I have a Friend who's Adult Daughter had a Lump come up on side of her Face.She didn't have any other Symptom and wasn't sick.She didn't bother having it checked out for several Month's thinking it was an Infection and would somehow go away on it's own.When it didn't and she finally sought treatment they removed it.After removing it was an "it's not Cancer it is Cancer" matter.She started taking Rotuxin (sp) that made her ill,so refused to continue taking.She eventually moved back in the Area her Mother lives in order to take Treatment but didn't go to 1 single Treatment until recently (been back 3 Month's).I don't think the Girl has Cancer.If I'm wrong I apologize.I know her very well.She is a "drama Queen" that exaggerates and blows stuff way out there.She craves attention.If she had Cancer as bad as she claims she wouldn't be playing a suicide game,would go to the Doctor and take Treatments.Now she has told her Mother she will always have to take treatments even when the Cancer is in remission.I think the Doctor wanted her to take Treatment in case it WAS Cancer so they could catch it in time.

:wave: Hi there,

it sounds a lot to me like the boy crying wolf, after he had made up the story a couple of times, the villagers stopped believing him, one day he cried wolf for real, and no one came!!

It is difficult knowing when someone who appears to be always ill, is really genuinely ill or not.

it is probably worrying for her to, as you stated she thought it was an infection, and it wasn't.

May be you feel she is trying to bribe her mom in some way by making her feel worse by saying she will have to continue having treatment even after chemo :confused:

Just be there to support your friend, and the truth will come out. Lets hope that by delaying treatment it hasn't made things worse in the long run.

I wish you all the best.

Fairy-lights

fairy-lights,
Hi!I most definitely think something "fishy" is going on with my Friend's Daughter.She wasn't ill before the Lump came up and even after until she started taking Treatment for Cancer or no Cancer.If this Gal is BS'ing her Mother about having Cancer or never having remission will make me ill because there are millions of People in this World suffering from this cruel and painful Disease,and it would be disrespectful and extremely low of her.

Hey Lotus,

If she is B-sn' about cancer she is very sick inside and needs some real counseling. I would really be alarmed if anyone used that as an excuse for attention! Good Luck!

Deb

Hey Deb,
This Girl has many deep seated problems that have never been attended.I know her very well..well enough to know she will "stoop" to low levels in order to receive attention or obtain anything else she wants.If she will create problems for her Mother's Marriage to her Step-Father in order to have all of her Mother's attention she would do something like this.

Deb,
The Daughter has now told her Mother the Cancer is non-curable,and her Cancer Doctor wants to start her on Treatment Daily to prolong her life.This Girl didn't take Treatments for over THREE Month's!

What type of cancer is it suppose to be? I have not heard of being treated every day......What do you think?

Deb

Malt Lymphoma.I haven't heard of it being treated everyday either.

Ask to go and see her oncologist with her, or perhaps follow her like in the movies?? see where she goes if she is really ill, does she look ill, or having obverse effects?

Sounds horrible, i knew someone who lied about her mum having cancer just to get attention, my mum really had it, and died I really miss her xx

We've had people "cry wolf" here in the States, too, and have "fund raisers" to collect money for cancer victims. Usually, they find out it's a scam, and blow it out of the water.....
People will stoop really low sometimes, just for attention.
How sad. If it is true, though....
That's a tough one. But, I, too, have never heard of daily treatment. A body needs "down time" during treatment. That's what I'm going through at the moment. Down time to regroup & get ready for the next round.

Fairy-lights,
It is very doubtful her Mother would follow her.If she doesn't have Cancer her Mother will find out and she will have hell to pay!She is a "plain Jane" so don't wear Cosmetics,jewelry or dress up.She has shaved her Head before.From her appearance she looks perfectly healthy to me.She hasn't lost any weight and there isn't anything that looks different than before her *pre-Cancer* Day's.I'm sorry for your loss.I've lost my Mother's but not to Cancer,so I can't imagine the suffering your Mum went through.

Singer,
This Girl doesn't want to work or do anything with her life.She would rather run with her Friends (who stay in trouble most of the time) and live the life of a "drama Queen" than have ambition and drive for a Future when she is a very bright and intelligent Person who could do anything she wants.She defied her Parents (when her Mother was Married to her first Husband),then Mother and Step-Father.She will stoop to low levels to get attention and be center of attention.It really irritates me that she does this.Going from no Treatments for 3 Months now to having daily treatments doesn't make any sense.If she had TX's everyday it would probably kill her.My Friend told me they would put her in the Hospital.What is she going to stay Hospitalized for the rest of her life???

I definitely "smell a rat!" (concerning the girl saying she has cancer).
Are you concerned for the girl's mother....or "the girl?"

I'm concerned for the Mother.I'm tired of this ungreaful brat lying,using,conning,and taking advantage of her.

That's hard to stand by and watch things like that happen.
Somewhere along the line, the girl will get "caught," if she is lying.
I know it's hard, cause you feel helpless & want to help.
Trust me, the truth always prevails.
Until then, be a good friend to the mom. She probably needs you.

Many times I have watched her being ungreatful and doing other stuff to my Friend.Her Mother is a very sick (valid and true) Woman,so she doesn't need this BS.When her *Cancer* was diagnosed she didn't want to tell her Biological Parents so they would suffer and cry at her death because they gave her up.The Daughter got mad at her Mother (my Friend) just Yesterday because she felt my Friend wasn't giving her the attention she needed from "drama" going on in her realm.

I want to add in my reply.This Girl was NOT sick until she started taking Treatment,so that is what is making her ill.I honestly believe the Doctor who removed the lump wanted her to take treatment *in case* it WAS Cancer as it was a yes it's Cancer/no it's not Cancer. matter.

Good advice Singer :wave:

Maybe she had a wrong diagnosis and it is making her ill?

As you appear to have been going through it all yourself, can't you ask her some questions to see if she gives you a straight answer:confused:

It sounds as though she just feels she needs people to feel sorry for her, and that on it's own is an illness!!