I am exhausted! He is charged with a misdemeanor of "battery". Just got him out of Juve...What the hell, I am turning into "Luckygem on Jerry Springer", Ugh! He was cruising with two friends and the driver did nothing, one passenger (my son's good friend) threw a red bull can at a pedestrian and hit the man in the neck, my son (passenger #2) threw a plastic gatorade bottle but didn't hit anybody. There is suspicion, but not confirmation, that they may have yelled "******"...if that were confirmed, he would be facing a felony for a "hate crime". I am happy it is not confirmed and happy he did not hit the man. The man has no injuries, Thank God!

Anyway, we will have to fight a battery charge, since he threw, but did not hit, and he is honest when pushed to the limit, eyeball to eyeball, as we have been talking all night tonight. Furthermore, I eavesdropped on his cell phone call that he made from his bedrom and he clearly "threw only", no contact was made with the pedestrian. Of course I am not proud of his behavior and will be "raking him over the coals" but I want his record to be as clean as it can be for his future. Thank God, we got these kids off drugs (last summer there was a little MJ problem) as they were both drug tested and came out clean at the juve detention center. Another blessing is that they are both still 17, not 18......whole different world there.

Thank You guys for always letting me come here and vent and giving me your support. This is really scary :dizzy:

Life with my 2 Bipolars, never a dull moment :D

Luvya,


Luckygem :wave:

PS The word that was yelled (that I see is blocked) is a reference to a person's sexual orientaion...I hope this explanation is allowed. This is typical teenage boy stuff but does need to be addressed. :rolleyes:

Luckygem,

(((Hugs))) I am glad that the pedestrian is ok. It is horrorifying what kids will do when around their friends. It is like suddenly what they know is right goes out the window sometimes. Hopefully this is a lesson he learns before the eighteenth birthday. It is so great that he has wonderful, loving, and supportive parents.

Eme

Hi Eme, Thanks, But ya know they must have really wounded the spirit of that pedestrian and that bothers me. I am a very sensitive person and take on others problems....that would be my depression problem. But just think how it would feel to have something thrown at you by teenagers, who yelled something, Ugh! It breaks my heart, for all parties. I will indeed inquire about this pedestrians address for a possible face to face apology. My son's friend that threw the can is a good kid (just a teenager thing) and I know his parents would encourage that as well. I am close with his friends parents even thought they live on the other side of town we are all very involved...we just have "High Maintenance" kids ;)

Motherhood is not for cowards :angel:

I'm so sorry Lucky, how are you doing?

Hi Luckygem,

Motherhood is definetely not for cowards, and neither is wifehood where BP is involved!

Lucky, with you as his ever-supportive, helpful and loving mother, your son will pull through this too...and he'll learn from it. I'm sorry to hear about what's happened though.

Hang in there, this too shall pass.

Hugs,
4support

Hi ladies, Thanks

My son seems pretty down right now and I think that's a good thing. He needs to wallow in this funk so that this lesson sinks in. I say that because he has always been a kid that didn't seem to learn from his mistakes, and that has always scared me. You punish, ground him, remove priveledges, whatever and he would still misbehave for the very thing he was reprimanded on....very strong willed. Definitely a chip off the old block ;) So I'm actually pleased he is miserable right now. Maybe he is growing up, I sure hope so!


Luvya,



Luckygem :wave:

lucky how are you holding up? How does your husband react to his son's misbehavior? Is he supportive of you? Thinking of you.

Hi ladies, Thanks

My son seems pretty down right now and I think that's a good thing. He needs to wallow in this funk so that this lesson sinks in. I say that because he has always been a kid that didn't seem to learn from his mistakes, and that has always scared me. You punish, ground him, remove priveledges, whatever and he would still misbehave for the very thing he was reprimanded on....very strong willed. Definitely a chip off the old block ;) So I'm actually pleased he is miserable right now. Maybe he is growing up, I sure hope so!

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Luckygem : A short story about myself when I was a teen (A long time ago).But it still carry's the same message. My friends and I were "crusing the strip" (now that tells my age). I was driving my "57 chev" and we pulled up to this guy in a fast '58 ford. Anyway, words were shared and I call the guy a "name". He did not respond ..so I did it again. The light was still red and he got out of his car and came over to my car. I rolled down my window and glared at him....And he just "socked' me in the mouth and walked away.....I still have the chiped tooth to remind me of that very friightful night.

Back then there was no police reports ...so I was lucky ....But when I put my tougue up to feel that small chip in my tooth.....I remember to hold my anger and respect people ...no matter how thay may act toward me.

I hope your son has "a chiped tooth" from his encounter to help him remember :eek:

Carry On,

Thanks Eyes, "boys will be boys" is not allowed anymore. They will arrest you for anything they can in certain states and Florida is one of them. Of course I want to hold my son accountable, but the fact that he could face jail time and now has a police record sucks. We are hoping to get him into a 6month E.V.E. program...end violence early, in which his record would be dropped if he completes it successfully. The problem is he goes to boarding school...so the logistics of this are going to be difficult. Geez, pass the Xanax
:dizzy: Luckygem