Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 11:29 AM
Was just wondering when anyone has a bout with mental issues does it ever follow up with physical ones.... I get this all the time, my chest hurts and I feel like I was hit by a train...
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stick2013
06-17-2007, 11:48 AM
Hi Dee,
Sounds like anxiety to me....
Sid
Sounds like anxiety to me....
Sid
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 11:50 AM
Sid, I didn't think I would talk to you again...
stick2013
06-17-2007, 11:51 AM
Please don't talk about that issue.....edit would be a great idea. read the rules.
Sorry Mods, just trying to explain the rules.....
Sorry Mods, just trying to explain the rules.....
stick2013
06-17-2007, 11:55 AM
Dee,
It really does sound like anxiety to me. A few months ago I had the same thing(still do) and I even had to have an emergency EKG. Came back abnormal, and then had to have a stress test. I passed it with flying colors..
So if it gets REALLY bad, go to the ER. But I think you should be ok.....
Sid
It really does sound like anxiety to me. A few months ago I had the same thing(still do) and I even had to have an emergency EKG. Came back abnormal, and then had to have a stress test. I passed it with flying colors..
So if it gets REALLY bad, go to the ER. But I think you should be ok.....
Sid
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 12:05 PM
I think you are right because I suffer from heart palpations that scare the hell out of me. I had this since I was a teenager and it's just something I can not get used to..
E.R is the place to go, maybe I will met someone KIDDING!!!
E.R is the place to go, maybe I will met someone KIDDING!!!
stick2013
06-17-2007, 12:12 PM
Dee,
I really do hope that someday you meet someone wonderful. BUT!!!! Have you ever noticed that I always have that DARN BUT in there??????? LOL!!!
For right now, concentrate on you, and getting healthy........Setting boundaries, loving yourself, figuring out triggers, getting your head to know when something is healthy or not....
Have you set up an appointment for you and your mother with your therapist to talk about YOUR MOTHERS issues of blaming you for everything yet?????
How's your dad doing???
Sid
I really do hope that someday you meet someone wonderful. BUT!!!! Have you ever noticed that I always have that DARN BUT in there??????? LOL!!!
For right now, concentrate on you, and getting healthy........Setting boundaries, loving yourself, figuring out triggers, getting your head to know when something is healthy or not....
Have you set up an appointment for you and your mother with your therapist to talk about YOUR MOTHERS issues of blaming you for everything yet?????
How's your dad doing???
Sid
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 12:17 PM
I never brought this up because I'm ashamed but I use sex as an attention getter hoping that the person would stay with me and appreciate it.. I thought if I could make them feel good they would do the same in return... It's ruined my life even more, I've had tramatic reprocussion from this.
I have/had the same mind set now that I did when I was molested.
I have/had the same mind set now that I did when I was molested.
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 12:20 PM
I didn't see your post, we are actually going this Wednesday (my mom and myself). My dad is doing the same, he is getting sores in his mouth which is pissing him off but I he is holding up well. He did see an infant getting treatments the other day and fell apart again. This is truly the hardest thing we've ever been through and to know it's only going to get worse before better is sooo upsetting..
stick2013
06-17-2007, 12:20 PM
Dee,
It's ok honey... For a long, long time, I thought that sex WAS love. How wrong I was. It literally SCREWED up my life. No pun intended. I slept around so much, and drank and did stupid things for so long. i am ashamed of my past, but I can't change it. I can only move forward and hope that I make better choices in my life now....
You will too.....
It's ok honey... For a long, long time, I thought that sex WAS love. How wrong I was. It literally SCREWED up my life. No pun intended. I slept around so much, and drank and did stupid things for so long. i am ashamed of my past, but I can't change it. I can only move forward and hope that I make better choices in my life now....
You will too.....
stick2013
06-17-2007, 12:21 PM
please tell your dad for ME... Happy Fathers day......Tell him that he has a wonderful daughter too......
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 12:26 PM
Will do = )
Thank you for listening, that was hard to get out!
Thank you for listening, that was hard to get out!
stick2013
06-17-2007, 12:31 PM
I Know.... Some of the things I have done are hard to talk about too. I know that your dealing with your dad's illness is hard also. Plus your mom, your own issue, ex's......man you really do have your plate full.
Have you figured out anything for your dog yet???
Have you figured out anything for your dog yet???
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 12:49 PM
Nothing has been mentioned since, I don't think Damian will take this well so they are being reserved about this.. Plus I cried like a baby myself = ) I'm going to give her baths even if I have to do it 5 days a week, I was even thinking about shaving her.
Whatever happens it's a situation that cannot be argured so I am prepared. I did tell my mother at the time it was mentioned that we are doing this the right way...
My mother has a bad habit of threatening me with something she knows I care about, this is her weapon and a way she can control me.
Whatever happens it's a situation that cannot be argured so I am prepared. I did tell my mother at the time it was mentioned that we are doing this the right way...
My mother has a bad habit of threatening me with something she knows I care about, this is her weapon and a way she can control me.
stick2013
06-17-2007, 12:56 PM
Sounds like my mother reincarnated into YOUR mother.. My mother was the same way. I remember one time I was so bad off mentally. I was anorexic, down to about 109lbs, suicidal, panic attacks BAD, anxiety attacks, awful. Couldn't sleep, think, or do much of anything. I even went catatonic at one point and the police were called into to sit with me. The officer HAD to leave after several hours, he called my mother, and told her she WAS NOT to leave me alone until the hospital had a bed for me. I think she stayed till he pulled out of the driveway.
My mother used anything and everything she could to control my every move. She even used my daughter against me so many times. i think this added to my daughters problems.
My mother used anything and everything she could to control my every move. She even used my daughter against me so many times. i think this added to my daughters problems.
Sannah
06-17-2007, 01:00 PM
I never brought this up because I'm ashamed but I use sex as an attention getter hoping that the person would stay with me and appreciate it.. I thought if I could make them feel good they would do the same in return...
Dee-nah, this is exellent that you have discovered this about yourself. You cannot change yourself until you understand why you are doing it and what needs that you are trying to meet by doing it (IMO). You have completed the first step! Actually, I think that it is quite common with sexual abuse victims to think this way. They were used for sex and therefore, they have come to believe that this is their only value as a human being.
Dee-nah, this is exellent that you have discovered this about yourself. You cannot change yourself until you understand why you are doing it and what needs that you are trying to meet by doing it (IMO). You have completed the first step! Actually, I think that it is quite common with sexual abuse victims to think this way. They were used for sex and therefore, they have come to believe that this is their only value as a human being.
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 01:03 PM
That really hurts too, she never asks how I feel or if we get into a fight whether she is right or wrong she ignores me. She ignores, in general! She is a very negative preson that lies to benefit her and no one else. She beat the crap out of me a few years ago, I have respect for my parents so I would NEVER hit them back.. I'm small but I have a big heart, she preys on me because of that.
I'm rambling...
I'm rambling...
stick2013
06-17-2007, 01:07 PM
It's ok, my mother and I had a fist fight once. I just got sick of the crap. I did hit her back. I am not proud of it, but can only take so much abuse, and then I snap.
Ok girl, I have to do a bunch of stuff. Keep your nose clean!!!!!! Stay safe, and I will talk to you again..
PS.......WHERE is ICC??????? Start a thread for her, and maybe we can drag her out of the wood work. I keep posting to her but NO RESPONSE YET!!!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
Ok girl, I have to do a bunch of stuff. Keep your nose clean!!!!!! Stay safe, and I will talk to you again..
PS.......WHERE is ICC??????? Start a thread for her, and maybe we can drag her out of the wood work. I keep posting to her but NO RESPONSE YET!!!!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 01:17 PM
Thanks Sannah, I was always embrassed of myself because of this. I thought since I was sexually abused that it would be the other way around. It was only recently did I see this pattern and swore I would never do it again. The amount of trouble that I got myself into I haven't healed from yet, as a matter of fact there is another trauma there that I can't bring myself to talk about...
Sid,
Have a good day and thank you for listening... Wow, alot came out of me today!!!
Sid,
Have a good day and thank you for listening... Wow, alot came out of me today!!!
Sannah
06-17-2007, 03:12 PM
I was always embrassed of myself because of this.
It was only recently did I see this pattern and swore I would never do it again.
The amount of trouble that I got myself into I haven't healed from yet,
as a matter of fact there is another trauma there that I can't bring myself to talk about...
Well now that you understand why you were doing it you don't have to feel ashamed anymore. This is really good self-awareness Dee! I wish you luck in healing (is shame involved here?). Let us know if we can help by listening and giving feedback. Hopefully, eventually you will be able to talk about this other trauma.
About your mom, she is who she is and I doubt if she will ever change. I guess acceptance of the mom that you got stuck with is in order here? I could see how you would wish for a better mother. My wish never came true either. You probably just need to learn how YOU need to deal with her to meet your own needs. She will never be able to meet your needs Dee.
It was only recently did I see this pattern and swore I would never do it again.
The amount of trouble that I got myself into I haven't healed from yet,
as a matter of fact there is another trauma there that I can't bring myself to talk about...
Well now that you understand why you were doing it you don't have to feel ashamed anymore. This is really good self-awareness Dee! I wish you luck in healing (is shame involved here?). Let us know if we can help by listening and giving feedback. Hopefully, eventually you will be able to talk about this other trauma.
About your mom, she is who she is and I doubt if she will ever change. I guess acceptance of the mom that you got stuck with is in order here? I could see how you would wish for a better mother. My wish never came true either. You probably just need to learn how YOU need to deal with her to meet your own needs. She will never be able to meet your needs Dee.
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 05:01 PM
I found someone to take my dog, I can't even begin to tell you what a relief this is... My cousin is going to take her, she lives 2 minutes away from me. Again I will try and do what I can to not let this happen but if it does I will feel better about the situation.
Sannah, I know she will never meet my needs but when I do stick up for myself she laughs at me, it kills me! I have an appt with my therapist and her next week, should be interesting = )
Sannah, I know she will never meet my needs but when I do stick up for myself she laughs at me, it kills me! I have an appt with my therapist and her next week, should be interesting = )
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 05:57 PM
I have another question, I was going to ask this as bunch of times but "forgot" too... When I post I never remember what I write, I don't do it often on this board since it's 1 post that I usually write for but on the Bipolar site I answer questions and NEVER remember what I say unless I stumble on them... This really upsets me, when I see something with my name on it I get this warm sensation through out my whole body, I literally don't remember these words coming from me. It happens not some of the time ALL of the time.. Even when I read the words I still have no recollection of it..
stick2013
06-17-2007, 08:38 PM
Dee,
I think it's called POST OVERLOAD... At least that's what FTM labeled it.....Works for me....
I think it's called POST OVERLOAD... At least that's what FTM labeled it.....Works for me....
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 09:00 PM
I won't deny that....
Did you read the post about my dog?
Did you read the post about my dog?
stick2013
06-17-2007, 09:03 PM
Yeah, and I am glad that you found someone close to where you life too. Then it won't be too bad, and your son can still see her.
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 09:06 PM
You okay.....
stick2013
06-17-2007, 09:09 PM
Yeah. Why??? I am tired, I was busy all weekend cleaning, cooking, and EATING.... I have eaten everything in sight. Good thing I eat healthy food. Except for the Pistachio pudding, with pineapple, coconut, marshmallows, and walnuts....yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyuuuuuuuuuuuu uuuuuuummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 09:24 PM
I just wanted to make sure you are okay.... = )
The cousin that will take my baby girl is training to run some type of marathon, I'm going to train with her... I have to start exercising again, more importantly I need to start eating right again...
I love coconuts....
The cousin that will take my baby girl is training to run some type of marathon, I'm going to train with her... I have to start exercising again, more importantly I need to start eating right again...
I love coconuts....
stick2013
06-17-2007, 09:25 PM
Forgot to add there is coolwhip in it too..... I am going nite nite..... I am really tired. Have a good nite, keep your nose clean....LOL!!!!
Hugs,
Sid
Hugs,
Sid
stick2013
06-17-2007, 09:26 PM
Dee,
If you are going to do a Marathon. YOU NEED FOOD girlfriend or you will fade away....... GO EAT!!!!!
Nite.
If you are going to do a Marathon. YOU NEED FOOD girlfriend or you will fade away....... GO EAT!!!!!
Nite.
Dee-nah
06-17-2007, 09:33 PM
Ha...I will definitely keep the nose clean! I'm naughty some times...
stick2013
06-18-2007, 05:39 AM
Yes you are......
Sid
Sid
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 07:40 AM
I just like to have fun, I don't harm anyone = )
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 11:16 AM
Do you think anyone like to post for me? Don't get me wrong all I need is you and ICC but I can't help but wonder.
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 11:17 AM
I double flippin posted again, today is not my day!.
Sannah
06-18-2007, 12:36 PM
when I do stick up for myself she laughs at me, it kills me!
Maybe you do not have to defend yourself against her? Just ignore her. I do not defend myself in front of fools, I would be wasting my time. I walk away.
Maybe you do not have to defend yourself against her? Just ignore her. I do not defend myself in front of fools, I would be wasting my time. I walk away.
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 01:16 PM
You grabbed this to shove it in my face on another board, your unbelievable..
Don't post to me again...
Don't post to me again...
Sannah
06-18-2007, 02:08 PM
Dee-nah, this is not true. Sorry that I have upset you again.
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 02:38 PM
I know no one on that site this was strictly about tgr247, not about my mother or myself! You should of left a conversation like that where it orginated, I told you to bring it hear not once (mind you, you edited out) but TWICE. I was defending myself about something I wrote, had nothing to do with my mother, Sannah. That post was a while ago apparently you must of seen it and went with it on another forum that had absolutely nothing to do with myself or my mother... It was wrong.
Sannah
06-18-2007, 02:59 PM
Dee-nah, the post that I responded to you here today was from yesterday. I go to the Depression Board first and then I come here. I guess it wasn't clear to me that you wanted to keep your issues off of the Depression Board (you explained this clearly these last two posts). Dee-nah, you have me painted as this taunting, cruel person. I guess because of what you have seen with Sid and me. I only bring up issues for people and 99% of the time people are very thankful to me for bringing them up because they cannot see them and this is why they come here. I have never had anyone get upset with me for remembering their issues in detail and taking them to another board. I have done this with Trg and Nikki, across SI, depression, and PTSD. It has never been an issue so it has never occurred to me to not do it. Again, I am sorry for upsetting you.
Did it make you feel vulnerable to have your issues over on the Depression board?
Did it make you feel vulnerable to have your issues over on the Depression board?
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 03:16 PM
Sannah it was on another person's site, one that never even defended himself yet. How is he going to feel when he see's 5 pages of us??? Plus this was his thread not mine, if you would of start a thread for me maybe I wouldn't be that upset, I honestly don't know. No one in my bipolar site (which is my orginal site) knows any of this stuff about me. I know they could easily come here and look but I don't see it that way, I don't know if that makes sense.. I can open up here, people know me here, they know how I think and react to things...
What happens with you and Sid are between you and Sid, she is definitely a big part in my recovery but we are all well aware that she can take care of herself.. What gets me upset is when people leave whether it be Sid or FTM, I have abandoment issues...
I'm not painting you as a cruel person, I NEVER said that about you, you upset me and I have every right to feel this way. So, yes I am vulnerable to have my issues on other boards besides this one....
What happens with you and Sid are between you and Sid, she is definitely a big part in my recovery but we are all well aware that she can take care of herself.. What gets me upset is when people leave whether it be Sid or FTM, I have abandoment issues...
I'm not painting you as a cruel person, I NEVER said that about you, you upset me and I have every right to feel this way. So, yes I am vulnerable to have my issues on other boards besides this one....
Sannah
06-18-2007, 03:21 PM
I am sorry that I never realized this. It has honestly never come up before. I will go to that thread and erase everything (I guess you can erase everything too and then Trg will never know, he hasn't signed in yet). We change thread topics and people's issues all of the time here. Yes, you certainly have every right to be upset and to air your feelings.
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 03:27 PM
You know all the problems I have, I didn't do anything wrong.
Sannah
06-18-2007, 03:30 PM
Okay Dee-nah, I erased everything and asked Dakota on her thread to erase what she wrote in reference to it. I will erase that request once she has read it.
stick2013
06-18-2007, 04:18 PM
Ok girls.... Can we kiss and make up now????? Seriously, is everything ok????
Take a deep breath, and calm down.
Love you both,
Sid
Take a deep breath, and calm down.
Love you both,
Sid
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 04:23 PM
I will be fine, I'm just worked up a bit.
stick2013
06-18-2007, 04:24 PM
I gathered that. Good job on defending yourself.........:)
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 04:29 PM
Thanks, I just hopes she understands it...
stick2013
06-18-2007, 04:34 PM
Sannah is a big girl and she can take care of herself, I'm not worried about her... I'm worried about you right now. Are you really ok????
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 04:35 PM
I'm just really worked up, I'm upset too because it should of never got to where it went..
stick2013
06-18-2007, 04:41 PM
Dee,
You were upset, you told her that. You had every right to be upset if she did something that you didn't like. You set up boundaries and told her that's all. She now knows what you will accept, and what you won't.
That's one of the reasons that I very rarely post on another board here. I have with Nikki, on the SI site, but I really don't like doing it. I know that this is an open forum and anyone can read or go where they like, but when you have multiple issues you want to keep them separate. I do understand that....
Ok so how can we get you to calm down, and not focus on this and work yourself into a frenzy?????
You were upset, you told her that. You had every right to be upset if she did something that you didn't like. You set up boundaries and told her that's all. She now knows what you will accept, and what you won't.
That's one of the reasons that I very rarely post on another board here. I have with Nikki, on the SI site, but I really don't like doing it. I know that this is an open forum and anyone can read or go where they like, but when you have multiple issues you want to keep them separate. I do understand that....
Ok so how can we get you to calm down, and not focus on this and work yourself into a frenzy?????
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 04:47 PM
I had to tell her 2 different times, I hope she knows = )
I don't know, Sid... Xanax = ) This went on for for a LONG time, I'm just really upset. I didn't want to hurt anyone, it all orginated from wishing someone a happy father's day??? See I am still worked up!
I don't know, Sid... Xanax = ) This went on for for a LONG time, I'm just really upset. I didn't want to hurt anyone, it all orginated from wishing someone a happy father's day??? See I am still worked up!
stick2013
06-18-2007, 04:50 PM
I know sometimes it takes time to calm down. Sannah and everyone needs only to be told once if they overstep a boundary. Is there anything I can do to help you calm down???
Dee-nah
06-18-2007, 04:56 PM
Trust me I will be fine, really... I learned a lesson today! Thanks for asking, I appreciate that!!!
stick2013
06-18-2007, 04:58 PM
It ok.......Your welcome. I am going to sign off for awhile, but I will be back later. Hang tight.....
Love you,
Sid
Love you,
Sid
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 07:45 AM
Ahhhhh, it's a brand new day!!!
stick2013
06-19-2007, 07:52 AM
Yea, and I hurt all over. I think the Fibro is kicking in, or the exercise is getting to me. Either way. MY BODY HURTS!!!!!!! NOT GOOD!!! I also NEED a vacation. Haven't had one in OVER a year, and don't think I can till Oct. I hope I live that long...LOL!!!! The way the OLD BODY feels today.....I might not make it till tonight......
GGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
hugs,
Sid
GGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
hugs,
Sid
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 08:00 AM
I hope it's the exercising and not the Fibro, not that either makes the situation any better. I don't know what I'm trying to say here = ) Hope you feel better as the day goes on, Sid!!!
I didn't tell you... I hope you get a laugh out of this one. My dog decided to take me for walk! I was walking her (she weighs over 100lbs) and she saw another dog and took off, I fell and she dragged me with her. Normally I would of been pissed but when she realized I was on the ground she turned around and started jumping on me licking me... It wasn't till the next day I felt the pain, I tried to use every muscle to hold her back. The whole neighborhood was laughing. It was funny guess you had to be there.
I didn't tell you... I hope you get a laugh out of this one. My dog decided to take me for walk! I was walking her (she weighs over 100lbs) and she saw another dog and took off, I fell and she dragged me with her. Normally I would of been pissed but when she realized I was on the ground she turned around and started jumping on me licking me... It wasn't till the next day I felt the pain, I tried to use every muscle to hold her back. The whole neighborhood was laughing. It was funny guess you had to be there.
stick2013
06-19-2007, 08:04 AM
I hope she dragged you on grass and NOT pavement... THAT would have HURT!!!!!!
I'm really not sure what my pain is from. I guess it's like the chicken and the egg thing. Which came first...I will just have to work it out today...LITERALLY!!!!!
Power went out during the night. If I only could sleep through a night, I wouldn't have known, I could have woke up late, and I could have STAYED HOME TODAY!!!!!!!! Nope not in this lifetime.........
Dee. you sound in a better mood today??? Are you???
hugs,
Sid
I'm really not sure what my pain is from. I guess it's like the chicken and the egg thing. Which came first...I will just have to work it out today...LITERALLY!!!!!
Power went out during the night. If I only could sleep through a night, I wouldn't have known, I could have woke up late, and I could have STAYED HOME TODAY!!!!!!!! Nope not in this lifetime.........
Dee. you sound in a better mood today??? Are you???
hugs,
Sid
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 08:13 AM
It was grass = ) She would of been gone otherwise!
Power went out at my work Friday, I was never so excited!
I'm feeling better, I wanted to send her a post but I don't know if I have it in me yet.. I didn't like how she went about things, I don't want to say the wrong thing, ya know. I'm kind of waiting till she says something so I can put my words together properly and if she doesn't then there is nothing I can do about that... When I get worked up my words don't make sense and that is where I'm at right now. Sid, this went on for almost 3 hours... it was horrible.. I don't know if she thought I wouldn't defend myself.
Power went out at my work Friday, I was never so excited!
I'm feeling better, I wanted to send her a post but I don't know if I have it in me yet.. I didn't like how she went about things, I don't want to say the wrong thing, ya know. I'm kind of waiting till she says something so I can put my words together properly and if she doesn't then there is nothing I can do about that... When I get worked up my words don't make sense and that is where I'm at right now. Sid, this went on for almost 3 hours... it was horrible.. I don't know if she thought I wouldn't defend myself.
stick2013
06-19-2007, 08:19 AM
Dee,
Sannah is very passionate about helping people, like me, sometimes I think she goes a little overboard. We REALLY try to get our point across. It's not right, or wrong, we are just trying to help, and sometimes I guess we don't see that it might actually be HURTING someone. I have really taken a good look at my ways and have backed off some. I need to understand that NOT EVERYONE gets it......
I can't really talk for sannah, because I didn't know what was said, or what was going on. This is just my opinion of her and me....
I don't think she meant to hurt you in any way.......
Hugs,
Sid
Sannah is very passionate about helping people, like me, sometimes I think she goes a little overboard. We REALLY try to get our point across. It's not right, or wrong, we are just trying to help, and sometimes I guess we don't see that it might actually be HURTING someone. I have really taken a good look at my ways and have backed off some. I need to understand that NOT EVERYONE gets it......
I can't really talk for sannah, because I didn't know what was said, or what was going on. This is just my opinion of her and me....
I don't think she meant to hurt you in any way.......
Hugs,
Sid
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 08:27 AM
I don't think she did either, honestly... But I was constantly telling her to go to the PTSD board to talk about this THEN she brought up my mother, again told her to take to the PTSD boards twice.. I think that is what bothers me more... She explained herself and then asked be if I was vulnerable about my mother's situation (take it to the damn PTSD board)??? I went back at her about it and she went back and she edited her post.. This is Sannah, I think that is why it hurt so much.
Sannah if you read this I dwell, I dwell, I dwell.... I'm not bring it back up!
Sannah if you read this I dwell, I dwell, I dwell.... I'm not bring it back up!
ICC
06-19-2007, 08:29 AM
Morning all......This all has my head whirling. The deleting of posts, someone always arguing or to say the least hurt by someone else's words. What's going on?
Dee.......Every so often i would post on a different emotional disorder thread. It would take me one post and I was out of there. It appears very clickish (is that a word) to me on some of the other boards and a new comer is not welcomed and treated with kindness as they are here. I don't know what happend but want you to know that I can only imagine as I have been slammed, ignored and just flat out made to feel out of place on other boards. I am so sorry you were hurt. Are you OK now?
Hugs,
Grasshopper
Dee.......Every so often i would post on a different emotional disorder thread. It would take me one post and I was out of there. It appears very clickish (is that a word) to me on some of the other boards and a new comer is not welcomed and treated with kindness as they are here. I don't know what happend but want you to know that I can only imagine as I have been slammed, ignored and just flat out made to feel out of place on other boards. I am so sorry you were hurt. Are you OK now?
Hugs,
Grasshopper
stick2013
06-19-2007, 08:33 AM
Dee,
I agree she probably should have moved to the PTSD board when you asked. Maybe she just didn't understand how you really feel about this. I don't know, I guess I am just grasping at straws here.
I think that you handled yourself well in the aftermath, and defended yourself, and stood your ground. You two finally worked things out, so maybe just a couple of days to let things settle, would be in order....
Don't let this get to you OK.... Try and let it go. I know it's hard, but for YOU, you need to do this.........
Love you,
Sid
I agree she probably should have moved to the PTSD board when you asked. Maybe she just didn't understand how you really feel about this. I don't know, I guess I am just grasping at straws here.
I think that you handled yourself well in the aftermath, and defended yourself, and stood your ground. You two finally worked things out, so maybe just a couple of days to let things settle, would be in order....
Don't let this get to you OK.... Try and let it go. I know it's hard, but for YOU, you need to do this.........
Love you,
Sid
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 08:38 AM
I do like Sannah so I'm letting it go... It just takes me a while to stop dwelling no matter what the situation! I do respect her!
stick2013
06-19-2007, 08:43 AM
Good girl...
I know it's hard to let things go, but for your own mental health this is the best thing that you can do.... In the long run, letting go, and not holding anger, and grudges is so helpful. It allows you to heal. To see things with a clearer mind. Anger only causes a fog in your mind, that you can't see through. Am I making any sense of this????
It doesn't mean that you have to forgive, allow someone back in, or accept their behavior, it's just letting go from what is STOPPING YOU from moving forward.....
I know it's hard to let things go, but for your own mental health this is the best thing that you can do.... In the long run, letting go, and not holding anger, and grudges is so helpful. It allows you to heal. To see things with a clearer mind. Anger only causes a fog in your mind, that you can't see through. Am I making any sense of this????
It doesn't mean that you have to forgive, allow someone back in, or accept their behavior, it's just letting go from what is STOPPING YOU from moving forward.....
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 08:54 AM
Your making total sense....The more I think about it the more it doesn't matter....
stick2013
06-19-2007, 08:58 AM
Ok, so now you understand that what happened between you and sannah, was a misunderstanding, small in comparison to something major. Let it go, and you will feel tons better.....
Ok, I FEEL BETTER TOO.........:) :) :) :) :)
Love you, and I hope that you have a terrific day, filled with tons of fun......
Sid
Ok, I FEEL BETTER TOO.........:) :) :) :) :)
Love you, and I hope that you have a terrific day, filled with tons of fun......
Sid
Sannah
06-19-2007, 10:11 AM
Dee-nah, I have to leave in just a bit so I can't talk this out this much this AM but I can later.
I have never had anyone tell me not to discuss their issues across boards before. I have done it before with no problem. I have been here for almost a year and it never has occurred to me. I am the type of person who needs to know why before I do something. I have almost broken things because the manual says not to do something but it doesn't tell me why. I just have to know why to make it stick in my head. You did explain why towards the end and this is when I understood. This is the way that I am. Sorry that this happened. I went back and deleted everything. I know this now about you and I will never forget it.
Dee, when I first met you on the anger board you told me that you get angry and then you just go off on the person. Well, this is what you did to me yesterday. You called me ignorant (and I am not ignorant and I will not accept this from you) and you accused me of purposely trying to hurt you. In the future could you please give me a chance to work this out with you before you go off on me. I do not come here to hurt people. You need to give me a chance to work this out with you. Please give me the patience that you appreciate from others.
I have never had anyone tell me not to discuss their issues across boards before. I have done it before with no problem. I have been here for almost a year and it never has occurred to me. I am the type of person who needs to know why before I do something. I have almost broken things because the manual says not to do something but it doesn't tell me why. I just have to know why to make it stick in my head. You did explain why towards the end and this is when I understood. This is the way that I am. Sorry that this happened. I went back and deleted everything. I know this now about you and I will never forget it.
Dee, when I first met you on the anger board you told me that you get angry and then you just go off on the person. Well, this is what you did to me yesterday. You called me ignorant (and I am not ignorant and I will not accept this from you) and you accused me of purposely trying to hurt you. In the future could you please give me a chance to work this out with you before you go off on me. I do not come here to hurt people. You need to give me a chance to work this out with you. Please give me the patience that you appreciate from others.
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 11:11 AM
"and I am not ignorant and I will not accept this from you"
When someone tells you more then ONCE (3 times to be exact) not to bring her mother into this and to go to the PTSD board but refused to do so what do you call that??? I'm really interested in your definition of this.....THEN you edited out your post referring to my mother THIS was before the agreement to delete everything.. This is when I called you out on it... Can you tell me why?
Sannah that wasn't even anger,sweetie... If you read my post you will see me describing it as being HURT...I was hurt.
You know my situation, you know I'm on meds and trying my hardest to get better, I have so much on my plate right now, but that didn't stop you....You kept it and kept it up! Where you trying to get a reaction out of me is what I should be asking???
Just admit to your faults and I will admit to mine but don't tell me what you aren't accepting... I was even posting with Sid how I'm going to let this go.... You've become a trigger now, I think it's best if you just leave me alone.. This means don't even post back to me, I've never needed you before so I'm sure I will never need you in the future...
Again just in case you don't understand LEAVE ME ALONE!
When someone tells you more then ONCE (3 times to be exact) not to bring her mother into this and to go to the PTSD board but refused to do so what do you call that??? I'm really interested in your definition of this.....THEN you edited out your post referring to my mother THIS was before the agreement to delete everything.. This is when I called you out on it... Can you tell me why?
Sannah that wasn't even anger,sweetie... If you read my post you will see me describing it as being HURT...I was hurt.
You know my situation, you know I'm on meds and trying my hardest to get better, I have so much on my plate right now, but that didn't stop you....You kept it and kept it up! Where you trying to get a reaction out of me is what I should be asking???
Just admit to your faults and I will admit to mine but don't tell me what you aren't accepting... I was even posting with Sid how I'm going to let this go.... You've become a trigger now, I think it's best if you just leave me alone.. This means don't even post back to me, I've never needed you before so I'm sure I will never need you in the future...
Again just in case you don't understand LEAVE ME ALONE!
stick2013
06-19-2007, 05:14 PM
Dee,
Are you doing ok???? Has everything finally calmed down yet?
Are you doing ok???? Has everything finally calmed down yet?
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 05:20 PM
This was the first thing I looked at when I got to work.... I was SOOOO mad!! That wasn't anger either AND I never told her I go after people when I'm angry.. Sid, I barely weigh 105lbs????
stick2013
06-19-2007, 05:22 PM
Ok, Hon calm down. Let's get through this ok.......I may have to log off soon, we are going to get slammed with a really bad storm here soon.
Let's talk.
Let's talk.
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 05:33 PM
We are suppose the get the storm late tonight...
This is what got me mad "and I am not ignorant and I will not accept this from you"
I don't even feel like bring this up again but I've explained myself numerous times on how mad I was that she didn't take it to the PTSD board and that I had to tell her more then once to do this... That is ignorant of her.
I don't feel I'm at fault here and if I am Sid please tell me.. I won't get mad, i'll learn from it.
This is what got me mad "and I am not ignorant and I will not accept this from you"
I don't even feel like bring this up again but I've explained myself numerous times on how mad I was that she didn't take it to the PTSD board and that I had to tell her more then once to do this... That is ignorant of her.
I don't feel I'm at fault here and if I am Sid please tell me.. I won't get mad, i'll learn from it.
stick2013
06-19-2007, 05:42 PM
I am so mad, my whole post just disappeared.
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 05:46 PM
I re read what I wrote and you don't have to answer it, that was rude of me to ask you...
stick2013
06-19-2007, 05:47 PM
Dee,
1) sannah was wrong for not moving to the PSTD board.
2) you were wrong for calling her ignorant.
You just can't settle things by calling each other names, and being stubborn to the others wishes.
Sannah was apologizing, and did in her post, but I think that you got hung up on that one statement and failed to take in her apology. Her apology does not correct the fact that she overstepped boundaries that you clearly pit down.
I just think that you both should think things over for a day or 2 and TALK about this. MY OPINION ONLY... You don't have to do anything that you aren't comfortable with.....
1) sannah was wrong for not moving to the PSTD board.
2) you were wrong for calling her ignorant.
You just can't settle things by calling each other names, and being stubborn to the others wishes.
Sannah was apologizing, and did in her post, but I think that you got hung up on that one statement and failed to take in her apology. Her apology does not correct the fact that she overstepped boundaries that you clearly pit down.
I just think that you both should think things over for a day or 2 and TALK about this. MY OPINION ONLY... You don't have to do anything that you aren't comfortable with.....
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 05:58 PM
Your right, I'm very stubborn and when she just kept it up I went ballistic.
Yes I did get hung up on that statement = )
UGH!!!!!!!!!!! I'm trying to find the right words to say and every time I look back it's not proper...I'm still angry! It takes me awhile, Sid, I wish it didn't but it does...
Yes I did get hung up on that statement = )
UGH!!!!!!!!!!! I'm trying to find the right words to say and every time I look back it's not proper...I'm still angry! It takes me awhile, Sid, I wish it didn't but it does...
stick2013
06-19-2007, 06:03 PM
Dee,
We have reasons to have anger issues...BUT!!!!!!! The anger needs to be directed only at the person that it needs to be directed at.....The abuser. STOP LISTEN AND LEARN....3 most important words to recovery.
This does not absolve sannah from her part. I want to make that clear. She was wrong. You also had a part in this too. You are both responsible, and both should take your share of it.
Do you think that you can let yourself be ok with this now??? So you flipped. OK, not a good thing to do. You see that, and will try and deal with it. It's OK, to make a mistake as LONG as YOU LEARN FROM IT!!!!!
Don't be to hard on yourself OK???? Sannah is a big girl, and I think she understands too.
We have reasons to have anger issues...BUT!!!!!!! The anger needs to be directed only at the person that it needs to be directed at.....The abuser. STOP LISTEN AND LEARN....3 most important words to recovery.
This does not absolve sannah from her part. I want to make that clear. She was wrong. You also had a part in this too. You are both responsible, and both should take your share of it.
Do you think that you can let yourself be ok with this now??? So you flipped. OK, not a good thing to do. You see that, and will try and deal with it. It's OK, to make a mistake as LONG as YOU LEARN FROM IT!!!!!
Don't be to hard on yourself OK???? Sannah is a big girl, and I think she understands too.
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 06:06 PM
Yeah, I just got to try a little harder to control my anger....
stick2013
06-19-2007, 06:08 PM
Ok.... I wasn't putting all the blame on you.....You BOTH were at fault.
Ok, so can I go and take a bath now that things are a little quiet. Or do you still need to talk?????
Ok, so can I go and take a bath now that things are a little quiet. Or do you still need to talk?????
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 06:11 PM
No please wait, No wait please....
Go take a bath and enjoy yourself!!!!!
Go take a bath and enjoy yourself!!!!!
stick2013
06-19-2007, 06:13 PM
BRAT!!!!!!!
I will be on later..
Love you.
Have you calmed down at all????? Please answer.
I will be on later..
Love you.
Have you calmed down at all????? Please answer.
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 06:20 PM
Yeah I did, sometimes I need to have some one point out things to me in order to understand and then to learn from... This was great for me, I mean I wish it didn't happen but it was great. It also shows you guys what I'm capable and how I react to things...I think that is important.
stick2013
06-19-2007, 08:22 PM
Dee,
Also remember that TRIGGERS can be handled.....It's all in the way that we react to them....If someone says something to make you angry...THINK about it......Ask yourself a few questions first.
Why did they say that?
What is their agenda in all of this?
Was it said on purpose?
Were they just trying to get a view point across??
There are tons of questions that you can ask yourself, and it also helps to calm yourself down too. Instead of putting all of your focus on how mad you are, it makes you stop and think of why it was said......
Hugs,
Sid
Also remember that TRIGGERS can be handled.....It's all in the way that we react to them....If someone says something to make you angry...THINK about it......Ask yourself a few questions first.
Why did they say that?
What is their agenda in all of this?
Was it said on purpose?
Were they just trying to get a view point across??
There are tons of questions that you can ask yourself, and it also helps to calm yourself down too. Instead of putting all of your focus on how mad you are, it makes you stop and think of why it was said......
Hugs,
Sid
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 08:46 PM
I can't believe this....
stick2013
06-19-2007, 08:49 PM
And then there are those that you just look at and say to yourself...." I am NOT going to even bother wasting my breath"
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 09:00 PM
sorry, lol... I think you would be proud, I did hold back a lot but it was for reasons that didn't have to do with Sannah..
stick2013
06-19-2007, 09:01 PM
Dee, dee dee.... What am I going to do with you?????:jester: :jester:
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 09:03 PM
I have issues, this is the only place where I can say it and REALLY mean it!!!
stick2013
06-19-2007, 09:04 PM
Sometimes it's best if we DON'T say anything.......
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 09:09 PM
Your right, I don't have a really good implusive behavior. I went back and just put that I was sorry for calling her ignorant.. I really am sorry!
I'm angry, Sid..
I'm angry, Sid..
stick2013
06-19-2007, 09:12 PM
Angry at who???? You, sannah or trg????
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 09:19 PM
I'm angry that this has been going on for 2 days.. Everytime you make progress with me it just brews back up??? Anyone can see on the post that we made progress, right? This is basically where there getting the information... They know I get sooo angry and that it gets the best of me, then you come along and calm me down, I start to feel good... LET'S OPEN UP THE SITUATION UP AGAIN!!! My head is going up and down, up and down, I'm literally getting sick over this.. It's funny because on the same flippin post we're responding on I generated because I get physical pain when I get worked up...
Oh and this flippin trg is the person I was defending, LOL!
Oh and this flippin trg is the person I was defending, LOL!
stick2013
06-19-2007, 09:24 PM
Dee,
You need to understand that everyone on this board, the depression board, and the Bi polar board ALL HAVE EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS!!!!!!! Sometimes we get just like you do. Angry, out of control, upset, frustrated.....blah, blah, blah.....
If ALL of us were sane...it would be empty here....
CALM DOWN......DON'T let people push your buttons.....
You need to understand that everyone on this board, the depression board, and the Bi polar board ALL HAVE EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS!!!!!!! Sometimes we get just like you do. Angry, out of control, upset, frustrated.....blah, blah, blah.....
If ALL of us were sane...it would be empty here....
CALM DOWN......DON'T let people push your buttons.....
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 09:30 PM
I probably wouldn't be as mad if the sickness didn't start. He is starting to get really sick, Sid... I don't want to feel like my back is up against the wall, it's bullsh*t.
stick2013
06-19-2007, 09:35 PM
Dee,
Is there anyway that you can just ignore what you know makes you angry???? If people say things, or do things to really upset you, is there a way for you to just NOT GO THERE????? To just walk away, not say or do anything????
I will tell you what my therapist used to tell me. If someone is going out of there way to piss you off..........The best way to get even with them is to COMPLETELY IGNORE THEM..... No matter what they say or do. IGNORE them, cause it will piss THEM OFF MORE TO BE IGNORED!!!!!!!!
Do you think you can understand and do this so that you don't get into any trouble??????
Is there anyway that you can just ignore what you know makes you angry???? If people say things, or do things to really upset you, is there a way for you to just NOT GO THERE????? To just walk away, not say or do anything????
I will tell you what my therapist used to tell me. If someone is going out of there way to piss you off..........The best way to get even with them is to COMPLETELY IGNORE THEM..... No matter what they say or do. IGNORE them, cause it will piss THEM OFF MORE TO BE IGNORED!!!!!!!!
Do you think you can understand and do this so that you don't get into any trouble??????
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 09:38 PM
I'm not getting sick, my dad is, LOL... I'm calming down, really I am.
stick2013
06-19-2007, 09:42 PM
I knew you were talking about your dad. I was still talking about the PROBLEM.... Do you think you can do what I said ?????/
I kind of thought that between the radiation, and chemo he would be real sick
FREAKIN COP car just went by and turned on his siren, scared THE CRAP outta me.....
I kind of thought that between the radiation, and chemo he would be real sick
FREAKIN COP car just went by and turned on his siren, scared THE CRAP outta me.....
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 09:44 PM
I've been through A LOT worse.... I will be fine, I always am!
Have a good night, Sid...
LOVE YOU LOTS!!!!
Deana
Have a good night, Sid...
LOVE YOU LOTS!!!!
Deana
stick2013
06-19-2007, 09:53 PM
Love you too hon.....
Are you ok for the night, or are you in crash mode????
Are you ok for the night, or are you in crash mode????
Dee-nah
06-19-2007, 09:56 PM
Crash mode!!!!! Hopefully tomorrow will be a good one!!!
THANKS AGAIN.... GOOD NIGHT..
THANKS AGAIN.... GOOD NIGHT..
stick2013
06-19-2007, 09:58 PM
Night hon... Stop thanking me. I haven't done anything that a friend wouldn't do for a friend. Now BEHAVE yourself for the rest of the night.....
Dee-nah
06-20-2007, 07:42 AM
Hey Sid,
I just wanted to let you know that I feel A LOT better. I had a dicussion AGAIN but at this point I was tired and in a better mood.. I know my faults thanks to you and the next time I will be able to handle myself better THANKS to you... So yes you definitely deserve a thanks.. Again hopefully today brings a better day, I feel that it will.
I just wanted to let you know that I feel A LOT better. I had a dicussion AGAIN but at this point I was tired and in a better mood.. I know my faults thanks to you and the next time I will be able to handle myself better THANKS to you... So yes you definitely deserve a thanks.. Again hopefully today brings a better day, I feel that it will.
Sannah
06-20-2007, 02:05 PM
Sid, THANK YOU FOR BEING A MEDIATOR!
Dee-nah, I only did any of this so that maybe you could learn something about yourself. I spent 3 days of my life this week trying to reach out to you so that maybe you could learn something about yourself. I woke up in the morning (or if I woke up in the middle of the night) and it was the first thing on my mind (and the last before I went to sleep). Trg nailed me pretty well. I come on strong because I care so much. I see something about someone that could help and I just want to help. I have been thanked numerous times on this board for helping others. When you saw me as a threat to you, this hurt me a lot. I know you told me that I hurt you too. I take full responsibility for my mistake and I believe that I have apoligized 25 times and taken responsibility for that. What I think that you could learn about this is to stop and think "is this person a threat". Dee, I have only been trying to help, I SWEAR.
I would still like to talk about this incident with you because I believe that a person's issues only come out in their interactions with others. You tell me that you don't remember telling me on the anger board that you go off on others when angry (I am actually going to go look for it). I really think that you could learn from this and I would be so willing to work with you on it because I think that you could learn tons. But only if you want to.....
I hope that I haven't said anything that triggered you. If I have PLEASE take a deep breath and respond back so that I can continue to discuss this with you so that we can reach an understanding.
Dee-nah, I only did any of this so that maybe you could learn something about yourself. I spent 3 days of my life this week trying to reach out to you so that maybe you could learn something about yourself. I woke up in the morning (or if I woke up in the middle of the night) and it was the first thing on my mind (and the last before I went to sleep). Trg nailed me pretty well. I come on strong because I care so much. I see something about someone that could help and I just want to help. I have been thanked numerous times on this board for helping others. When you saw me as a threat to you, this hurt me a lot. I know you told me that I hurt you too. I take full responsibility for my mistake and I believe that I have apoligized 25 times and taken responsibility for that. What I think that you could learn about this is to stop and think "is this person a threat". Dee, I have only been trying to help, I SWEAR.
I would still like to talk about this incident with you because I believe that a person's issues only come out in their interactions with others. You tell me that you don't remember telling me on the anger board that you go off on others when angry (I am actually going to go look for it). I really think that you could learn from this and I would be so willing to work with you on it because I think that you could learn tons. But only if you want to.....
I hope that I haven't said anything that triggered you. If I have PLEASE take a deep breath and respond back so that I can continue to discuss this with you so that we can reach an understanding.
Sannah
06-20-2007, 02:12 PM
I have BAD anger issues, I can be this sweat girl who you would want to be around to this MONSTER that could kill you with her words alone. As fast as I'm lashing out is as fast as I wish I could put the words back in my mouth?? (
Dee, I just pulled this from your anger post. And Dee, please don't have any shame about having issues that you have to work on. Shame will hold you back and I know this from experience. So please, we love you here (I really do, I wouldn't have taken this beating for three days otherwise) and you don't have to be ashamed about how you "appear" here.
Dee, I just pulled this from your anger post. And Dee, please don't have any shame about having issues that you have to work on. Shame will hold you back and I know this from experience. So please, we love you here (I really do, I wouldn't have taken this beating for three days otherwise) and you don't have to be ashamed about how you "appear" here.
Dee-nah
06-20-2007, 02:45 PM
I understand what you are saying about how I dealt with the situation but the only name I called you was ignorant, I didn't kill you with my words, really I didn't. I get worked up and like Sid said, these sites are for people that are dealing with emotional issues.
I guess my question is when does it become sticking up for oneself to being ashamed how I appeared...PLEASE I"M NOT BEING COCKY, I"M IN A GOOD MOOD, LOL... I wasn't ashamed, I looked at this as a learning expierence.. That is like me saying I was ashamed of the things that happen to me,ya know.. This is all about learning and dealing...
I love your passion for helping people, Sannah, but I want to understand more because I'm not completely understanding this.... I hope that made sense..
I can be VERY bull headed but I do want to understand..
AND honestly I am so sorry for how this turned out, it was so un necessary!
I guess my question is when does it become sticking up for oneself to being ashamed how I appeared...PLEASE I"M NOT BEING COCKY, I"M IN A GOOD MOOD, LOL... I wasn't ashamed, I looked at this as a learning expierence.. That is like me saying I was ashamed of the things that happen to me,ya know.. This is all about learning and dealing...
I love your passion for helping people, Sannah, but I want to understand more because I'm not completely understanding this.... I hope that made sense..
I can be VERY bull headed but I do want to understand..
AND honestly I am so sorry for how this turned out, it was so un necessary!
Sannah
06-20-2007, 03:03 PM
Dee-nah, I only mentioned the shame because somewhere this AM when I was reading your posts it came up (it could have been on the old anger post). I thought it had something to do with you talking about showing your face again or something. I can't remember what it was. I am glad that you aren't ashamed because it gets in the way (unless it is someone who isn't learning and looking at their behavior, then they need to be ashamed). But this isn't you.
I am so sorry too for how it turned out Dee. I couldn't believe it either.
Where are you now with this? Do you think working through this incident will help you next time to stop before you get too angry?
I am so sorry too for how it turned out Dee. I couldn't believe it either.
Where are you now with this? Do you think working through this incident will help you next time to stop before you get too angry?
Dee-nah
06-20-2007, 03:12 PM
I better of understood it = ) I don't want a life of explaining myself when a situation arises... I can't even begin to explain how it makes me feel mentally!!!
Thanks for listening, Sannah...
Thanks for listening, Sannah...
stick2013
06-20-2007, 04:05 PM
Sannah,
You are welcome. I would do it for everyone here. I think that you know that. Please lets talk about your issue...LOL!!!! You told Dee that YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHY. That you have almost broken things when trying to put something together because you need to know why...... Sannah....THAT is YOUR issue NOT anyone else's. So when someone asks ONCE NOT TO SAY SOMETHING...Please, stop.....I have learned my lesson in regards to Nikki. So can you please learn yours in regards to your issue???? I am also very happy that you and Dee have come to an agreement on this too....:)
Dee,
I am so proud of you for leaving that post to sannah on the depression board, without me even suggesting it. You took responsibility, admitted your problems, apologized, and even said that you would work on them...
GREAT JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am really happy for the both of you.....
Hugs,
Sid
I am so proud of you
You are welcome. I would do it for everyone here. I think that you know that. Please lets talk about your issue...LOL!!!! You told Dee that YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHY. That you have almost broken things when trying to put something together because you need to know why...... Sannah....THAT is YOUR issue NOT anyone else's. So when someone asks ONCE NOT TO SAY SOMETHING...Please, stop.....I have learned my lesson in regards to Nikki. So can you please learn yours in regards to your issue???? I am also very happy that you and Dee have come to an agreement on this too....:)
Dee,
I am so proud of you for leaving that post to sannah on the depression board, without me even suggesting it. You took responsibility, admitted your problems, apologized, and even said that you would work on them...
GREAT JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am really happy for the both of you.....
Hugs,
Sid
I am so proud of you
Sannah
06-20-2007, 04:23 PM
Sid, why do you think that I wouldn't learn from this? Are you referring to something else that I have done which relates to this and I wasn't made aware of it? I thought that I took responsibility for my mistake. Did it seem like I did not?
Dee-nah
06-20-2007, 04:36 PM
Thanks, Sid... This took a lot out of me, it really did. I'm glad it ended the way it did.
stick2013
06-20-2007, 04:39 PM
Sannh... I know that you took responsibility. Maybe I missed something. I just wanted I guess to reemphasize to let it go if someone has asked
you to. I remember a night talking to Dee. I asked her if she would like to work on her anger issue. Her response....I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT IT... I replied ok, I am glad that you clearly set your boundaries with me. Good Job...
This is all I am saying. Just let it go if someone asks... Ok???
I do love you.....Silly girl...
Sid
you to. I remember a night talking to Dee. I asked her if she would like to work on her anger issue. Her response....I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT IT... I replied ok, I am glad that you clearly set your boundaries with me. Good Job...
This is all I am saying. Just let it go if someone asks... Ok???
I do love you.....Silly girl...
Sid
Dee-nah
06-20-2007, 04:55 PM
I need to fix myself and learn the right and wrong way of doing/reacting to things.. I can't have my life like this anymore.
stick2013
06-20-2007, 04:59 PM
Dee,
YOU ARE!!!!!! And with everything that you have going on in your life right now, and working a full time job, and with a kid....YOU are doing a remarkable job sweetie........
Let up on yourself. You are working hard at this. Dee some people REFUSE to see their part in problems like you and sannah just went through. They don't accept responsibility for anything. YOU DID. You apologized, took responsibility, admitted to your flaws, and promised to work on them... THAT is a HUGE step to getting healthy.......
YOU ARE!!!!!! And with everything that you have going on in your life right now, and working a full time job, and with a kid....YOU are doing a remarkable job sweetie........
Let up on yourself. You are working hard at this. Dee some people REFUSE to see their part in problems like you and sannah just went through. They don't accept responsibility for anything. YOU DID. You apologized, took responsibility, admitted to your flaws, and promised to work on them... THAT is a HUGE step to getting healthy.......
Sannah
06-20-2007, 05:00 PM
Dee-nah, with your last post I thought you didn't want to talk about it anymore. I need to sign off now and get some work done but I'll talk about it with you again tomorrow if you want.
Dee-nah
06-20-2007, 05:10 PM
I was actually laughing at Sid, when she asked me to talk about my anger and how I replied... It was funny to me, I can picture myself saying that.
I shouldn't wrote the previous post, sorry = )
My brain is FRIED!
I shouldn't wrote the previous post, sorry = )
My brain is FRIED!
Dee-nah
06-21-2007, 07:36 AM
I do not feel like going to work, I do not feel like doing ANYTHING!
stick2013
06-21-2007, 07:42 AM
Stay up too late last night or what?????
Dee-nah
06-21-2007, 07:52 AM
HA! It's not that, I just need a break from work but know in reality it's not possible.. I need a break from home but know in reality that, that is not possible...
Sometimes I feel I have no where to go, no outlet. It kills me to see my father sick... I wish I could take it on.
Sometimes I feel I have no where to go, no outlet. It kills me to see my father sick... I wish I could take it on.
stick2013
06-21-2007, 07:56 AM
Dee,
I know. Life is so unfair at times, or at least that's how it feels. I need a vacation too. I haven't had on in over a year....UGH!!!! Can't see getting one either till Oct. Double UGH!!!!!!
As far as your dad....................Yeah it sucks big time. Just try and be supportive hon, and then come here and rant....
Sid
I know. Life is so unfair at times, or at least that's how it feels. I need a vacation too. I haven't had on in over a year....UGH!!!! Can't see getting one either till Oct. Double UGH!!!!!!
As far as your dad....................Yeah it sucks big time. Just try and be supportive hon, and then come here and rant....
Sid
Phoenix
06-21-2007, 07:59 AM
Dee:
It's what I call Post Overload (post-us overload-us) :eek: .
You posted approximately 47 times yesterday, 52 times the previous day and 44 times the day before that(not that I'm counting:) ) and that's not counting editing.
You have to take into account how "close to home" the nature of said postings were.
Please try to pace yourself.
Take care
God Bless
Ryan
It's what I call Post Overload (post-us overload-us) :eek: .
You posted approximately 47 times yesterday, 52 times the previous day and 44 times the day before that(not that I'm counting:) ) and that's not counting editing.
You have to take into account how "close to home" the nature of said postings were.
Please try to pace yourself.
Take care
God Bless
Ryan
Dee-nah
06-21-2007, 08:01 AM
I went on the lung cancer site, just to get some ideas of what I could do about smells and the dog, etc.... Everyone was sooo nice to me but then I saw....This one just past and Amy just died, etc! I know that some are worse then others but like you I don't do well with death especially when it's about Lung Cancer right now. I wasn't trying to set myself up, I was trying to make certain situations better for him... I just didn't think of what I would find...
Dee-nah
06-21-2007, 08:05 AM
FTM, I'm just afraid I will get myself into trouble. This is the only thing I have right now... Your right though I have to deal with certain situations on my own. I've never had this much going on at once, I don't know what to do with it...