Nickysgirl
06-12-2007, 09:59 AM
well... i have HPv. and my boyfriend knows it and doesnt care, he contracted the virus from me. and now i feel like i ruined his life. hes such a wonderful person and a great uncle, i just feel like i had a negative impact on his life.
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sanibelsharon
06-12-2007, 11:02 AM
HPV is soooooooooooo common. I am sure most of us women have it. I have it and had to have 2 surgeries already. First was a laser surgery and then about 10 years later, I had to have part of my cervix removed. My husband has it too. I know it must seem like the end of the world but most important, just go for your yearly paps and you should be fine.
Keep your chin up, you didn't ruin him. Just part of life...the not so good part of life, but life.
Keep your chin up, you didn't ruin him. Just part of life...the not so good part of life, but life.
FromSqueaky
06-12-2007, 02:59 PM
How do you know your boyfriend has it? Does he have warts? Men are carriers. They pass it on with little to no outbreaks ever. A very low % less than 10 might get anal or penal cancer much later in life. Men pass it to us. There is no test as of yet to test a man for HPV unless he has an outbreak in either the throat or genitals. Your boyfriend could of had it and past it to you even with no out breaks. YOu could have gotten it from anyone in your life time. How you got it you will never know.
HPV can stay dormant for years and never have any negative paps or outbreaks.
My older friend in her mid 70's was a virgin till the day she married her husband. They were both around 20. He passed away in her early 70's. Her husband was the only guy she ever had sex with. She went for her pap and found out she had HPV. How do you think she feels thinking that her husband was not faithful to her. The doctor said the stress of living with out him lowered her immune system and was most probably the cause of activating the HPV cells. So take care of your health, eat well, try not to stress and just live life the best you can.
There is a study that was done though not confirmed that you can catch HPV from touching. Example: and HPV postive person uses the restroom but does not wash their hands. Shakes hands with you. Now you need to use the rest room. You can pass the HPV germs from the hand shake to your genitals while wipping. You may be able to pass the HPV to your children while cleaning or inspecting them. The group that was studied all had their finger nails tested for HPV. The tests came back postive.
Until they come up with a cure HPV is becoming as common as a cold. You just never get rid of the germ cells. They can go dormant but you keep them in your body.
HPV can stay dormant for years and never have any negative paps or outbreaks.
My older friend in her mid 70's was a virgin till the day she married her husband. They were both around 20. He passed away in her early 70's. Her husband was the only guy she ever had sex with. She went for her pap and found out she had HPV. How do you think she feels thinking that her husband was not faithful to her. The doctor said the stress of living with out him lowered her immune system and was most probably the cause of activating the HPV cells. So take care of your health, eat well, try not to stress and just live life the best you can.
There is a study that was done though not confirmed that you can catch HPV from touching. Example: and HPV postive person uses the restroom but does not wash their hands. Shakes hands with you. Now you need to use the rest room. You can pass the HPV germs from the hand shake to your genitals while wipping. You may be able to pass the HPV to your children while cleaning or inspecting them. The group that was studied all had their finger nails tested for HPV. The tests came back postive.
Until they come up with a cure HPV is becoming as common as a cold. You just never get rid of the germ cells. They can go dormant but you keep them in your body.
Nickysgirl
06-12-2007, 04:31 PM
well... i have had Hpv for a long time and swore to myself that id never have sex again(stupid hua?) well then nick walked into my life and and loved me and he doesnt jugde me,weve had sex many times without protection(also stupid) but ive never had an outbreak. so i know hes got it. we both know hes got it. but now i cant help but blame myself. i should of kept to 'the plan'. i gave it to other people befor i knew i had hpv so i was devistated.then i gave a disease to the ''perfect man''. i feel like such an idiot.
FromSqueaky
06-12-2007, 05:31 PM
He very well could of had it before you had sex with him. Unless he had an outbreak of warts the first night you slept together you will never know for sure that he never had it. Over 50% of men have HPV
Nickysgirl
06-12-2007, 05:40 PM
he was a virgen and i know because hes never had girlfreinds.hes never really been interested in anything but his band his school work and his art. he has 9 siblings and all the youger ones thought i was dating his older brother kenny,because hed never had a girlfreind. and he was soo scared to have sex with me,it wasnt the hpv,it was just sharing the moment with me.his hands were shaking, and his muscles were twiching, i thought it was funny although i didnt tell him that.he has SLOWLY become more confident.
Caro1282
06-12-2007, 06:34 PM
Well after having sex for the first time with my first and only boyfriend I got herpes. He had no idea he had it and I didn't care and just lived with it. Now its been 5 years and our relationship just ended. I have no clue as to how I am going to move on and have new relationships with others knowing that I have this. I guess at the time i didn't care because I guessed we would be together forever and it didnt really matter. It didnt really affect my life that much until now that i am single and may want to start new relationships with others. I have no clue as to how to deal with this situation. I may have already given it to someone and I feel terrible. I dont know how to make this work or if I can really be with anyone else again.
Nickysgirl
06-13-2007, 09:43 AM
ummm....wow. i uh,..dont know what to say about that. exept that i guess you could of had worse. i mean,... we ALL could of had it worse and are blessed to have the problems that we have and that we have each other to talk to. we COULD all be dieing of cancer or be infected with aids, we are so lucky to have the problems that we have, and not a genetic curse or something. i guess i kinda feel better now knowing that i dont have a life threatening disease. thanks. but then i have to drag him to the docter tomarrow and hes throwing a fit. he dosent mind having Hpv,hes just horified of having other people looking at his quote unquote ''junk'' and telling him that theres something wrong with it, when he already knew that to begin with. id feel uncomfortable too.exept i go to the doctor all the time. i do feel bad for him.
FromSqueaky
06-13-2007, 04:41 PM
Why are you brining him to the doctor? He can not be tested for HPV. There is no test avaible to see if men have HPV unless they have outbreak of warts or an infection in the throat. Not a sore throat but an infection in the throat.
Just cause you sleep with someone one time does not quarantee that they will catch the virus. If you don't want to spread it then use a condom when you have sex.
Just cause you sleep with someone one time does not quarantee that they will catch the virus. If you don't want to spread it then use a condom when you have sex.
Nickysgirl
06-13-2007, 05:49 PM
like ive said, weve had sex more than once(stupid) and without protection. he wants to talk to an actual docter face to face about what happened and what he should do if warts do appear. also, he wants to see what i go through every time i go and how its not the end of the world,and that im fine. hes just worried and wants the whole experiance.
Nickysgirl
06-15-2007, 10:08 AM
well,..we went and turns out that i had tiny warts that were to small for me to see. but my docter saw them after i told her about our fears. and nicky does have them too, and i do blame myself but he just says that its no big deal because its not like hes going to go out there and have sex with everybody. he said he loves me and that it doesnt matter to him.tthe warts will go away with treatment and then we'll just share the virus between each other. wow,...i wish i had had somebody when i found out i had hpv.i was alone at the docters office and hadnt been dating in a couple months. nick has comfort in knowing that we have each other to lean on.the docter said that there is a way for testing a male for hpv,they take a sample from inside the urithra because there could be warts inside the penis that cant be seen. but nick didnt need one so it save us the wait.