friends aren't a dime a dozen for some of us and those that manage to stick true through the worst of times are of a value no earthly gem could pay for. I doubt it is just you per say that this going on with in so far as contact. It may feel like but I doubt it very much.

For me with the ultra rapid cycling (yeah more fun for me & yeah being sarcastic pretty much) there are moments I can be talkative and others that I am lucky if I can put half a sentence together. It doesn't mean I mad at anyone or anything just an emotional thingy. I try to make sure that the friends that are dear to me get at least a hello once in a while. Mostly so they don't think I've fallen off the earth or anything. But I am not the friend you speak of either.

If the friendship is one that was not all sorrow or pain then why let it go? I would do as luckygem13 suggested which was a good idea plus maybe adding that she can im, call, smoke signal, or whatever when she is ready. It gives her the choice to do something or not. Hopefully she will tell you what is going on and the why of it. She might be afraid to talk to you perhaps knowing she hurt you and is afraid of dealing with it. There are as many possible reasons as there are stars or thoughts. Just don't grab onto the first hurtful one you see. It may not be even close to the truth.

Go out explore life, have dinner, grab a movie, or whatever you all do for fun. But laugh and don't obsess over it either. I hope somehow you find within the peace or answers you need.

Eme

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I have a friend with bipolar disorder and when he was first diagnosed, some of his friends had a hard time 'being his friend'. I made sure that I was always there for him if he wanted to talk and I have kept in contact with him (he lives in another town but we are still close). He had problems with his medication at first but he is ok now. I recently saw him while on holidays and he is just the way I remember him, before he got sick. I think you should try to make contact with your friend because it seems as if you were good friends before. She needs all the support she can get and just remember that she may not have meant what she said/did to you to make you upset. She has a disease and she may not be in control of her medication yet.

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